The Complete Guide to Pegging

If you were to ask us what our favorite sexual act or scenario to educate our curious customers about is, you would likely receive a single near-unanimous answer: pegging.

Why pegging, you ask?

Well, first off, we feel that it's a type of sexual play which has been unfairly stigmatized - even recently as our society gradually grows more open and comfortable in our sexuality - due to general misconceptions about "ass play" (or, more colloquially, "butt stuff").

Second, we feel that pegging isn't just fun and pleasurable - it can also be an extremely empowering experience for all involved due to playing around with and even subverting "traditional" gender roles in the bedroom.

Lastly, of course, we're always game for any type of sexual play which is flexible and versatile, allowing for the incorporation of many different positions, methods of stimulation and even types of orgasm.

Pegging is nearly unequaled in that regard, with so many amazing ways it can be used to bring pleasure to you and your partner.

So if we haven't yet convinced you just how fulfilling adding the occasional pegging session to your bedroom routine can be, then just read on, my friend - there's much more to learn!

This informative guide will introduce you to the basics of pegging, including how to prepare for a session, some example positions to get you started, and - of course - little tips and tricks to make it as pleasurable as possible for both the pegger and the individual being pegged.

Like every sexual act, pegging isn't necessarily going to be for everyone - and you absolutely should not feel ashamed or upset with yourself or your partner if it turns out not to be your particular cup of kink-flavored tea.

However, if you think it might be your type of thing, or if it's something your partner has expressed interest in and you want to learn more, or you're simply generally interested in educating yourself about the fascinating world of kinky sex, whether or not you plan to add any of it to your repertoire, then keep reading, because this guide was written for you!

​What is Pegging?

Let's start with a basic definition. In general, the term "pegging" is used to refer to a sexual act in which one person wears a toy called a "strap-on" and uses it to penetrate another.

While pegging activities are most commonly associated with anal penetration, this is not an exclusive definitions - strap-ons can just as easily (and pleasurably!) be used to penetrate the vagina or even the mouth for simulated oral sex.

The act received its name thanks to noted sex columnist Dan Savage, whose feature "Savage Love" hosted a contest in which readers could submit and vote on various names - "pegging" squeaked out a narrow victory over second place finisher "Bend Over, Boyfriend".

The definition of pegging is also not limited by the genders or sexual orientations of the participating individuals.

While many might associate pegging with the scenario in which a woman anally penetrates her male partner, both male and female homosexual couples can also engage in pegging.

Similarly, many transgender men in a wide range of relationships enjoy pegging activities, as do cisgender heterosexual men who are suffering from erectile dysfunction or recovering from an illness, injury or other condition which limits the function of the penis.

​Why Pegging?

Pegging is an act which has become extremely popular among both practitioners of penetration and devotees of the derriere.

First off, it provides a new, unique way of penetrating your partner, one which comes with a staggering array of options compared to simply sticking with "normal" flesh penises.

Sure, sometimes traditional missionary-position sex with a penis is great, but what if you're occasionally also in the mood for getting your ass or pussy pounded by a ten-inch purple dildo, or perhaps a glittery gold one with a neat curved tip, or maybe even a sparkling rainbow one which vibrates as it thrusts in and out of your deepest core?

When it comes to experimentation and variety, practically no other sexual act offers as many vastly different options as pegging does.

As we mentioned earlier, pegging doesn't necessarily have to involve the ass - but it often does, and fans of playing around with their partner's plump booty have often found themselves getting a lot of enjoyment out of the act.

Pegging allows absolutely anyone to penetrate anyone else's ass - as long as they consent, of course! - regardless of gender or sexual orientation.

Not to mention, you can do it with a dildo which specifically focuses on stimulating the prostate or stretching out the walls of the anus (similar to a butt plug - head over to that section of our site to learn more!).

If you and your partner just can't get enough of each other's rear ends, but are ready to move past slapping and fingering to something a little bit more extreme - or, rather, extremely pleasurable - then give pegging a try!

Lastly, as was briefly discussed in the previous section of this article, pegging is an act which is often enjoyed by those who like experimenting with gender roles and can also be powerfully affirming for transgender, nonbinary or other gender nonconforming individuals.

In particular, transgender individuals often favor pegging over simply using an unattached dildo to penetrate their partner, as it allows them to wear the simulated penis and thus feel that it is "their" penis and more truly a part of their genuine body.

Similar feelings of empowerment and affirmation may be experienced by men who suffer from erectile dysfunction or injury, as pegging allows them to regain the ability to engage in penetrative sexual activities with their partner even during the process of treatment and recovery.

Overall, pegging is an act which can appeal to a lot of different couples and individuals for a wide variety of different reasons, all equally valid. And, like all forms of sexual play both "kinky" and "vanilla," it is simply a fantastically intimate way to bond with your partner and get closer to one another in the bedroom.

We fully believe that a healthy sex life involves exploration, honesty and the willingness to try new things, whether or not they end up working out for you in the long term or just being a bit of temporary experimentation.

Pegging is fun, intimate, pleasurable and a great way to both give and get a leg-shaking, earth-shattering orgasm!

