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What is BDSM?
BDSM is an umbrella term for a whole host of sexual fetishes and fantasies. Each fetish will have it’s own specific practises, and may fall under one or more of the branches of BDSM. These branches are:
- Bondage
- Dominance and Submission
- Sadism and Masochism
You may only want to explore one of these branches, or maybe all of them. Either way, there’s plenty of great sex toys to help you along your journey.
Bondage
The practise of restricting your partner’s movement during sex is commonly referred to as bondage. Most often, this is done with bondage ropes, but there are many other kinds of restrictive equipment available such as spreader bars, anal hooks, handcuffs and bondage masks.
Through carefully positioning of both toys and ropes, you can place your partner in a variety of positions. Some people simply enjoy the feeling of restriction and loss of control, being totally at the mercy of their partner. Others enjoy the difficult decisions posed by predicament bondage, a practise which gives someone two choices: a more comfortable but more painful position, or a less comfortable and less painful position.
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Dominance and Submission
A relatively simple branch of BDSM, dominance and submission explores the idea of one partner taking a more dominant, controlling or authoritative role in the sexual relationship, while the other is more submissive and subservient.
Nearly every sexual relationship will have this dynamic to some degree, and the roles are often very fluid. The most common example of this is the decision of who will go on top, as the one on top has the most control over sex.
When we dive deeper into the world of dominance and submission, things can get much more exciting. Toys like cock cages, strap ons, mouth gags, collars, or even vibrators can all be used as tools to help one partner assert dominance over the other.
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- How To Unleash Your Inner Dominant
- How To Be The Perfect Submissive For Your Dominant
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Sadism and Masochism
More adventurous couples may wish to explore sadism and masochism, the final branch of BDSM. Sexual play involving sadism or masochism takes some of the ideas we’ve already explored and cranks them up to eleven.
Those who enjoy sadism take sexual pleasure in inflicting pain or humiliation on their partner, while masochists take sexual pleasure from experiencing pain or humiliation. When a sadist and a masochist get together, it’s truly a match made in heaven.
For these brave explorers, the sex toys may look strange and unusual, but there’s still plenty of options. Cock and ball torture toys, nipple clamps, penis plugs or even genital piercings can all play their part in the sexual humiliation of a lover.
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Mixing and Matching BDSM
You may have already realized, but it’s very rare that any sexual play will fall entirely under only one branch of BDSM. When restricting your partner with bondage, you will also be taking on a dominant role in the encounter. When a man’s penis is locked up in a cage, he’ll be taking on a submissive role as well as being humiliated.
How far you delve into each branch is entirely up to you, but don’t be afraid to experiment!
Staying Safe
When you start exploring this kind of play, the single most important thing is safety. Many of these toys and practises can be dangerous if used incorrectly. There are two things your should always have before starting: consent and a safe word.
Consent is simple enough. Don’t do anything or use any toys without your partner’s express permission. You might think they’d like to be slapped or strangled while they’re tied up, but they might not. Discuss in advance what’s allowed, and what’s off limits so you both know where you stand.
Safe words are also very simple. These are one or more words that both (or all) partners agree on before sexual play begins. They should be words that you won’t commonly use during sex, such as pineapple, orangutan or Zimbabwe. During your play, if either partner says the safe word you stop immediately. This gives everyone involved a quick and easy way to say that they need a break, or the play has gone too far.
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