Two Heads are Better Than One: How to Use a Double Headed Dildo

Most people who add sex toys into their bedroom life do so because they want more.


More what, you ask? More pleasure. More orgasms. More penetration. More stimulation. More positions. More options. More ways to explore their sensual and sexual preferences, whether alone or with a partner. More ways to make themselves and those they are attracted to feel as amazing as possible.


And what sex toy better represents that idea of "more" than the double-headed dildo?


After all, the double-headed dildo is practically built around the concept of "more". It's bigger, longer, and often thicker than the average dildo. Rather than one single penis-inspired head, it has two, one on each end. Both ends, of course, can be safely and effectively used for penetration. Plus, double headed dildos can be used in so many exciting and wonderful ways.  


You can use one by yourself. You can use one with a partner. You can train yourself to accept deeper and more intense thrusting experiences, perfectly rubbing against your G-spot or prostate each time. You can practice your oral sex skills. You can tickle your clitoris or the head of your penis with one end while the other is speared deep within your most sensitive areas. You can try out double penetration and feel more stuffed - and more satisfied - than you ever have before.


You can go vagina-to-vagina, vagina-to-anus or even anus-to-anus. You can try out so many positions, from spread eagled on your back to the ever classic doggy style. You can even, if you're careful, use a double headed dildo as a harness-less substitute for a strap-on, and take on the dominant role in the bedroom as you penetrate your partner. 

In short, if there's something sexual you want to experience, it's very likely that you can do it with a double-headed dildo. They are an amazing, flexible, versatile addition to any kinkster's sex toy collection.


However, the unfortunate truth is this: many newbies, and even some veteran sex toy enthusiasts, take a look at the sheer size and intense appearance of the double-headed dildo and get scared away.


So many people who would probably end up loving these fantastic toys never even purchase one or try one out because they're not quite sure how to use one properly, or they think it could never possibly fit, or they're not sure if they (or their partner) would even like double penetration at all. 


Luckily, the folks at Lovegasm are here and ready to help!


This article will teach you all that you need to know about double headed dildos, from the best positions to use one in to how to keep it clean and store it properly after each session in bed.


After reading through this helpful guide, we hope that you will have the confidence and adventurous spirit to purchase one of the amazing double-headed models we currently offer for sale in our catalog. So what are you waiting for? Let's dive in to an exploration of a toy that truly encompasses the sex toy enthusiast's desire for "more"! 

What Is A Double-Headed Dildo?

A double-headed dildo is, pretty much, exactly what its name suggests: a sex toy which features a penis-shaped protrusion on either end. It differs in this way from the standard definition of a dildo, which has only one head, on the end meant for penetration, and then a base which is used to hold the dildo steady or, in the case of suction cup dildos, possibly to attach it to various items or locations around your house.


When it comes to the double-headed dildo, on the other hand, both heads can be safely and pleasurably used for penetrative sexual play.


A lot of variation exists within the wider category of "double-headed dildo". One way in which they vary, for example, is shape. Some double-headed dildos are long and completely vertical. These are intended to be used by two people at once, with each person putting one head in one of their body's holes. 


Others are bent at the center and formed into what is often described as a "crescent moon" or "U-shape". While this type can, with a little flexibility and a lot of experimentation, be shared between partners, it is primarily meant for use by a single person during a masturbation session.


Women can use the toy to penetrate themselves both vaginally and anally at the same time, or alternately rub one end of the dildo against their clit while only one of the heads is inside them. Men can pair anal penetration with stimulation of the head of their own penis, especially if one or both ends of the dildo has vibration capabilities. 

Of course, double-headed dildos are capable of varying in size as well. Like more standard dildos, their circumference - also referred to as "girth" or "thickness" - can range from just under an inch, perfectly suited for beginners, to over two inches, designed just for those who can't get enough of the pleasurable burning sensation of having their walls stretched to the absolute maximum.