​Tools Of The Trade: The Strap-On

If you want to peg your partner - or be pegged by them - the first thing you need to do is get your hands on a clever, unique little apparatus referred to as the "strap-on".

It typically consists of a dildo attached to a leather, fabric or nylon harness, which is worn on the body so that the dildo sits approximately in the same location as a flesh and blood penis would.

The harness or "straps" from which the toy gets its name allows the wearer to penetrate their partner with the dildo using only the movements of their body - in particular, the rocking and thrusting of their hips - rather than needing to manipulate it with their hands as with non-attached, non-harnessed dildos.

For this reason, the strap-on is often considered to be the toy which most closely simulates "traditional" non-toy assisted sexual intercourse.

Like most sex toys, strap-ons are extremely versatile, and are available in an ever increasing array of styles, shapes, colors and sizes.

In particular, a strap-on allows for extra variety because you can choose both the style and design of the harness and the size, shape and texture of the dildo which attaches to it.

Nowadays, many harnesses are intentionally designed in a very flexible manner which allows various dildos to be switched in and out, meaning that you can have a different pegging experience each time you strap yourself into your harness!

Our site features a number of guides which discuss in greater detail the wide range of strap-ons available for purchase and offer tips about how to choose one (or several!) for you and your partner.

In particular, we suggest checking out our intro to harness styles here and our guide to choosing a dildo to fit your harness right over here. In addition, we are also pleased to offer a brand new guide which specifically focuses on pegging and which types of strap-ons work best for this particular act.

However, before we continue with this article, we will briefly highlight some of the most common elements of strap-on design.

Harnesses are typically divided into "strappy" styles, which attach to the waist and upper thighs with thick straps made from leather or nylon, or "lingerie" styles which are made from softer fabrics and resemble a standard pair of underwear with a hole in the front for dildo insertion.

More adventurous variations include "strapless strap-ons" (click here to learn more) which are held in the vagina or anus using the wearer's own muscles rather than external straps, harnesses designed to be attached to objects (such as walls, chairs, or exercise balls) and harnesses which are meant to attach to other areas of the body such as the face or upper thighs.

Dildos come in an even greater variety, ranging from the more realistic (shorter, flesh-colored, featuring add-ons such as testicles or simulated veins or pubic hair) to the outlandish and bizarre (larger designs in bright colors with unique textures and shapes based on fictional characters, animals or supernatural creatures).

Some dildos specifically designed for strap-on use will feature add-ons designed to bring pleasure to the wearer as well as the one being pegged, such as vibration, a clitoral stimulator or even a second head (called a "double-headed dildo") which allows for simultaneous penetration.

If you purchase your dildo separately from your harness, you should make sure that its dimensions are compatible with the harness's opening or mount.

If a dildo is too large, you will usually need to buy a larger harness, but dildos which are too small, too unsteady or oddly shaped can sometimes be made to fit standard harnesses using an adjustment tool called an "O-ring," which our guide to dildo fitting discusses in more detail.

In general, we recommend novice peggers start out by picking out a harness and dildo combination which is sturdy, comfortable and easy to use.

We recognize that it can be easy to get overwhelmed by some of the more extreme dildos and complex harnesses, especially those which require large amounts of adjustment in order to fit properly.

Starting simple will help you and your partner get a feel for the general pegging process and allow the wearer to become more comfortable with the feel of the harness, which may be strange and slightly bizarre (but should NOT be uncomfortable or painful) at first.

We also recommend starting with a smaller, thinner dildo, especially if you or your partner is going to be pegged anally and has not had a lot of prior experience with anal penetration.

A dildo which is specifically designed to target the prostate may also be a good idea, as it can often "find" the prostate without the pegger having to constantly adjust the angle and position of their thrust.

Once the two of you have both become more comfortable with pegging in general and with your roles in the process, feel free to expand your collection of strap-on dildos and harnesses - it is our humble opinion that you can absolutely never have too many!

​Pegging Requires Preparation

There's no way to sugar-coat this: pegging is an act which requires preparation on the part of both (or all) involved participants.

It's definitely not something that you can simply sit down and do for the first time without spending some time beforehand getting ready.

First and foremost, as with everything you and your partner add to the bedroom - but especially anything typically considered to be within the realm of "kink" - the two of you need to talk about it.

Pegging should never be attempted without the explicit consent of both parties, and should be brought up and discussed in a rational manner outside of the bedroom before being tried out inside it.

In fact, we consider this conversation so important that we wrote an entire guide dedicated to the best ways of having it - check out "How To Bring Up Pegging With Your Partner" found right over here.

Once the necessary conversations have happened, research has been done and you're both on the same page, of course, it's time to pick out your strap-on!

It can seem like a daunting task thanks to the sheer number of styles and models available for purchase. Luckily, we've got a fantastic resource available to help you in the form of our extensive Product Catalog, which is filled to the brim with harnesses and dildos in every shape, size and style that you could possibly imagine!

Head right on over here to pick out something sexy, sturdy and comfortable which will truly make your first experience pegging a night - or perhaps an entire day, or even several nights - to remember.

You might think that as soon as the strap-on arrives, you and your partner will be ready to get down to business and can immediately jump into bed and start off with an intense pegging session.

