Anal Training and Stretching with A Butt Plug

If you intend to use a plug to stretch those ass muscles out so that anal sex is a little more comfortable, one of the best ways to do this is by using this toy.

Over time, butt plugs will stretch out the anal muscles so that by the time you have sex, the muscles will be relaxed enough to ensure that sex is comfortable.

Best of all, you can do this without it being painful or uncomfortable, especially if you follow a few simple rules.


The anal muscles are naturally very tight but there are several reasons why people want them stretched out some. In addition to preparing for anal sex, you may just want to enjoy some butt plug fun to add a little more sexual stimulation to your life. Wearing a butt plug lets you experience different layers of pleasurable sensation. No wonder why even those who are vanilla are curious as to what a butt plug feels like.

Other people may want to prepare the anus for fisting or for thick dildos and extra-large dildos so the reasons for anal stretching are multi-faceted. Whatever your reason - even to try a fist dildo - stretching out those anal muscles doesn’t have to be uncomfortable for you as long as you do it slowly, especially with big sex toys.

The anus has several layers of muscles, including the sphincter muscles, which is the tightest part of the rectum. This is one of the main reasons why when you’re stretching out the anal muscles, you want to take your time, go slowly, and never expect it to happen overnight.

Using butt plug training kits each day and inserting it even further into the anus a little more each time is a great way to relax and stretch those muscles but it may still take a while to get them as relaxed as you want them to be.

In this regard, try different sex toys to help you get to your desired stretch. Huge fantasy dildos and dragon dildos, for example, not only add an imaginative element to your training but also stimulate you with their unique shapes. For a fuller sensation, try a giant dildo. For a heavier sensation, try metal butt plugs. For a natural feel that warms to your body temperature - try silicone butt plugs. But if it's that gaping feel that you are aiming for, opt for hollow butt plugs. Proceed with caution though, as huge dildos and toys need training and time to get comfortable with. And always remember that the type of material is important as well—if you prefer comfort and body safety, go for a silicone dildo. Alternatively, a glass dildo is smooth and extremely firm.


People love anal stretching for numerous reasons but perhaps one of the biggest reasons is that all types of anal sex play are still considered forbidden or taboo in many ways, which naturally lends some excitement to this type of activity.

And anal sex play is no longer an activity just for gay men because nowadays both men and women of all sexual orientations want those anal muscles stretched out so that they can enjoy some anal stimulation.

Men enjoy anal stretching because they can prepare the anus for stimulating the prostate gland, which many experts agree is the same thing as stimulating the G-spot in a woman.

Women like anal stretching because it is erotic and titillating and many of them claim that anal sexual activity provides them with some of the best orgasms they’ve ever had.

If you stretch out the anus properly and over time, you’ll likely be surprised by how it feels because most people claim that it is one of their favorite things in the bedroom.

Indeed, taking your time while stretching out the anal muscles is very stimulating, in part because many people love the challenge of being able to insert the butt plug even further each time that they play with it.

This activity can even become similar to setting a goal for yourself; each time that the muscles stretch out a little more, you can get a little more sexual stimulation during playtime.

Anal sexual activity of all types is quite exciting for both men and women and the more that your anal muscles are stretched out, the more enjoyable the activity becomes.


The anus is a very sensitive part of the body so if you’re interested in stretching out those anal muscles, you’ll need to make sure that you do it safely.

What does this mean? You can safely participate in stretching and any other type of anal activity if you follow two very important rules. These rules are:

  • Use a lot of lube each and every time you participate in any type of anal sexual activity.
  • When stretching out the anal muscles, go very slowly and always take your time.

The anus does not self-lubricate as the vagina does, which means that lube is an absolute necessity not just the first time but every single time that you participate in any type of anal activity, including stretching.

If the manufacturer of the toy you’re using recommends a certain type of lube, always use that particular type.

Otherwise, most butt plugs work well with both water-based and silicone-based lubes with the exception of silicone plugs, which usually require a water-based lube.

Going slowly is also recommended with stretching, anal sex, and using a butt plug and dildo. Keep in mind that if done correctly, this type of activity should never be painful even though it might be slightly uncomfortable in the beginning, especially for big dildos.

If you’re stretching your anal muscles and experience extreme pain, inflammation, or bleeding, you should stop immediately because this could signal that there is another problem occurring.

You can also start out by using your finger to explore your anus before trying it with a butt plug. If you are planning to use a dildo instead, make sure to learn how to use anal dildos first as it offers a totally different experience. Regardless of the activity you’re interested in, keep in mind the two rules listed above and never sway from either of them.

Following these rules ensures that the activity is going to be safe and won’t tear or rip delicate tissues in the anal area, making it much more comfortable for you in the long run.


When stretching out the anal muscles, many people are concerned that the more they stretch and relax those muscles, the looser the muscles will become.

