What is a Strapless Strapon?

What Is A Strapless Strap-On?

On the surface, the words "strapless strap-on" may seem like nothing more than an oxymoron.


After all, how can something be a strap-on if it doesn't have any harness or, well, straps to speak of? What makes a "strapless strap-on" different from any other dildo which is not attached to a harness? 


Luckily, we are here to answer all of these questions and more. 


This helpful guide will introduce you to a unique but increasingly popular style of strap-on toy which provides new and exciting opportunities for spicing up you and your partner's bedroom activities. 


Offering advantages which the standard variation may not, the strapless strap-on looks sleek and sexy and - most importantly - feels amazing, providing orgasm-inducing pleasure to all parties involved. 


If you've never considered adding a strapless strap-on to your collection - and even if you'd never even heard of one before today! - we guarantee that this article will convince you that they are a worthwhile addition to any strap-on enthusiast's box, cabinet, closet or dungeon of fun! 

​What's A Strapless Strap-On - And Why Isn't It Just A Normal Dildo?

As its name suggests, a strapless strap-on is a dildo designed to attach to the wearer's body without the assistance of any straps, fabric or harness of any kind.


Unlike a normal dildo, which is typically held in the hand and manipulated in that manner, a strapless strap-on is primarily meant to be worn (although, of course, that does not mean that it cannot be used like a standard dildo during solo activities or when you just want to give your partner some quick pleasure without having to go through the preparation process). 


Wait, you're probably asking us right about now. How on earth can a person wear a strapless strap-on without a harness? The harness is the part of the dildo which keeps it attached to the body! 


Well, in fact, this is accomplished via a surprisingly simple method, which will be explained in detail below. 


The primary difference between a standard dildo and a strapless strap-on is the shape. 

A standard dildo resembles a penis and may or may not feature a special base (such as a wide, flared design for attaching to harnesses, simulated testicles for extra realism, or a suction cup for attaching to walls or furniture).


However, rather than a base, a strapless strap-on has a bulbous end, often described as similar in appearance to an butt plug (see our section on those fantastic toys here!). 


When the wearer inserts that end into their body, the remaining length of the strap-on winds up nestled against their pubic bone, mimicking the positioning and location of the real-life penis. 


That length can then be used to penetrate the wearer's partner either vaginally or anally, in a manner very similar to "traditional" sexual intercourse using a flesh and blood penis. 


Due to many people considering the name "strapless strap-on" to be redundant or - as mentioned earlier - practically an oxymoron, this type of toy has also recently come to be known as the "double dildo". 


This should; however, not be confused with the "double-headed dildo" - which features two penis-shaped lengths aligned either horizontally or at an angle to one another. 


While double-headed dildos are somewhat similar in that they provide pleasure to both partners and allow both partners to be penetrated, they are significantly less secure and stable than the "plug-like" design of the strapless strap-on. 


Double-headed dildos should be worn with harnesses at all times - you should NOT attempt strapless penetration using a double-headed dildo! 

​Advantages & Uses Of The Strapless Strap-On

Absolutely anyone can successfully and enjoyably integrate a strapless strap-on into their sexual activities.


Typically, double dildos are most commonly associated with lesbian couples, with one individual wearing the dildo inside her vagina and using it to penetrate the other. 


However, considering the strapless strap-on to be an exclusively "lesbian toy" would be an extremely limiting definition which ignores the many other types of individuals and couples who love to use this innovative item. 

Heterosexual couples can use strapless strap-ons to enjoy the act known as "pegging", where the female wears a strap-on to anally penetrate (or receive simulated manual or oral pleasure from) her male partner.


Transgender individuals, especially trans men, enjoy the strapless strap-on as many feel that it gives them a sense of empowerment and affirmation of their true gender identity during sexual intercourse. 


Lastly, while strapless strap-ons are usually associated with the vagina, a male may wear one anally in order to practice double penetration (penetrating two individuals at once, or penetrating the vagina and anus of a single individual simultaneously) or if he suffers from erectile dysfunction or is recuperating from an injury which temporarily limits the function of his penis. 


As we mentioned earlier, the strapless strap-on offers a number of advantages when compared to a model which relies on a harness to attach itself to the wearer's body. 