Unfortunately, we recommend you put on the brakes just a little bit, especially if one or both of you is new to pegging or does not have a lot of experience with anal penetration (if that is how you plan to use your strap-on).

Don't worry, just be patient a little longer - you WILL get there, I promise!

But going into your first session properly prepared will make it much more likely that you will both find it an enjoyable experience that you are eager to repeat as soon as possible, rather than a disappointing failed experiment which will never find its way into your bedroom schedule again.

​Preparation for "Tops"

Of course, first of all, the person who will be wearing the strap-on during pegging should try it on to make sure that everything fits properly.

This should be done outside of the bedroom, when you or your partner is in a calm state of mind and can truly take the necessary time to focus on the fit and feel of your new harness.

Make sure that any straps can be properly adjusted and that all fasteners are secure. Ask yourself important questions - does this feel too tight? Too loose? Is the dildo sturdy in its hole or mount, or does it feel like it's going to slip out?

And don't just stand there with the harness on either - make sure to move and walk around to check that nothing is rubbing against you where it shouldn't be and that everything will hold together during the act.

We especially recommend practicing some more "athletic" or "energetic" moves - for example, try a few stretches or jumping jacks, or even mimic the standard movements of penetrative sex by thrusting or rolling your hips around to ensure that the dildo stays in place.

While a harness might feel a bit odd at first, and it's not unusual to need a little time to get used to the feeling of wearing one, it should NEVER be uncomfortable or painful.

Whether you're still trying things on in your bedroom or mid-pegging session with your partner, if something starts to hurt, STOP, take a break, and re-adjust things as needed.

This includes feelings of chafing or rubbing - this can be a sign that the harness is either too tight or too loose, and can result in blistering, breaking out or damaging the skin if allowed to continue.

​Preparation for "Bottoms"

Alright, so we've talked about the preparation which the person wearing the harness will need to do.

But what about the one on the other "end" of things - the person who is going to be experiencing a dildo gloriously thrusting in and out of one - or all - of their body's holes?

There are preparation tactics for the partner who will be taking the "bottom" role which are just as important and necessary as those for whoever is going to be on "top".

One of the most common arguments which unfortunately gets frequently brought up by opponents of pegging is that "it's dirty".

Pegging, along with any number of other sexual activities which involve the anus (including but not limited to anal fingering, rimming or anal licking, or the using of butt plugs or hooks in the bedroom) are commonly mis-characterized as being "unclean" because of the association between the ass and the production of fecal matter.

However, do not fear - we are here to reassure you that, with proper preparation, pegging is not any "dirtier" than any other sex act, kinky or otherwise. If everything has been properly cleaned, pegging does not come with any associated health or sanitation risks, and fecal matter will most likely not even make an appearance in the bedroom.

First and foremost, though, it's important to understand that yes, the anus is the part of our anatomy which produces and expels poop.

It CAN be dirty. It CAN smell gross.

Which is why it's crucial for anyone who wishes to be pegged anally - regardless of biological sex or sexual orientation - to thoroughly clean things out well in advance of getting started in the bedroom.

If you're not exactly sure how to go about this, here are some of our personal favorite helpful tips:

  • Make sure that your bowel movements have been regular and that you have gone recently. If you are experiencing any irregularities, including either constipation or diarrhea, ​postpone the pegging session until you are feeling more like your normal self.

  • Clean your anus area thoroughly using soap and water. You can do this with a washcloth in the shower or via an add-on to your toilet called a "bidet" which washes the lower area with warm water after you have finished going to the bathroom.
  • If you want to make absolutely certain that "shit won't happen" - aka no accident will occur - during pegging, you can flush out your lower colon with an over the counter douche or enema.

    These can typically be purchased at most supermarkets or pharmacies. Keep in mind that their results will vary depending on factors such as age and body type, and it may take several hours to see any effect - do these preparations well in advance of your pegging session, not right before.

  • Take extra care in regards to your diet for a few days leading up to your planned pegging activities. Make sure to eat healthy foods with lots of fiber to keep your bowel movements as regular as possible. Avoid extremely oily, fatty or spicy foods or anything that has caused you to become irregular in the past.

Other than cleanliness, the other sort of preparation which you should focus on before being pegged is, well, making sure that your anus is ready to accept the dildo that you and your partner have chosen.

If you are no stranger to anal penetration, then this step may not be much of a concern to you - but, if you are a novice when it comes to these types of sex acts, we find that adequately preparing can help you be more calm and relaxed, both mentally and physically, when the big day arrives.

Simply put, the best way to accustom your asshole to penetration is through practice.

Start small - with fingers, either yours or your partner's, although we do recommend starting with your own if you are completely new to this.

Get to know yourself, learning what feels good and what is comfortable or uncomfortable.

As we said before when discussing trying on harnesses - if you feel pain, STOP, take a break, and let yourself "reset".

Anal penetration can feel a bit odd at first - many first-timers describe it as a feeling of "unusual fullness" unlike anything which they have experienced before - but it should NOT be painful unless you specifically want it to be.

When it comes to preparing your anus, we find the most helpful way to go about it is through slow, gradual stretching.

Start by inserting one finger up to the first knuckle, then go in as far as the second if you are comfortable.

Move the finger around gently inside yourself, giving yourself as much time as you need to get accustomed to the feeling.