This is only partially true, however, because once the anal muscles stretch to a certain point, they cannot stretch any further.

This is good news for people who love anal sexual stimulation because let’s face it; anal activity is a lot more fun when the muscles are stretched out but still a little on the tight side.

It is also easy to know when the anal muscles are as stretched out as they can be because there will no longer be a challenge associated with stretching out those muscles.

Inserting a butt plug and even participating in anal sex will be a lot more comfortable for you without those muscles becoming too loose.

How long does this take? The amount of time varies from person to person but it is easy to know exactly when the muscles are completely stretched out and ready to move onto your next anal sexual activity!

One thing is certain, however. This process always takes time so be prepared for it to happen slowly and over a period of weeks, maybe even months.

It may not always take that long but it could so you need to be patient and allow yourself some time to “complete” your stretching exercises.

Of course, it is also a lot of fun to go through this process so you’ll be enjoying every minute of it while it is happening!


Stretching your anal muscles is time-consuming but fun, especially if you take it slowly and revel in each step that is involved. Here are some steps you should take before, during, and after your stretching exercises:

    • Go to the bathroom and try to have a bowel movement. A clean anus is a lot easier to work with and it makes the activity a lot more comfortable as well.
    • Roughly three to four hours before you begin your stretching, use an anal douche or enema. This allows you to completely clean out your system, which, again, will make the stretching more comfortable.
    • When using your douche, make sure that the water is slightly warm or room temperature, not too hot or too cold. This will ensure that you finish using the entire container of douche and therefore clean yourself out the way that is recommended.
    • Place some lube both inside the anus and on the toy you’re going to use, whether that toy is a butt plug or your finger. And remember that the more lube you use, the easier the activity will be.
    • Insert the smallest end of the butt plug first and only insert it as far as possible without it becoming uncomfortable or painful. In the beginning, you may only be able to insert it half an inch or so but that is still a great start.
  • Each day, try inserting the butt plug just a little more and don’t worry if it takes longer than you thought it would. Eventually, you will reach your goal and it will all be worth it.
  • If you feel irritation or pain at any point, try reapplying the lube. Water-based lube in particular absorbs very quickly so you may have to keep adding it at any point during the activity.
  • If you ever feel a lot of pain or experience bleeding, stop immediately because this is usually an indication that something is wrong.
  • When you’ve gone as far as you can, always remember to remove the butt plug in the same manner as you did when you inserted it; in other words, do it very slowly.
  • When you’re a beginner, try to wait two to three days in between your stretching sessions; you can decrease that time once you get more used to it.

You should also start out with a very small butt plug because you want to get used to using one of these devices a little at a time. Once you get used to a small butt plug, you can easily move up to a bigger one after a time; again, there is no hurry to do so. You may also just go for inflatable butt plugs so you can control the stretch more easily.


After any type of activity with a butt plug, you’ll need to take good care of yourself and rest up a lot. The anal muscles can take from three to six hours to get back to their original condition so treating yourself nicely is a great way to allow them to “come down” properly.

This means doing whatever you normally do when you’re trying to enjoy some good R&R time. Read a book, listen to some music, lie down for a bit, or have a glass of wine -- anything that allows your body to rest up physically will work.

With any type of anal sexual activity, including stretching, many people wonder if the use of numbing lubricants is a good idea.

Depending on where your research leads you, the answers could vary but here are some things that you should know about these lubricants. First of all, most numbing lubricants are either sprays or some type of gel and they work almost immediately.

They are good because they make anal sex and butt plug insertion less painful but is this always a smart idea?

The anus is filled with very sensitive nerve endings, which is why anal sex play is so much fun, but you can also damage the anus if you aren’t careful.

If you are too numbed up, you can cause damage to the anal muscles without even being aware of it and this is never a good thing.

Fortunately, most of these numbing lubes absorb quickly so if any problems do arise, you should be able to tell quickly.

The bottom line is that, although numbing lube is a good idea, you shouldn’t use too much of it in the beginning because pain and discomfort is very often a sign that you’re overdoing it, especially if you’re a newbie to this type of activity.

Go ahead and use the numbing lube but use it sparingly. You can always use more of it later on when you’re more experienced and your anal muscles are more stretched out and relaxed.

Remember that anal activity is meant to be fun and to feel good. If you’re starting with stretching out and relaxing the anal muscles, you can have a much easier time if you follow a few simple rules.

And once you have a better grasp of the basics, venture out and explore other ways you can enjoy anal play. Experimenting with kinks like bondage play might just enhance your senses and make anal training more pleasurable for you. Add bdsm handcuffs, bondage bars, and spreader bars into your arsenal and get your anal muscles stretched in a kinky way!

Regardless of the reasons why you are needing those muscles stretched, it is good to know that accomplishing this goal isn’t as difficult as some people might think.