However, it is in their length that double-headed dildos truly shine. Of course, a double-header needs to be much longer than a standard dildo, so that each partner or hole has a good several inches of insertable length to enjoy - usually at least 5 inches is recommended, with 6-8 inches not being uncommon for those who really love some deep penetration.


As a result, even a "small" double-headed dildo is easily a foot long, with a foot and a half (18 inches) or even a full two feet (24 inches) not being unheard of either. If you want to experiment and see just how deep your body can take a toy, or you just need something which can be counted on to consistently hit your G-spot or prostate just right, then a double-headed dildo is absolutely perfect for you. 


When discussing the variations possible with a double-headed dildo, we cannot neglect the heads themselves. Like standard dildos, double-headed dildos can vary from "realistic" - flesh tones, molded heads and veins - to "fantasy" - curved and twisted shapes, ridges, beads or knots for texture, tips specifically designed to rub against sensitive spots.


However, a double-headed dildo can do what other types of dildo cannot: it can satisfy your craving for something real and for something a little more fantastic all at once. 

Some double-headed dildos do in fact feature two identical heads of the same size, shape and color; these generally tend to be more realistic and resemble a flesh and blood penis quite closely. However, other double-headers instead utilize two distinct and in fact quite dissimilar heads in order to provide two unique and distinct penetrative experiences.


These can range from two realistic heads of differing sizes to one realistic and one fantastical head to two completely different shaped and textured heads which do not resemble a real life penis in the slightest.


Aside from the realistic penis design, common heads include ones which feature a series of ridges for pleasure, ones which take the shape of a string of beads (similar to the anal bead toy - read more here!) and curved ones which are intended to make locating the G-spot or prostate as simple and hassle-free as possible.


It's also not uncommon to find U-shaped or bendable models which feature one thicker, blunter head meant for the vagina and one longer, thinner head meant for the anus, so that both types of penetration can be enjoyed to the absolute fullest - pun completely intended! 

The Many Uses Of The Double-Headed Dildo

Regardless of its size, shape or design, a double-headed dildo is a versatile toy which can be used to bring yourself and your partner pleasure in so many different ways. In fact, if we took the time to talk about every single way in which a double-headed dildo can be used in the bedroom, we'd be here all day and this page would look more like a novel than an article! 


Instead, we're going to focus on providing you with some helpful tips and tricks for the most common uses of a double-headed dildo. Our goal is to help you learn how to use these unique, wonderful toys to bring yourself (and anyone else you invite into your bed) the greatest amount of pleasure and the most satisfying orgasms possible!

Solo Play

If you're going to use a double-headed dildo during your masturbation sessions, you should purchase either a design which comes bent into a U-shape or a flexible design which can be shaped into the configuration you desire. While the long, straight, stiff model of the double-headed dildo can certainly be used in solo situations, you are fairly limited to using it like a standard dildo and penetrating only one of your holes at once.


A U-shaped or flexible dildo, on the other hand, allows you to experiment both with double penetration and with penetrating yourself while stimulating other sensitive parts such as the clitoris or the head or underside of the penis.


Before going all in and shoving the dildo into both of your holes, however, we recommend first taking some time to get used to your new toy. Try a few solo sessions where you focus on one hole over the other. Why is this an important step to include? you're probably asking yourself right about now.


Well, of course, it's to figure out which head feels better where! Many women find that they have a strong preference for one of the heads in their vagina and a different one in the anus, while others have less specific tastes and enjoy switching things up every so often.  

Take care, though - you should always clean each head of your dildo thoroughly, including spraying or washing it with antibacterial sex toy cleaner, before switching between the vagina and the anus. The reason for this is that bacteria found in the anus can cause irritation, itching, and even infection when introduced into the delicate environment of the vagina.


 You might even find that one head only fits properly in one particular hole, or that one feels excellent rubbing against your clitoris (or cockhead, for men) but doesn't quite do it for you inside. In short, a little experimentation will help you to figure out all the best ways to use your new toy to bring yourself the most pleasure possible.