When and only when you are ready, add a second finger and gradually move them back and forth in a scissoring motion.

Typically, if you are using a small, thin dildo suited to first time anal penetration, two fingers will provide a sufficient amount of stretching to leave you prepared, although some fans of intensity will find that they prefer three or even more fingers to give an extra-intense extra-delicious stretch.

​Don't Forget The Lube!

As with any sexual activity in which the anus is going to be playing a primary role, we highly recommend that you use lubricant - and plenty of it!

Unlike the vagina, the anus does not provide any natural lubricant of its own, meaning that you will have to turn to man-made alternatives to ensure that the dildo sliding and thrusting inside you will provide the greatest possible amount of pleasure - and no pain whatsoever.

Always, always ALWAYS use proper, store-bought lubricant - this is probably our number one tip when it comes to getting kinky with your partner or partners.

You might think that you're saving yourself both time and money by using some "alternative" you saw in porn or read about in a romance novel - such as olive oil, soap, shampoo, shortening or saliva - but trust us.

It will not feel as good - sticky and smelly rather than smooth and sensual - and, most importantly, it will not provide you with the necessary protection against pain or injury.

When it comes to store-bought lubes, though, what type you choose will generally be a matter of personal preferences.

Water-based, oil-based and silicone-based sexual lubricants all have their own unique qualities, including both advantages and drawbacks.

If you're not sure which you prefer, there's no harm in buying several different types and trying them all out - just like with dildos and harnesses, there's no need to limit yourself to just one favorite!

In general, though, we find that many people prefer thicker silicone-based lubes for anal penetration because of the complete lack of natural fluids in that area of the body.

HOWEVER, there is one important factor which you should keep in mind when choosing both your toy and your lube. Sex toys made from silicone, including dildos, are NOT compatible and should NEVER be used together with silicone-based lubricants.

The silicone ingredients in the lubricating fluid will quickly cause the material of the toy to break down, resulting in a rapid degradation of quality and a much shorter lifespan than a high-quality dildo would otherwise experience.

If you are planning on utilizing silicone-based lube during your pegging session, you should first ensure that any toys you will be using have absolutely zero silicone content.

Don't Forget To Set The Mood

This is also just generally good advice which you can rely on each and every time you try something new in the bedroom.

Treat it as the special occasion it is. Give it the time and space it deserves to become an erotic, intimate, sensual experience rather than something which is rushed through simply so you can say you've tried it.

Allow each new piece of sexual exploration to be a new chance to connect with your partner - perhaps even to fall in love with them all over again.

Pegging can seem a bit nerve wracking at first, even if you've done plenty of research and taken the time to educate yourself before actually getting down to it in the bedroom.

It can be something big, scary and new - but it also doesn't have to be. Take it slow, take time to get into the mood, and, before you know it, all of that nervousness will just disappear as you lose yourself in the feelings of pure pleasure and ecstasy.

First, set the mood in whatever way the two (or more!) of you best prefer.

Get out your favorite candles, your favorite perfumes, colognes or incenses, the whole nine yards - don't skimp on creating an erotic atmosphere of exploration in your bedroom.

Dress up for each other - although remember that the person wearing the strap-on harness should put it on well in advance of "getting down to business," to avoid ruining this mood you've so carefully crafted, so they should choose clothing which can be worn together with their harness or, alternately, forgo clothing altogether.

We will pretty much always recommend foreplay as something which should be done before trying out something new in the bedroom.

That recommendation ESPECIALLY applies to pegging, as there is a chance that the partner being penetrated will not have a lot of experience with this and will need some time to relax and calm down before accepting the dildo into their body.

Of course, it's hard for us to give specific advice in this area, as each couple's interests and needs in the area of foreplay will be different, but we do have one piece of wisdom to share with you:

When engaging in pre-pegging foreplay, don't immediately head for the ass.

Start by gently stroking, teasing and exciting your partner in ways that you know they enjoy. Give extra attention to sensitive spots outside the anus and genital area - for example the neck, chest, nipples or thighs.

Establish this as a sensual experience which will provide pleasure for both of you - this will help to set a positive mood that, if properly maintained, will last throughout the rest of the night.

In addition, your partner might find penetration easier and less stressful if he is aroused before you begin to peg him.

Being at least already somewhat hard will allow him to focus on the pleasure rather than the potentially uncomfortable feeling of being stretched and penetrated.

Therefore, many couples prefer to engage in pre-penetration activities including but not limited to manual stimulation ("hand jobs") and oral stimulation ("blow jobs").

If you're feeling a little more adventurous, you can even try giving your partner's asshole a thorough licking before introducing it to your dildo!

Lastly, foreplay also allows you to set the mood by paying specific attention to the strap-on and acknowledging the role that it will be playing in the evening's activities.

Some pegging fans find that it is easier to get into a mood to dominate their partner sexually if they engage in foreplay activities which are specifically focused around the strap-on and its attached dildo - especially those which mimic sexual acts which are usually performed on a penis made from flesh and blood.

For example, you can have your partner rub the dildo up and down with his hand or use his mouth to perform oral sex on it. Further create an atmosphere of affirmation and empowerment by referring to the strap-on not as "the toy" or "the dildo" but as "my/your/her cock" throughout the act.

