Does BDSM Fit a Male Chastity Lifestyle?

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We won’t beat around the bush — BDSM and male chastity fit together perfectly! Although one would not necessarily make the connection between chastity and sado-masochism, the truth is that cock cages suit various sorts of kinks.

Funny enough, male chastity devices started as a form of torture in the Middle Ages, but they smoothly transitioned into sex toys and remained popular ever since. They kept their initial purpose, which was to prevent the wearer access to their genitalia. However, the reasons became much different.

The sole purpose of a penis cage is to increase a man’s desire through abstinence. Also, it adds to the realism of the master-slave relationship by allowing the dominant partner to control when and how the slave will release all that built-up tension.

With so many different ways to play the game, male chastity offers a new perspective on sex, trust, and self-image. It’s kinky, it’s exciting, and it’s over the top, so let’s dive right in!

What Is a Male Chastity Belt?

First, it does not have to be a belt at all. Male chastity BDSM devices come in different shapes and sizes. Though you can still get the one with a belt, there are a lot of options to suit every potential customer.

Nevertheless, their purpose and build are always the same. Most cock chastity cages consist of a ring that circles the bottom of the penis shaft and testicles and a tube or a cage that traps the penis. The two parts are connected, and the device has a lock and key to prevent the wearer from taking it off.

Also, the cage makes it impossible for the wearer to touch their genitalia. At the tip of the cage, there is usually a hole which will allow urinating. However, some more extreme variants have a catheter instead.

These toys come in different shapes and sizes, so you can opt either for a classic cage or armor that covers the entire crotch. They are always made of body-friendly materials like stainless steel or silicone to prevent injuries and infections.

Such materials also ensure that you can wear the cock cage for long periods of time. Yes, a chastity device can be a short-term adventure, but it can also be a whole lifestyle that can last for hours, days, months, or even years.

The Connection Between Male Chastity and Bondage

The idea of restricting particular body parts to gain control over the slave is obvious in both bondage and male chastity. To an extent, cock cages appear to be even crueler than, for example, rope suspension. The slave feels less physically restrained while still having no access to their sexual organ.

Of course, both types of roleplay are about power. However, contrary to popular opinion, BDSM chastity devices are not about mistrust. They’re quite the opposite. It is about letting someone else control your body and finding pleasure in that fact. That is even more obvious in the case of long-term chastity.

On another level, it has a lot to do with self-control. Since the restrictive nature of the cage makes the erections painful, the wearer must practice self-discipline if he does not want to experience extreme discomfort every time he gets hard. So waiting for days to get the chance to indulge in sex or masturbation makes his orgasms intense.

Bondage can add extra flavor to the male chastity play by making the unlock periods more interesting. Once the cock is out of the cage, you can tie up the wearer and continue to control how and when he comes.

It makes the master/mistress even more powerful and allows the slave to surrender fully. If this sounds exciting, maybe you can get some handcuffs to enhance the kink! Also, ropes and chains can fit into the roleplay as well.

Many BDSM fans say that they have issues with knots. Our advice is to go with the single column tie because it is perfect for arms and legs. Also, it looks fantastic! Once you’ve mastered that one, you can try the double column tie. Just make sure you learn how to do a quick-release version if something goes wrong.

How to Create a Perfect Sissy Male

One of the most alluring things about roleplay is that it allows us to switch roles that society imposes on us. Cock cages are a perfect way for men in chastity to let themselves be submissive. On the other hand, women can try the role of the dominant partner (chastity keyholder) and express themselves in non-traditional ways.

The principle is simple. When you deny the man access to his penis, he will become more feminine. As he gives up control over his precious cock, he starts to become obedient in order to release the sexual tension that builds up inside.

Asking for permission makes him a slave. Though it sounds banal, men are so tied to the idea of dominance that swapping roles can open a whole new world for them. And that world is full of pleasure.

To gain further control of the chastity submissive, the keyholder can introduce other games, such as humiliation and pegging. These may be an icing on the cake in this type of sexual practice because they enhance the role of the master/mistress.

Moreover, in some heavy roleplay, many keyholders even opt for crossdressing. It completely deprives the slave of his masculinity and emphasizes his weaknesses by making him look ridiculous. Crossdressing is especially effective if the keyholder desires to accentuate the wearer’s femininity.

Overall, the essence of this kink comes from the fact that, while indulging in it, they are allowed to be vulnerable and needy — the two traits we don’t usually associate with masculinity. However, we are all vulnerable and needy sometimes, and acknowledging that may bring us great physical and emotional satisfaction.

How to Punish a Bad Chastity Slave

One of the biggest turn-ons in the male chastity game is the idea of punishment. Suffering the consequences of his filthy behavior is crucial for any slave. Even if he just has dirty thoughts, he needs to be properly penalized for them. For example, post-orgasm torture, caning, whipping, etc.

Having the previously mentioned in mind, we have another crossover between the core principles of BDSM and chastity play. If the slave was naughty and tried to play with his cock or get it out of the cage, they can get the punishment they deserve during the unlock period.

Gagging, restraining, or whipping a slave can teach him a valuable lesson on how to behave during his next chastity trial. Postponing the pleasure is also highly recommended, as most slaves will try to deviate in one way or another.

Needless to say that it’s crucial to keep the power in the hands of the keyholder (aka the master.) That means the dominant partner has to punish their slave for disobedience. What type of chastity punishment they will choose is up to them, but it has to be strict! Under no circumstances must they let the slave come before he proves that he has learned his lesson.

Following this rule keeps the game going and makes it more realistic. It also perfectly mixes the allure of the cock cage with the excitement of BDSM.

Long-Terms Effects of Pairing Chastity With BDSM

Many people still wonder what male chastity play is all about. The same goes for BDSM. However, not everybody is cut out for this kink. But if you are among the ones that are into a bit of roleplay, you are surely well aware of all the pleasure these types of scenes can give!

Moreover, it seems that the benefits are not strictly of sexual nature. Many couples who tried cock cages and bondage say that their relationships became much more intimate and close. Sharing your hidden desires with someone and allowing them to control you makes your bond precious.

Nevertheless, it is important to stay safe while playing the game. As we said, most of these toys are not dangerous in any way, but if the wearer experiences any kind of injury, the keyholder must remove the device. Cock cages are not supposed to cause any long-term disability.

One of the essential parts of the game is the safe word. Once spoken, it allows the slave to stop the game. It does not matter how cruel the master is, the safe word is sacred, and each participant must respect it.

When it comes to men, practicing male chastity releases the pressure of being macho all the time. Also, the wearers will become more considerate lovers, as they will listen to their partner and learn how to give them pleasure. In other words, slaves tend to become more respectful, even when the game is over.

Moreover, most cock-cage wearers allow themselves to be more affectionate and tolerant. By giving up his traditional role, a man becomes a better, more caring partner. And he is not afraid to give in.

To Conclude

In the end, we may say that what we tend to call sexual perversion can make us more normal in our everyday lives. We let go, we explore, and we enjoy it. Hence, we are less tense, bitter, and mean. Although cock cages look harsh and painful, they can soften men up, thus making them more caring and sensitive partners! So why not give chastity devices a shot? They might just improve the overall health of your relationship!


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