It is probably the closest alternative to a flesh and blood penis, and many users have described the absence of straps and the placement of the dildo on their body as feeling "natural" and "realistic". 


As the previous paragraph discussed, this can feel extremely empowering for individuals who identify as male but do not possess a penis or are suffering from some form of dysfunction.  


Couples who have tried out our strapless strap-ons also report that the ensuing penetrative sex feels more intense than when using a harnessed strap-on, due to the increased skin to skin contact and the ability of both partners to receive pleasure from a single toy. 


Additionally, the strapless strap-on is significantly easier both to put on and to remove than a dildo which is attached to a harness. 

No longer will you have to worry about carefully hand-washing every single strap of a complicated leather or nylon apparatus. Never again will your playtime be forcibly delayed because your heavy leather harness is still damp from its last washing - or, even worse, has failed to dry properly altogether and instead picked up a nasty case of mold or rot.


While a strapless strap-on is not a standard dildo, cleaning one is just as easy - a simple hand washing with warm water and gentle soap will work wonders! 


Plus, dildos - typically made from silicone, rubber or either hard or soft plastic - take significantly less time to dry than strappy harnesses, especially those made from thick materials such as leather. 


But that's enough about function - let's talk about pleasure! 


Of course, the strapless strap-on is extremely pleasurable for the individual who is being penetrated. 


Like standard dildos, double dildos come in a variety of lengths, girths and sizes, meaning that you and your partner can easily choose a model which perfectly suits your most intimate desires. 


Strapless strap-ons are also capable of coming with add-ons, such as vibration or temperature play, or being molded in special curved, flared or bulging shapes to stimulate the G-spot, prostate, or even the clitoris during penetration. 


But wait - the person "being screwed" is not the only one who is getting a pleasurable experience out of this set-up! 


Earlier, we mentioned that the strapless strap-on is inserted into the wearer's body via a bulbous end similar in shape and size to an butt plug. 


Of course, this "plug" is also designed to provide pleasure to the wearer. It will delectably and enticingly stretch your vagina or anus, pressing deep within you as you thrust your hips and penetrate your partner over and over again. 


As your actions send them to the height of ecstasy, you'll be right there along with them with the help of your amazing double dildo. 


Some double dildo models even feature added benefits on the wearer's end of things, with vibration and G-spot / prostate stimulation being the most common examples. 


So there's no need to sacrifice your pleasure for your partner's - both of you will experience earth-shaking orgasms with the help of your exciting new toy! 

​Putting On Your Strapless Strap-On

Inserting your strapless strap-on is an extremely simple task which requires little in the way of specialized instructions.


Simply slide the bulbous end inside your vagina or anus, make sure that it is stable and settled, and you're good to go! 


Most double dildos are specifically designed with a size and shape that can be safely inserted vaginally without the use of any additional lubricant. 


What this means is that the body's natural lubrication is usually sufficient to keep the strapless strap-on steady and in place. 


However, every person's body is different, and if you do find yourself needing to use lubricant, especially during your first few times using this kind of toy, that is also completely natural. 


Keep in mind that you should always use lubricant if you are inserting this or any other toy into your anus, as it does not produce natural lubricant of its own. 


If you need to use lubricant, always keep the most important rule in mind - never combine toys made from silicone with silicone-based lube. 


The interaction of the two types of silicone can cause the toy to quickly degrade in quality, losing both its shape and its firm texture and decreasing its usable lifespan significantly. 


If your strapless strap-on is made from silicone, stick to water- or oil-based lubrication agents instead. 


Silicone-based lube is, however, perfectly safe to use with toys which are not themselves made from silicone - as long as you are one hundred percent sure that absolutely no silicone is used at all in the toy's makeup. 


"Use your fingers to gently maneuver the toy until it is resting against your g-spot (if inserted vaginally) or prostate (if inserted anally)."

This positioning allows you to receive the most pleasure possible during sexual activity.


If you are having trouble finding the right position, don't be afraid to ask your partner for help. Don't give up and simply accept a less pleasurable positioning - the entire point of the strapless strap-on is to provide both you and your partner with orgasm-inducing pleasure! 


The first few times you insert your strapless strap-on, it may feel slightly strange and uncomfortable, especially if you are not used to using thicker plug-shaped toys. 