Until you and your partner become more experienced with the pegging process, it is recommended to prepare his asshole for penetration - yes, even if he has already done some preparation of his own beforehand.

Even if it's only briefly, we strongly suggest inserting your fingers first and giving him some time to get accustomed to the feeling before going for full penetration.

Remember that communication is key - always ask him how he's feeling and if everything is okay, and stop and take a break if he says that he is experiencing any pain or discomfort.

Once foreplay has been completed to both of your satisfaction, it's time to move on to the main event!

That, of course, gives rise to yet another question - what position should be used to ensure that both you and your partner get as much pleasure as possible out of your pegging session?

​Choosing A Position

Fortunately, pegging is an extremely versatile act.

What do we mean by this? Well, it can be satisfactorily and pleasurably done in a wide range of different sexual positions.

There is no "one true pegging position," no "only" way that you and your partner will need to do things, no one set of rules that you will be forced to follow in order to both get enjoyment out of pegging.

Whether sitting or standing, lying down or pressed against the wall, you and your partner can successfully use a strap-on to bring pleasure to one another.

Therefore, when it comes to finding your preferred position, our number one piece of advice is extremely simple: experiment!

Try out different options during each pegging session until you figure out what works best for you.

If you like something, come back to it and make it a regular part of your pegging schedule. If, on the other hand, a position doesn't work for you, you can try modifying it to increase comfort and pleasure or simply move on and discard it from your repertoire.

There's no "right" or "wrong" way to go about this!

However, if you're not quite sure where to get started, a good position to start out with during your first pegging session is none other than good old fashioned missionary.

Wait, what? you look up from this article, perhaps incredulous that we even dare suggest such a thing. Missionary! Isn't that the most "vanilla" and "boring" sexual position possible? How on earth does something as "plain" as missionary work together with something as kinky and exciting as pegging?

Well, first off, just because it has a reputation for being "vanilla," that doesn't mean that missionary position is necessarily "boring" - not at all!

In fact, it became so popular entirely because it was simple, comfortable, easy to regularly use and maintain, and, most importantly, pleasurable for all involved participants.

With a little reframing, you can think of missionary as "intimate" and "a great emotional bonding experience" rather than simple, trite or overused.

Start out with this position and experiment with different angles of penetration. We guarantee that it will feel great for both of you!

As an added bonus, both you and your partner will be able to keep an eye on each other and witness each other's reactions - you'll both be able to appreciate when your partner is feeling great and be able to quickly stop in the moment if you notice them experiencing any discomfort or pain.

With all that being said, we strongly recommend sticking to missionary position for your first time pegging.

It's comfortable, it feels great, and it will allow you to work out any kinks - pun fully intended! - that come with the new experience.

However, if you're looking to experiment and want to try something else that will feel great and bring both you and your lover to an explosive orgasm, here are some of our other suggestions for awesome pegging positions:

  • Doggy style or standing doggy style: In doggy, the "bottom" partner either stands or supports themselves on hands and knees while they are penetrated from behind by the "top". This is considered by many to be the "classic" pegging position ​- and for good reason!

    It allows the "bottom" to be penetrated deeply and the "top" can easily access the prostate (or G-spot, if you are using a strap-on for vaginal penetration) without the need for a lot of shifting around or re-adjusting your angle.

  • Cowboy or reverse cowboy: (aka the "lap dance" position). In this position, the person wearing the strap-on will sit up straight while their partner straddles their hips and thighs. This is a great option if the male partner wants to stay in a dominant role even while he is being thoroughly penetrated.

    It's a unique position that not a lot of guys get a chance to experience outside of pegging, which makes it so popular with pegging fans everywhere! It also gives you the option of a huge range of different types of movements, from bumping to humping, grinding to thrusting and circling your hips to sensuously writhing atop your lover. This is a fun - not to mention comfortable - position beloved by all sorts of couples!

  • Spooning This position - in which both partners lie on their sides while the "bottom" is penetrated from behind - is popular primarily due to its extreme comfort, as it does not require much engaging of muscles and can be maintained for a long period of time without either partner experiencing pain.

    For long, slow, sensual, teasing pegging sessions, you can't go wrong with a bit of spooning! However, do keep in mind that this position may not allow for quite as deep an angle of penetration as the others on this list. We recommend using a slightly longer dildo in order to achieve maximum pleasure from this position.

Of course, this list is far from exhaustive. Like we said, practically any sex position that you can think of can pair perfectly with some intense, sexy pegging!

If you're interested in sharing your own favorite positions with us, feel free to drop us a line anytime. We always love hearing sexy stories from our customers - and who knows, you might even see your very own pegging tips featured someday in an article just like this one!

​Finishing Up

Pegging sessions, like all other good things in this world, must - unfortunately - eventually come to an end.

And, just like with positions as discussed in the previous section, there is really no "one right way" to go about bringing your intense night of pegging to a spectacular finish. Obviously it should ideally end with all participants experiencing at least one really good orgasm. That's usually the general goal!

But what we mean is that there's no one specific way that those leg-shaking body-rocking orgasms "should" or "have to" be reached.

