5 Best BDSM Sex Toys for Beginners

Posted by Andrew Schroeder on

Do you want to spice up things in the bedroom? Well, there’s no need to go to a sex therapist for advice. All you have to do is add one ingredient that will raise the heat under the sheets! It’s called BDSM.

A quick disclaimer — it has nothing to do with “Fifty Shades of Grey.” You don’t have to be a handsome millionaire to play the dominant, or a shy and awkward virgin to be a submissive. And you don’t need to have a fully equipped dungeon in your house to engage in BDSM (even though that would be a dream come true). Using sex toys can help you create a fantastic BDSM experience for yourself and your partner. And the best part is — they are easy to get!

Sex shops offer plenty of different BDSM products, and some of them even look like medieval torture devices for the uninformed. That can be confusing and terrifying at the same time. So it may prove challenging to choose the right toy for you without assistance. That is why we’ve provided you with a list of toys that are perfect for BDSM beginners.

Adjustable Metal Nipple Clamps

Nipple clamps are an excellent tool if you want to add a sadomasochistic element to your play. But before you start the action, try them out first. The sensation and the type of pain are different from the experience you’ll get from impact play (whipping, caning, belting, etc.).

So if you’re interested in BDSM but are still a newbie, adjustable metal nipple clamps are a fantastic toy for introducing different pain sensations to your play. And this specific type is a much better choice for beginners than clover or tweezer clamps.

The best thing about them is that these are adjustable, which means you can control the pressure and the sensation. By adjusting the pressure, you can make the clamps feel just a bit uncomfortable or painful. So that makes them an excellent warm-up! Also, they’re perfect for learning your or your partner’s pain tolerance and creating a foundation for more advanced pain play further down the line.

And if you want to perform nipple torture, you can easily pull that off! Just add or reduce pressure without letting the submissive know what you’ll do next. You can also tease them by telling them you’ll do one thing and then doing something else. And if you’re feeling especially sadistic, you can even pull them off their nipples by force. However, do be careful. If you squeeze the toy way too tight, forcefully pulling it off may injure your partner.

All in all, adjustable BDSM nipple clamps are a fantastic toy for novices to pain play, as well as make for one hot BDSM scene. Just keep in mind that you shouldn’t leave them on for too long. Especially for beginners, it’s not advisable to wear them for longer than ten minutes.

Slave in Chains Submissive Collar

Putting a collar on your submissive partner can make a strong psychological impact on them. It can help reinforce your roleplay. Also, collars have a symbolic meaning in BDSM and are often used to mark the submissive as the property of the dominant partner.

There are various types and designs of submissive collars. In case you just want to use them in BDSM play, a simple leather collar will do. It’s also a good idea to get a leash with it to have “the whole package.”

Even though a BDSM collar can’t really heart you, make sure it’s not too tight. If you can put your finger between the neck and the collar, you’re good to go. And don’t use the BDSM sub collar or the leash for choking! If you want to experiment with breathplay, start by using your hands instead.

But how can you utilize the collar and the leash to improve your BDSM experience? Well, the most obvious idea that would cross anyone’s mind is puppy play — a form of a roleplay in which the dominant plays the role of an owner while the submissive takes the role of a pet. But if that is not your cup of tea, you have plenty of additional options out there! Just use your imagination.

For example, you can also use this BDSM toy if you’re into humiliation. A lot of people would feel at least a bit degraded when forced to wear a collar. And since it often makes the submissive feel as if they belong to the dominant partner, it’s not a bad idea to use that during any BDSM play.

Open Legs Shoulder Mounted Sex Swing

Now, before buying a BDSM sex swing, make sure you have a suitable place for it. Also, when setting it up, please read the instructions, look for advice on the internet, or ask someone who knows how to do it to help you. It’s not that difficult, but you want to do it right! That way, you will avoid any potentially dangerous situations, like the swing falling while you’re using it.

Once you install it properly, you’re ready to introduce new levels of excitement to your sex life! For instance, you can experiment with various sex positions that you would never get the chance to try out without a sex swing. That way, you might even find various sweet spots you never knew existed and experience mind-blowing orgasms.

Also, a sex swing can be of great help if you want to perform sexual domination. It gives you more dominance over your submissive — the speed, the angle, and the intensity of your thrusting are yours to control, for example. The experience can get even more interesting if you include other toys, like a vibrator.

And if you’re into bondage, you can make the scene even more intense by adding that element as well. There are specially designed bondage sex swings that will make it easy to tie someone to them. But even if you don’t have one, you can always use regular rope. Just be careful not to cut off their circulation.

Adjustable Silicone Male Chastity Device

If you’re interested in orgasm control and femdom, then a male chastity device (cock cage) may be the perfect toy for you! Masturbation is impossible for a person wearing one. It won’t even let them get an erection!

Namely, there are different types of chastity devices, both for men and women. However, we’re going to focus on the male counterpart here, as those are more popular! But how do you choose the best BDSM cock cage for you?

For starters, it’s a good idea to stick to adjustable ones that you can adjust to your size. Also, a silicone chastity device is undoubtedly more comfortable than a metal one. That makes these particularly suitable for beginners who aren’t used to wearing them.

This toy isn’t harmful, but you should still use it responsibly. So take your time to get used to the feeling of your penis being locked inside one. And if you decide to play with it for a while, it’s best to try abstaining from sex for a couple of days first, just to make sure you can handle it.

So once you get used to the sensation of being locked up, you can get your domination play to a whole new level! The dominant partner can sexually tease their submissive and watch them squirm as they get excited but are unable to achieve an erection.

And just knowing that your intimate parts are kept under a key that your partner holds is enough to make you feel vulnerable and helpless. That is why playing with a BDSM chastity device will make both the dominant and the submissive feel the power exchange in the fullest.

Pegging Fetish — 5-Inch Strap-On

Strap-on is a toy anyone who’s into femdom should own. It’s a harness that goes around one’s hips and between their legs, with a dildo attached to it. This toy will give the dominant (most often) female a new sense of power and new possibilities to demonstrate it.

Of course, this type of BDSM activity isn’t for everyone, and that is quite understandable. Neither every submissive male nor dominant female would be thrilled by the idea. So before you start experimenting with pegging fetish, think carefully about whether or not it is for you.

BDSM strap-on is a fantastic tool for both sexual domination and humiliation. And you don’t have to limit yourselves to anal sex! You can also try deepthroat training and similar kinks. The creative possibilities with this toy are almost endless!

It is no secret that anal sex is hugely pleasing to men, so trying out this kind of role reversal can be life-changing! But if you’re doing it for the first time, don’t go overboard and get a strap-on with a huge dildo. A 5-inch one would be more of an appropriate choice for a beginner. And of course, don’t forget the lube!


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