Don't worry - there are a number of methods which you can use to lessen this issue or even eliminate it entirely. Some of our favorites include: 

  • Do some relaxation exercises: Try stretches, yoga, meditation or even just taking a moment to center yourself by closing your eyes and taking some deep breaths. The more relaxed you are, the easier it will be for your body to stretch and accept the toy inside you without any discomfort

  • Give yourself some foreplay: Don't be ashamed if you need a little preparation before you're ready for insertion, especially during your first couple of times using a strapless strap-on. Get yourself wet by touching your sensitive areas - or have your partner get involved and do the touching instead. You can also use your fingers to get your vagina or anus used to the slight feeling of being stretched out which this kind of toy usually provides. 

  • Take some time to get used to the feeling of the toy inside you: Take a walk around the room, taking time to focus on how it feels inside you. Make sure that you are comfortable and it is not chafing or pinching you. 


    Mimic the motions of sexual intercourse, such as thrusting your hips forwards or rotating them in small circles, to make sure that the dildo is properly fitted and is not going to slip out or twist uncomfortably. 


    If you are worried about the necessary preparation period "ruining the mood" ​or taking you out of a sexual state of mind, feel free to practice inserting and wearing your double dildo on your own before bringing it into the bedroom. Take all the time you need - your comfort is just as important as your partner's pleasure! 

While it's not at all abnormal to need a bit of time to get used to the feeling of being stretched and stuffed full by your new strapless strap-on, neither inserting it nor keeping it inside yourself should ever be painful.


"If you feel any pain, stop immediately, remove the toy fully from both you and your partner's bodies, and take a time out."

Almost all pain during sex toy exploration is caused by either insufficient preparation or insufficient lubricant - so remember to keep it slow, keep it gentle and never be ashamed to use lube or take some time to practice if you need it.


Removing the strapless strap-on at the end of intercourse is just as simple as putting it on. 


Usually, the toy will slip out easily on its own with no extra assistance needed. However, if you are having difficulty removing the dildo, simply relax and take a few deep breaths and it should slip right out. 


DO NOT pull or tug on the toy under any circumstances, as that can potentially result in either damaging the dildo or causing pain, soreness or discomfort to yourself. 


Don't forget to clean your strapless strap-on thoroughly after each and every play session. 


This will help keep it looking, feeling and working great for months and even years to come without any degradation in quality. 


We recommend hand-washing the toy with lukewarm water and gentle soap (avoid anything with scented add-ons that can potentially irritate the skin), gently toweling it as dry as possible and then allowing it to air-dry thoroughly in a warm, well-lit location before putting it away. 


Do not store your strapless strap-on - or any other plastic or silicone toy - anywhere that is too hot, too cold or prone to moisture or humidity, as that can encourage mold, mildew or rot to make a home in the creases and crevices of your favorite dildo. 


A clean dresser or cabinet drawer or a sealed plastic tub make great options! 

​Potential Drawbacks To Consider

Unfortunately, the strapless strap-on is not entirely without its risks and potential disadvantages when compared to other types of dildos and strap-ons.


In particular, the major drawback identified by customers is the fact that the strapless strap-on is less stable than those which are traditionally mounted via harness. 


What does this mean, exactly? 


Well, consider the fact that the only thing keeping the dildo in place is the muscles of the wearer's anus or vagina (which are formally called the "pubococcygeal muscles" - but don't worry, they're typically referred to by the much more manageable name "kegel muscles"). 


This means that it is potentially easier for the dildo to slip, come loose or fall out entirely during penetration - especially if the wearer gets wetter than usual or has applied a little too much lubricant. 


Some couples may find this frustrating or a bit of a "mood ruiner", especially if it happens frequently right in the middle of their bedroom fun. 

Helpful Tips To Avoid The Slip!

However, there are many simple precautions which can be taken to avoid this drawback entirely.


If used properly, a strapless strap-on can be made quite stable, and the risk of it coming loose or slipping out can be significantly minimized to the point that it is almost nonexistent. 


We asked some of our staff members as well as some of our longtime strap-on enthusiast customers for their best tips to avoid slipping or instability during penetration with a strapless strap-on. 