Some "bottoms" are able to orgasm entirely from the pegging itself, especially if they are having their prostate or G-spot thoroughly stimulated throughout the act.

Others will require additional stimulation of other parts of the genital area (such as the penis for males or the clitoris for females) in order to reach orgasm.

Some enjoy the feeling of being pegged but find that the continued presence of a dildo inside them is actually detrimental to their ability to orgasm, and would prefer to "finish" after the toy has been removed, using other methods such as oral or manual stimulation or perhaps "traditional" penis-in-vagina sexual intercourse.

Remember, neither of these options are "right" or "wrong" - it's just another way in which different people experience sexual arousal and release in different ways!

Maybe you and your partner discuss it beforehand and decide how you are both going to get off. Or perhaps you will leave it up to the spontaneity of the moment and it will just happen, well, as it happens to happen!

However, regardless of how things ultimately end up "finishing up," the most important thing to remember is this - make sure that every participant is leaving the experience satisfied.

Especially if you are new to pegging, you want to establish it as something positive, fun and pleasurable for everyone - something associated with good memories, whether or not you choose to make it a regular part of your sex life.

For the person being penetrated, remember - unless you are utilizing a very specific type of harness which features add-ons designed exactly for this purpose, it is likely that your partner is not receiving any direct pleasure from the act of pegging.

Certainly, she may very well be getting a great deal of enjoyment out of the pleasure that she is bringing you, or from being in a dominant, powerful sexual position, but most harnesses do not provide direct physical stimulation to her sensitive areas.

In addition, because she is taking on the "dominant" role, she is required to employ both strict mental focus and strenuous physical effort to bring you pleasure.

If you've been the one doing the penetrating all your life, you might not realize just quite how mentally and physically exhausting it can be - she will be moving her muscles in new, unfamiliar ways, and could quite possibly end up rather sore the next morning!

Why are we explaining all of this to you?

Well, unfortunately, one of the biggest issues which pegging couples encounter is that the "top" feels as though she needs to sacrifice her own pleasure - and, indeed, perhaps even her own orgasm - in order to focus on providing a good penetration experience to her partner.

However, we do NOT believe that this is the right way to go about things. It is fully possible for BOTH partners to receive pleasure from a pegging session, but that will only happen IF the partner being penetrated remembers to focus on his lover as well.

If you are on the "bottom," make sure not to just "get lost in the moment" and focus entirely on the pleasure you are receiving to the exclusion of your partner's enjoyment.

Touch her - many harnesses will not cover the vagina directly, meaning that you can stimulate her manually even while she is giving you a thorough pegging!

If your harness does cover her genital area, you can still provide her with pleasurable feelings during the act by touching other sensitive areas such as the breasts, neck and thighs. Sprinkle in plenty of kisses, too - and don't forget to tell her how amazing she is making you feel!

Once the pegging itself has finished, you can gently help her to remove the strap-on harness and give her her release through manual or oral stimulation - or even vaginal penetration using your penis or one of her favorite toys, if you both feel up to it!

Of course, that is definitely not to say that we don't recommend trying out harnesses which are specifically designed to provide pleasure to the person wearing them as well as the person being stuffed full by the attached dildo.

With your partner, look into options which focus on her specific interests - maybe she wants a double-headed dildo that will pound her G-spot as she pounds your prostate, or perhaps she's more into something with an added vibration feature that will tickle her clitoris as she's thrusting away.

Trust us, the options are endless - and, as long as both of you are ending the session satisfied, there's absolutely no wrong answer in the slightest!

​Don't Forget The Cleanup

Cleaning up after an intense, athletic sex session isn't exactly the most fun or sensual part of the whole thing - in fact, we've often heard it described as "a mood-ruiner like no other" - but, unfortunately, when it comes to pegging the cleanup is absolutely a necessary step which should NEVER be skipped.

Yes, that's right, this is NOT the time, place or act to skimp out on following proper hygiene routines after finishing. Pegging CAN be a completely clean, safe and healthy act - but only if you take a little extra care to keep it that way.

First things first, you should remove the harness as soon as you are finished pegging.

Keeping it on too long, especially when covered in sweat and sexual fluids, can lead to chafing, discomfort or the development of red, irritated patches of skin.

Yes, even the most properly fitted harness can cause irritation if left on too long - especially as buckles and straps can loosen during the act itself and begin rubbing against sensitive areas.

So once you're finished, it's time to get that harness off! If you are the one who just finished getting the pegging of a lifetime, make sure to help out your partner, even if you're jelly-legged and practically half-asleep from that intense orgasm you just had.

Post-coital cuddling is so much more fun if BOTH partners are comfortable throughout!

Once you've got the harness off, yes, feel free to take a little time to bond and cuddle with your partner as you recover from that amazing experience you just had.

We are full supporters of post-coital cuddling as one of the most intimate things that you and your partner can do together - yes, equal to if not just as fun as sex itself.

However, this doesn't mean that you can take your harness and dildo and just throw them into a drawer somewhere, to wait just as they are until the next time you decided to pull them out.

Cleaning a strap-on usually isn't too difficult - but, if neglected, it can lead to the toy smelling funny at best or developing a nasty case of mold, mildew or rot at the worst.

