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Sex Toys for Couples
If you think sex toys are nothing more than an addition to a lone rider’s sex life, you should think again. The sexy gadgets have gone far from compensating or acting as a self-pleasuring sidekick. Yes, adult toys are handy in those cold lonely nights (or short, horny lunch breaks). But, they are not just for masturbation. They’re great to bring into the bedroom too. Indeed, sex toys can help you hit new levels (and some unexpected spots) when you use them with your significant other.
Whoever you’re having sex with, there are couples’ sex toys that will satisfy your needs. It doesn’t end with silk cuffs, dildos, and cock rings. The market today is wild and blossoming, so it offers a variety of sex toys. Some of them are designed specifically for group play. We can say that deep thoughts about human anatomy (pun intended) were put into their creation.
There are a lot of devices to choose from, and you can use most of them in many ways. It all comes down to your creativity and openness for exploration. What’s more, these little helpers are not only orgasm chasers. They are also a great way to make things fun and exciting, increase intimacy, and improve your sex-related communication.
If we’ve tickled your imagination, read on to find about some of the best-selling options in the adult toys market. We’ve also added some suggestions on how to use couples’ sex toys to improve your overall sexperience.
Why Couples Should Use Sex Toys
The internet is full of advice on how to please your partner, reach orgasm, or better your performance in bed. And it’s good to stay in the know. But, if you could reach that wisdom through play, why not give that a try? The adult sex toy industry has been developing rapidly with more and more brilliant, safe, and healthy ways to ensure climax. So, why not harvest those rich crops of culminated knowledge?
Take a step back and think about it. Who on earth would want their sex to remain the same old routine, no matter how awesome? Trying new things together should not be taboo, even for the least adventurous couples. But, that’s not all when it comes to sex toys. Because research shows they hide many other benefits for the playful.
It’s All About Communication
Sexual exploration with your partner can help you develop a more intimate and shared sexual experience. Nothing brings a couple closer than moving past (at least some) barriers in sex. You learn more about your partner’s body, their erogenous spots, and their fantasies. You enter the area where frustrations can end, and orgasms can multiply. That feeling of freedom is priceless, and it pays off in increased intimacy and a healthier relationship. And, bringing toys into the picture is one (fun) way of making that happen.
Also, using a toy is a good way to improve communication (and not only about sex). Research shows that couples who use toys communicate more in the bedroom since they tend to guide each other during intercourse. When you talk openly during (and after) sex, you can learn more about what your bodies need, what they feel, and what they can do. That, in turn, leads to better sex because you finally know which buttons — even literally — you need to push.
Maybe couples who generally communicate more openly about their sex life are also more into things like toys. Whatever the case is, the conclusion is the same. Those who feel free to talk about what pleases them are more likely to be satisfied. And that leads to improved sexual and overall confidence.
Bet you never imagined a vibrator could serve as a couples therapist?
Introducing the Toy
The first (and probably the most common) obstacle to introducing a sex toy into your bedroom is “The Talk”. A sex gadget is not something you pull out from under the pillow without previously consulting the other person. However, it might not be as easy to bring it up to your partner. They might think you are not happy with how things are (that is, with their performance in the sack). Nothing screams “problem” louder than “Honey, how about we use a dildo?” But, it doesn’t have to be that way (or, rather, it shouldn’t).
First of all, the most important thing is to abandon your ego trips and misconceptions about sex toys. And this includes what YOU think your partner’s opinion about them is. Sure, they might not be into exploring at all. But, then again, if they are, it could open a whole new world of intimate exploration.
Talk to your partner about using the toys, but do not do it while in the bedroom (especially not after sex). Tell them why you think it could benefit both of you. Introducing a helpful gadget does not mean anyone is insufficient or less potent to take their beloved to the high peaks of joy. On the contrary, using the toys proves you’re willing to experiment beyond the usual. And that willingness is rewarded by some bonus pleasures.
Toys Designed Specifically for Couples
If you’re looking for the best sex toys for couples, the options will leave you in awe. The classic items are still, well, classic, but the sex toy market is not just about penis-shaped dildos and basic cock rings (these still work wonders, though). There are many toys you can wear or use during sex to help both of you hit the big O.
Toys can introduce variety and add dynamics to your sack sessions, depending, of course, on your affinities and your usual sexual routine. Many of these gadgets are designed specifically for certain gender relationships. But, you can use them creatively or combine them with other items. And don’t forget to lube things up, to make things smoother and injury-free.
Cuffs, Swings, and Ramps
Sometimes all you need to spice your sex life up is to accessorize. Are you into role play or a bit of BDSM? No problem! The market has a variety of products to choose from. From fluffy cuffs and nipple clamps to full bondage assemblage, you can whip your way to your sexy dominion. And, if you’re into acrobatics and have room for more elaborate installments, you can always go for the sex swing.