Solo play with a double-headed dildo can be done in a variety of positions.


You can lie down on your back or stomach and penetrate yourself, you can sit on top of the dildo and ride it, you can get on your hands and knees for some doggy style action, or you can even get busy in front of a mirror so you can watch the two heads thrusting in and out of you as expressions of pleasure and ecstasy form on your face.


Here again, experimentation is a great option - figure out what works best for you by trying out lots of different positions! 

Partner Play

It might initially seem like using a double-headed dildo together with your partner offers much fewer options, as it involves two people, two bodies, and potentially two very different sets of holes and preferences for how those holes like to be penetrated. However, we are happy to report that that is absolutely not the truth - there are so many different ways that you and your partner can use a double-headed dildo to bring pleasure to the both of you!

If partner play is your primary interest, we recommend purchasing either a completely straight double-headed dildo or one which can be bent and positioned in multiple shapes and configurations.


While the "U-shaped" double-header can, with a little flexibility and creative positioning, be used by two people at once, they are more generally designed for solo play and may be a little uncomfortable when multiple players are involved. After all, you want to end your sex sessions feeling pleased and satisfied, not sore and experiencing muscle cramps all over your body, right?


As suggested in the "Solo Play" section above, it is strongly suggested that both partners take a little bit of time to get to know their new toy on their own before any dual-action sessions involving the both of you. 


The primary reason for this is that different people have different preferences, and it is important for everyone involved to figure out what they like so that they can get as much pleasure as possible out of the experience.


So, you should each take the toy to bed separately to learn exactly what you like. For example, one person might find out that one head is a bit too large for them, while they can easily accept the other, while a different individual might find that they enjoy switching things up regularly.


Experimentation is especially important if the double-headed dildo is being used by a lesbian couple, because four holes are involved (technically six, if you count mouths!) and what kind of penetration each person likes in each hole might turn out to vary greatly. 

Again as mentioned above, always make sure to clean off both heads of your dildo thoroughly after each experimentation session. Yes, this does include times when it has only been used for vaginal penetration. As this dildo is designed to penetrate the bodies of at least two different people, it should be kept immaculately clean to avoid the transmission of bacteria and potentially even disease between users.


While many dildo materials, such as stainless steel and glass, can be safely sterilized by immersing them in boiling water, we strongly recommend investing in a powerful antibacterial cleaner if you intend to make a double-headed dildo a regular part of your sex life.


When the time comes to try out the double-headed dildo together, we strongly suggest starting out with a position that involves the two of you facing one another.


This might be both of you standing up or kneeling on a bed, or it might be one partner lying down on their back while the other sits or lies on top of them depending on which they find more comfortable. We recommend sticking to these positions during the initial few sessions because they allow you both to maintain communication - you can not only easily hear each other speak and pick up on the noises you are making, but you can keep an eye on your partner's face to make sure that they are enjoying themselves and are not experiencing any discomfort or pain.


This is helpful as you both are adjusting to the new toy and are figuring out what kind of motions and positions can successfully make you feel good and bring you to orgasm. 

Once you've gotten comfortable with forward-facing positions and are ready to try something new, another great option is to go back to back (or "butt to butt" as it is sometimes more colloquially known) for double doggy style penetration action.


Keep in mind, however, that back-to-back positions tend to work best when both partners are being penetrated anally, although mixed anal and vaginal penetration may be possible with a long enough or flexible enough dildo. This position allows you both to experience deep penetration as you move and thrust against each other.


If you want to look your partner in the eye or talk to them more easily while engaging in double doggy, you can set up mirrors on either side of the bed (or floor, or tub, or whatever part of your house you happen to be using at the time) that you can look into to see your partner's face as they reach the point of ecstasy.


Definitely try shaking things up and don't always limit yourselves to mere double penetration.


There are so many ways in which you and your partner can enjoy a double-headed dildo in the bedroom together. For example, one of you can be penetrated by one head while the other performs simulated oral sex on the other one.