Yes, the anus is where poop comes from and, even if you or your partner thoroughly prepared beforehand, there's a high chance that microscopic particles of fecal matter are clinging to the toy regardless.

This is why it is so important to clean a strap-on - or any other toy used for anal play - because a number of nasty bacteria can be transmitted through contact with human feces.

Luckily, cleaning your dildo is an uncomplicated affair.

Simply give it a wash using warm water and strong soap. Avoid anything featuring perfumed or scented add-ons, as these can have a nasty reaction with the sensitive skin of your anal and genital regions.

Once the dildo has been washed clean, dry it completely with a towel before storing it somewhere dry and room-temperature, such as in a plastic tub or hung up in your closet or wardrobe.

Keep in mind that you should NEVER attempt to clean your dildo in either the dishwasher, washing machine or dryer, as this can potentially cause permanent damage to the material and render it unfit for future use.

The harness should be cleaned separately from the dildo.

Cleaning methods will vary depending on the material from which the harness is made - see our beginner's guide to harnesses here for more information.

In general, materials such as leather will need to be cleaned by hand with soap and water similar to the dildo, while some synthetic materials and fabrics such as cotton may be able to be machine-washed.

If your harness is machine-washable; however, you should always make sure to run it through the machine on its own, as washing it together with clothing, towels or sheets can potentially cause the straps to tear.

Harnesses should be hung up in a warm, well-lit location and allowed to thoroughly dry before being put away in storage - especially leather harnesses, as they are the most susceptible to cracking, rotting or becoming infested with mildew if they are allowed to remain wet for long periods of time.

Of course, don't forget to clean yourselves off as well!

Pegging is quite the athletic act, and it can leave you both sweaty and sated- not to mention, quite possibly covered in lubricant and...certain bodily fluids.

We recommend a shared shower as a great way to calm down, clean off and bond after the act - we find that it helps continue the atmosphere of closeness and sensuality which pegging so often creates between you and your partner.

If the person on "top" is feeling any muscular soreness - which she very well might if she is still getting used to the body movements associated with pegging! - now would be a great time to offer her a nice relaxing massage as well.

In addition, pegging can be an extremely emotionally intense act, especially if you're both new to it, so including some aftercare is extremely important and is not a step that should ever be skipped even as you become more familiar with pegging as part of your bedroom life.

​But Wait, What If…

And that's that! We've guided you through a typical pegging session from start to finish, from the necessary preparation beforehand to the all-important clean up and aftercare!

If everything goes smoothly, this is all the information that you should need to have a happy, successful pegging experience with your partner that leaves you both feeling fully sexually satisfied.

But wait...what about in those instances where everything DOESN'T go smoothly?

After all, sex is messy, sex can be confusing and even difficult, and it doesn't always quite live up to the mental image which you had in your head.

This goes double for trying out brand new kinky acts in the bedroom - even if you prepare perfectly and follow every step of this guide, there's always the chance that something will go wrong.

Someone will make a mistake, something funny or decidedly unsexy will happen, and suddenly nothing will seem like it's quite going the way it should any more.

We actually have two important pieces of advice when it comes to scenarios like this.

One, it's okay. If you mess up, forgive yourself (we shouldn't even have to say that you should do the same for your partner if they are the one to cause the slip-up instead).

Sex is messy and confusing and nobody's going to get everything right the first time. Don't let your mistakes scare you away from trying new things - or even trying things over and over again if you mess up the first time.

If you need to, talk things through with your partner to figure out what went wrong and how to prevent the same thing from happening next time. As with all aspects of a healthy relationship, in situations like these, communication is king.

Second, if something does start to go wrong during a pegging session, STOP.

If you see something odd, if you feel something wrong, if your partner verbalizes or reacts in a way that indicates that something is not okay, don't keep going.

Continuing on can lead to things getting uncomfortable or even painful - not to mention it can result in an uncomfortable environment which will make you both more reluctant to ever give pegging another try.

"Stop, take a time out, reassess the situation, and then decide with your partner whether to continue - after making any necessary adjustments, of course - or end things there for the day and try again later."

We know all of this sounds scary. But we promise, making a mistake is not the end of the world - it's not even the end of your amazing pegging life, even if it may feel like it is in the moment.

To help you and your partner out, we're going to end this article with a few examples of common things that can go wrong during pegging, as well as our personal tips for how best to resolve them in a way that prioritizes the health and happiness of everyone involved

​Toilet Accident

Yes, even with all the preparation in the world, these can happen...They aren't clean, they aren't pretty, and they can be embarrassing, but we promise, it's happened to practically everyone who has ever played around with their own or their partner's ass.

You are not alone, you are not messed up or gross, and one accident does not mean that the rest of your life will not be filled with erotic anal exploration!

If a toilet accident does occur during pegging, however, we recommend pressing the pause button on the proceedings and taking some time to clean up.

Not only will the smell possibly be enough to kill the mood, continuing in this situation may not always be the healthiest and most sanitary of choices.

Clean any stains or spills which may have occurred, clean off the dildo and harness - including drying them off - and then clean the two of you as well.

However, a toilet accident does not necessarily mean that sex - or even pegging - has to end or be off the table for the day.