But, those in the eternal quest for the P and G spots know that the secret to achieving the oh-so-good thing is the right position. That’s where ramps make the champs. The sex furniture is awesome because it gives you comfort while putting you in the right place at the right time. The sex positions with couples’ sex toys might not make you a twister champion, but they will ensure deeper penetration and inspire diversity. Be it ramps, pillows, or benches, these crafty items will do the math so you can do the physics more efficiently. And they will save you from the pains and sprains earned in the heat of the moment.
When it comes to using gadgets, though, most of us think you have to take turns in using them. However, the best sex toys for couples can serve both parties at the same time. The most popular models on the market don’t have to be held and sought for during intercourse. They are also perfectly anatomical, safe, and comfortable to use.
Vibrators designed for couples work based on simultaneous stimulation. They are usually positioned in a way to make both partners feel the effects of the vibrations. The shapes and sizes are numerous, but all fit well and do the job without getting in the way. Couples massagers, for instance, are placed between the labia to deliver the same sensation to both partners, in whatever position.
A male version of a vibrator, the vibrating cock ring, is another handy gadget for sex explorers. The standard ring’s purpose is to restrict the blood flow to the penis, which makes for longer and stronger erections. However, the newer models add a little something extra by including vibration, which stimulates both partners at the same time.
A further upgrade, the rabbit cock ring, is an all-in-one product, as a combination of a clitoral massager and a cock based stimulant. Vibrating cock rings come with different speed and intensity options. Thus, they make you the boss of how hard and fast things swirl, turning your manhood into an orgasm machine.
Toys Couples Can Use
Though there are many couples sex toys, you still might wanna check your drawers for the “normal” sex toy. You’re looking for clitoral stimulation, anal or vaginal penetrative sex, or those special-spot hitters? A basic toy can serve you as well as any elaborate couples-only invention. You can take turns or work on each other as foreplay, or you can use the toy during sex for additional stimulation.
From old-school to modern, from realistic to futuristic vibrators, these handy gizmos are a welcome buzz in both solo acts and couples sex. The good vibes come in many forms, to suit your affinity, activity, and even visual taste.
The smallest of them are finger vibes that will make your touch magical. They’re easy to use on any part of your body and on any occasion. Just slip them on and switch to superhuman satisfier mode.
Of course, dildos are a good way to start with toy exploration, since they can be used for penetration and stimulation by one or both partners. They come in many shapes, forms, and materials, targeting some or all your sensitive spots. A dildo might serve as a part of foreplay or teasing if your partner is into watching. But once you’re relaxed enough to grab it during sex, you might discover its full potential.
Another popular product on the market is the magic wand. Initially, magic wands were introduced as massagers that were supposed to relieve muscle pain and tension. But, it didn’t take long for them to travel downstairs and find the spots that ached the most.
Interestingly, some of the best vibrators today don’t even look like sex toys. They more resemble some futuristic art pieces. However, they deliver strong and targeted vibes and pulses to take you to the next level of delight.
Finally, thanks to some considerate people in the sex toy industry, men now have their version of a perfect masturbator — the Tenga egg. But, what could make the egg even more desirable? Answer: your partner working it! So, don’t be lazy, and take that gadget in your hands to give your SO an out-of-this-world handjob.
Butt plugs are another way to get that extra stimulation before or during intercourse. Their main purpose is to enhance your sexual experience by stimulating the anal nerve endings. Some anal sex toys come with a vibrating option for the added tease.
You can use the plugs as practice for anal sex, double penetration, or even while masturbating. If you’re a beginner in anal sex, there are different kits on the market. Some of them are an assortment of plugs in different sizes and shapes, so you can gradually work your way up to a suitable size. Most plugs have narrow tips for easy insertion and suction cups, so they don’t get lost up there.
Long-Distance Sex Toys
If you’re in a long-distance relationship or planning a prolonged trip away from your darling, the new sex gadgetry will have you covered. You might be into more traditional methods of talking dirty over the phone. But, many of the new adult sex toys come with remote control options that will change the way you imagine long-distance sex. These toys are usually connected via Bluetooth, apps, or a wireless network. Based on the idea of teledildonics, and thanks to the benefits of technology, they keep the intimacy going even with miles between you and your beloved.
An example of such a successful merge between technology and pleasure is one of the most thoughtful couple’s vibrators on the market. It is the C-shaped vibe that stimulates you both internally and externally. It works on both the G-spot and the clit and sends the vibes to the partner who’s penetrating. This super toy is an adjustable part vibrator-part app. It has a remote control function so you or your partner can manage it via a remote controller or application. That means it can be used both as a long-distance sex toy and as a way to put you in control of your partner’s longasms (whether you’re there or away).
If you’re looking for really portable gadgets that are controlled from afar, you can go for several wearable devices with remote options. These are slipped into underwear or a vagina to be worn whenever you choose. Then, by using an app, your partner can take you for an early ride before the evening rendezvous in the bedroom.
Now you have several reasons to bring toys into your bedroom. You’ll up your time in the sack with your significant other, while also getting to know what makes them tick. The sex stores hold many toys that can trigger and deliver your wildest fantasies. Whatever you end up choosing, feel free to experiment with it. Don’t let this introduction to couples sex toys limit your imagination.
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