A man can penetrate his partner with his penis while the dildo is shoved up another hole and the free head is used either to penetrate his ass or to stimulate other bodily "hot spots". If the double-headed dildo is of the flexible variety, a woman can penetrate both of her holes at once while her partner teases her breasts, clitoris or other sensitive areas.


As we'll discuss later in this article, some double headed dildos can even be paired with a harness to become a strap-on - or even be used without one. The options are quite literally endless! 

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Some double-headed dildos - most frequently the straight and bendable varieties - are compatible with harnesses and can be used as strap-ons, although typically only if they are worn by women. This works by inserting the dildo through the O-ring or other opening in the harness so that one head penetrates the wearer's vagina while the other can be used on whichever hole their partner prefers.


If you wish to use your double-headed dildo for these purposes, we recommend doing a little bit of research before making your final purchase. You need to know, for example, which types of harness the dildo will be compatible with and what size O-ring it will require in order to fit, especially because double-headed dildos often tend to feature a slightly larger girth than their more standard single-headed counterparts.


There also exists a specific, unique type of double-headed dildo which is most commonly referred to as the "strapless strap-on". (Confusingly, it is also sometimes called the "double dildo," although here at Lovegasm, we tend to avoid using that term because of its similarity with the wider "double-headed dildo" category, often making it quite difficult to establish the difference between the two types of product).


It is specifically designed to be worn by a woman - or any other individual with a vagina - and allow the wearer to penetrate their partner without needing to invest in or wear any kind of harness in order to do so. 


Strapless strap-ons can almost always be recognized by their distinctive design, which sets them apart even from other, more general types of double-headed dildos. They typically feature the crescent moon or "U" shape, so that the penis-shaped part will rest against the pubic bone of the wearer (in as similar a location as possible to where a flesh and blood penis might attach) while the other side is deep inside them.


Said "other side" also will generally NOT resemble a realistic penis. Instead, it will be shorter and thicker, more similar in shape to a butt plug. The purpose of this unique shape is to keep the dildo as steady as possible within the vagina and minimize any risk of it falling out during penetration.


The "vaginal plug" may also have a slightly curved shape in order to best be able to stimulate the wearer's G-spot during intercourse. It may also vibrate, be ribbed or ridged for her pleasure, or feature forks called "rabbit ears" which tickle the clitoris during penetration. 

The most important thing to know about using a double-headed dildo to penetrate your partner is that it is a skill. There is no harness to hold the dildo steady - everything from the angle of your hips to the movement and pace of your thrusts must be controlled by the wearer.


In addition, penetrating your partner requires the use of muscles which might not see a lot of use, especially if you aren't very experienced with wearing a strap-on in bed. Because of these issues, your first few sessions with a brand new strapless strap-on might turn out frustrating rather than pleasurable, as you might feel the it constantly slipping out of your vagina or your partner's body might accidentally try to "grip" or "pull" on the penis-shaped part of the dildo, especially if they are being penetrated anally (due to the presence of the strong anal sphincter, which is capable of "clenching" down extremely tightly.)


However, we strongly urge you not to give up or despair just because you might have one or two disappointing experiences. True, using a strapless strap-on to penetrate your partner might seem difficult or even impossible at first, but there are a number of things you can do to make it much easier and more satisfying for the both of you.


Like we said in the section above - it's a skill, and that means that, like any other skill from cooking to playing soccer to underwater basket weaving, it can be trained. (And, of course, if you still want to bring this toy into your bedroom during your period of practice, most strapless strap-ons can safely and comfortably be used with a harness just as more standard, single-headed strap-ons can.) 


There are two methods which a person can employ in order to improve their ability to use a strapless strap-on to penetrate their partner. The first is quite simple: practice, practice, practice.


The more you get used to the feeling of the dildo inside you - where it sits, where it hangs, how it feels against your insides - and which muscle groups you need to use to make it move in certain ways, the easier it will become to put it to effective use in bed. 