Once things have been thoroughly cleaned up, you're welcome to try again if you both feel up for it. If not, you can continue your erotic exploration in a different way, with a different sexual activity or scenario or even just some cuddling.

A shared shower or bath is a great option here, since both of you need to get clean anyway!

It's important to make your partner feel loved and desired in this situation. Ending things immediately might result in them feeling like you find them gross or have lost attraction to them as a result of what happened.

Even if you decide to put an end to sexual things for the day, make sure to give your partner some loving words of affirmation or gentle affection such as kisses and cuddles

Trust us, a little reminder that this hasn't changed your opinion of them and you're not "grossed out" by them can go a long way!

​Harness Slipping / Tangling / Coming Unfastened

What we like to term a "harness malfunction" is both the most frequent and simplest problem which can potentially occur during pegging.

It can take some time to get used to putting on and wearing a harness, and it's totally not unheard of for a novice pegger to accidentally leave a strap too loose or a buckle improperly fastened.

Luckily, the solution here is extremely straightforward.

"Stop, disengage from your partner, take a moment to fix the necessary problem, and then, once you've ensured that it's once again properly fitted, you can feel free to get right back to business!

We do recommend taking a moment to move, stretch or walk around to make sure that everything is still fitting properly - as we mentioned earlier, a harness which is too loose or too tight can rub against the skin and cause irritation, itching, abrasions or even pain.

Partners who are not the ones wearing the harness, this is not the time to zone out and leave it to your partner to fix everything because it's "not your problem" - stay engaged and help her out, and you'll be able to get "down and dirty" once again even more quickly.

If the damage to your strap-on apparatus is larger, such as a torn strap, you may need to take a break from pegging and remove the harness entirely.

Continuing in a situation like this can potentially lead to more permanent damage which would be more difficult or expensive to repair.

However, you are still totally good to put the harness aside and "finish things off" with a different sexual activity instead - just remember to get that harness fully repaired before planning your next pegging session!

​Someone Gets Hurt

The last thing we're going to talk about is the one thing that (probably) no pair of peggers ever wants to happen - someone gets hurt

Whether it's a too-rough thrust leaving his sphincter feeling a little bruised, or an improperly fastened strap rubbing the wrong way and resulting in a sore patch on her sensitive inner thigh, unfortunately, pegging has been known to cause all sorts of various minor irritations and issues.

Luckily, serious or permanent injuries are extremely rare and do not represent a major risk when engaging in pegging, especially if this guide is properly followed and appropriate precautions are taken - in particular, choosing a properly fitted harness and using enough lubricant.

However, even a minor amount of pain or irritation can put a damper on the mood if that's not the sort of thing that turns you on. (And if it is, no judgment for us - we are fans of sexual freedom and open exploration of kinks and fetishes!)

Even something small like a slight bruise from a harness strap or a bit too much stretching of the asshole can make it a lot harder to enjoy a pegging session as it continues.

Therefore, our general recommendation for any time pain or discomfort occurs is to stop and take a moment to ascertain the condition of all participants.

By "stop," we don't just mean "stop moving" - we recommend fully pausing and removing the dildo from any part of you or your partner's body that it is currently penetrating.

Then, verbally check in with one another. Verbalize how you are feeling, what hurts or is uncomfortable, and what you think may have happened to cause that hurt so you can both figure out the best way to proceed together.

Check for signs such as blood or visible wounds which may indicate a need for immediate medical attention. If the hurt is somewhere that you cannot easily see yourself, such as around or inside your anal area, have your partner carefully and gently check you over instead.

If there is any bleeding or visible wounds, we recommend stopping all sexual activity to treat the issue.

Continuing in that state will often only make things worse and potentially risk more serious or permanent problems occurring. Not to mention, it will create negative associations which could potentially make you and your partner less likely to want to try pegging again in the future.

This does not, however, mean you need to stop intimate activity - cuddling your partner once they've been patched up is actually highly recommended after experiencing any bedroom-related injury or irritation.

"If the pain is less severe - such as a bit of muscle soreness or a small bruise or sore spot - you can leave the decision of whether or not to continue up to the individual who experienced the injury."

As with all sexual situations, allow your partner's decision to be final - if they want to stop, then stop. If they're up for continuing, consider taking a short break for some cuddling, a massage of the sore area, or other calming, intimate actions before getting back to pounding away.

There's a lot to say about pegging.

We could easily go on and on all day about this amazing sex act - it's absolutely one of our favorite things both to talk about and to do.

But it's time to bring this guide to a close - we've taught you everything that we know. Go out and learn from the best teacher of all - experience!

Yes, you heard us right. Go and get pegging!

If you are interested in learning even more about pegging, see our guides on how to bring up the topic with your partner here or how to choose the perfect dildo and harness over here.

We're also pleased to offer a selection of titillating pegging-centric stories to help you get in the mood before giving it a try yourself.

This is also a great resource which will introduce you and your partner to the basics of strap-ons as well as listing some of the most common variations in both dildo and harness design.

And, as always, make sure to stop by our catalog to pick out a nice strap-on for your next sensual session.

Whether it's your first or your one hundredth, all pegging fans agree - you can never have too many fun, sexy, exciting toys to spice up your everyday bedroom experience!

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