We've collected our favorites below - we hope that this list can help enhance your bedroom fun and keep it safe, comfortable and pleasurable for all involved! 

  • Consider your positioning: If you and/or your partner are new to using a strapless strap-on, start with positions that allow gravity to work with you, rather than against you. For example, if you are the one wearing the strap-on, sit up straight while having your partner sit on your lap and ride you. 


    Alternately, try a "spooning" position where both of you are lying on your sides during the act. Once you've gotten more comfortable and familiar with how the toy feels inside you, you can experiment with additional positioning with your worries about slipping fully assuaged.

  • Practice, practice, practice: Yes, we mentioned this in the previous section, but we thought it was worthwhile to bring up again here. A strapless strap-on, more so than a lot of other toys, can take some getting used to at first. If you're new to this type of dildo, practice wearing it, walking around and getting used to the feeling of having it inside you before trying it out with your partner.


    Confidence is sexy, and your partner will definitely notice your new assertive attitude and the grace and ease with which you slip your toy in - not to mention the pride with which you wear it! 

  • Train those Kegels: Strong Kegel muscles can mean the difference between a worry-free sexual experience and one fraught with concern that your new dildo might slip out at any minute. In between your sexual sessions, do some exercise which focus on training and strengthening that area of the body - not just the pubococcygeus or Kegel muscles but also the hips, gluteal (buttocks) muscles and the upper thigh. 


    While most of these areas can be tightened and tone either by visiting the gym or using workout equipment or routines at home, paying some attention to your kegels might require a few specialized exercises. For more information about specific kegel exercises which you can perform - as well as specialized equipment such as ben wa balls which can assist you in strengthening your kegels - see our more in-depth article here.

  • Keep things gentle: The risk of your strapless strap-on slipping or losing its stable position is much greater during particularly rough sex, especially when combined with a position where gravity is not working in your favor (see above). 


    When you are first introducing the double dildo into your bedroom, keep things gentle - try slow, measured thrusts rather than rough pounding right from the get go. It might also be a good idea to let your partner control the pace while you focus on keeping the toy steady and being able to feel it comfortably inside yourself. 


    Once you and your partner are comfortable with more gentle motions, you can try slowly increasing the pace and intensity of your motions.

  • Don't be afraid to take a break from things: We get it - using a strapless strap-on can be a frustrating experience, especially at first. If you're new to it, the first two or three times might feel uncomfortable, awkward, and not nearly as pleasurable as you expected they would be.


    It might take you several practice sessions before you are comfortable enough with the toy to hold it inside you for long periods of time without having to worry about slipping or falling out. But don't forget - your comfort is extremely important, and that means it's okay to take a few steps back if needed. 


    Most double dildos are designed to be compatible with standard harnesses in additional to being able to function without straps, so if you find yourself temporarily frustrated by the new toy, try a few in-harness sessions before moving back to the strapless experience. Patience, perseverance, and being kind to yourself and getting to know your own body will go a long way! 

If you have any tips of your own or stories you'd like to share about how you and your partner (or partners) first introduced strapless strap-nos into the bedroom, feel free to contact us at any time.


We love hearing all sorts of spicy stories from our satisfied customers. And who knows, you might even end up featured in later versions of this or other similar articles right here on our Website! 


Now that you've read all of this, we're certain that you are super ready and excited and just can't wait to give a brand new strapless strap-on a try! 


So why don't you head on over to our catalog - found right over here - and have a browse through our amazing selection of high quality, comfortable, pleasurable products! 


Of course, we've also got a stunning array of harnesses and harness-compatible dildos as well, for those who are also looking to add a few more traditional toys to their collection. We guarantee that the perfect toy or accessory for you and your partner can be found right here in our amazing dungeon full of sensual products! 


To learn more about the one of a kind erotic enhancement toy that is the strap-on, make sure to check out any one of our several other articles on the subject. 


Why not start with our introduction to strap-ons here, or our guide to harnesses found right over here? Or if it's ideas to spice things up in the bedroom you're looking for, try our pegging suggestions here or tantalize your partner with one of our spicy strap-on focused erotic stories over here! 


And, of course, if you have any questions, comments or simply want to share your strap-on stories with an excited listening ear, you can contact our staff members through our Website at any time - there's always someone here to answer your sex-toy focused queries!