We recommend carrying out these practice sessions outside of the bedroom. (You can try this out either by yourself or with your partner watching or assisting, depending on which alternative makes you feel more comfortable.)


First, just try inserting the dildo a few times and spending a little time with it inside of you to get used to the feeling.


Then, try moving around a bit. Go for a walk around your bedroom. Do some stretches or yoga poses. Jog in place. Although it may feel a bit silly at first, we also suggest mimicking the hip-thrusting or rotating motions which you will be employing during penetrative sex with your partner, as they will help you be able to establish the rhythms that you will need during the actual act.


Your second option is to focus on exercising and strengthening the specific muscles which are used to hold the dildo inside of your body.


The muscles of the vagina and the surrounding area are collectively known as the "pubococcygyneal" muscle group, but are much more commonly referred to as your "pelvic floor" or your "Kegel" muscle group. They are in fact capable of being one of the strongest muscle groups in the body - unsurprising, given that they are actively responsible for tasks such as pushing a baby out of a woman's uterus during the birthing process! 


Don't be surprised if you haven't ever given thought to exercising your Kegel muscles before - or even if you've never heard of them to begin with!


The pelvic floor isn’t commonly talked about outside of conversations with a gynecologist or other specialist, and, of course, Kegel strengthening exercises are not going to be a part of the average workout routine that you go through when you hit the gym. In fact, you don't even need to go to the gym to strengthen your kegels (not that most gyms would even feature equipment which would have any effect on them, anyway).


Pelvic floor exercises can be effectively and comfortably completed in the safety and privacy of your own home! 

Our ultra-informative site just so happens to feature a guide specifically dedicated to introducing you to some common Kegel exercises which can be performed at home.


In this article, we introduce both exercises which specifically target the pelvic floor area, such as muscle contractions, and simple, effective methods which you can use to pair Kegel exercises with a more standard workout. For example, you can clench and hold your Kegel muscles tight while maintaining a yoga pose such as a bridge or lunge.


We also discuss how you can further enhance your Kegel workout through the addition of specific exercise tools including but not limited to ben wa balls and vaginal weights. You can check out our articles found here and here for more information!


Establishing a successful Kegel workout routine and sticking to it will allow you to easily hold a strapless strap-on inside yourself for longer periods of time without experiencing any discomfort, pain, soreness or muscle cramps.


You will quickly begin to see the results as your strap-on penetration sessions will last longer, not to mention they will begin to feel more natural as you learn how to move, twist and thrust your hips in ways that make both of you feel as good as possible.


With a little practice and a little perseverance, both you and your partner will soon find yourself having explosive, thoroughly satisfying orgasms with the help of this unique new toy! 

Establishing a successful Kegel workout routine and sticking to it will allow you to easily hold a strapless strap-on inside yourself for longer periods of time without experiencing any discomfort, pain, soreness or muscle cramps.


You will quickly begin to see the results as your strap-on penetration sessions will last longer, not to mention they will begin to feel more natural as you learn how to move, twist and thrust your hips in ways that make both of you feel as good as possible. With a little practice and a little perseverance, both you and your partner will soon find yourself having explosive, thoroughly satisfying orgasms with the help of this unique new toy!


To purchase a double-headed dildo or strapless strap-on, head over here to our catalog and take a look through our extremely extensive - and constantly expanding! - list of products for sale. We also recommend checking out our size guide, as it is important that you consider both the length and girth of your new toy in order to find the one which is just right for you or your partner.


In addition, we suggest giving our "How To Keep Your Dildo Clean" page a read, as cleaning is an especially important factor when it comes to double-headed dildos because the two heads may be used to enter multiple holes or even multiple people.


The linked article will provide you with lots of helpful tips for keeping your dildo smelling, looking and feeling great and minimizing the risk of transferring nasty bacteria or illnesses between you and your partner during double-header play. And, as always, feel free to contact us if you have any questions about double-headed dildos or any items in our stunningly huge catalog. We're always here and always ready to talk toys with you!