Men and Sex: The Battle for Endurance
Many men want to last longer in the bedroom for a variety of reasons. Unfortunately, though, their expectations are often set up to be a little too high. As a result, many men all over the world feel like they are underperforming when in fact they are usually completely average. It’s the penis length argument all over again.
Much of the misconceptions are a direct result of pornography. As the internet has become more and more widespread, men young and old have much freer access to pornography than ever before. These movies are highly staged and completely unrealistic.
In many movies, the men will be chiselled with ‘perfect gym bodies’ and not an ounce of fat on the body. (It’s not surprising! All they do is have sex all day and sex is great exercise!) They also have huge penises (the camera makes it look bigger, just like your chin or belly!) And can go for hours and hours (come on, you didn’t really think this was all done in one take did you?).
The reality is the men in porn are paid to keep the toned abs and arms. They literally earn money from working out. They also have people on set to help keep them erect and might suffer from similar problems keeping it hard as many of us mere mortals. Finally, their incredible stamina might not even be the result of a single day’s sex but could even be spread over an entire week and edited to look like the same session!
Even if you aren’t a fan of porn and haven’t watched much (or any), chances are you’ll have still been exposed to it somehow. Even if it’s just one of your friends bragging about how long he lasts, it might make you wonder if you don’t last long enough (hint: he’s likely lying!)
This is before we even touch on the fact that men don’t really talk about sex! Everyone just goes along with these predetermined ideas of what a normal penis and normal sex is, when in reality if we were all just honest with each other we'd probably learn that were pretty much all in the same boat.
Women on the other hand, actually do last longer, and most of the time this isn’t through choice! Many women would love to be able to quickly orgasm and carry on with their lives. Unfortunately, it just doesn’t work that way though. Some studies think even as few as 30 percent of women actually reach orgasm during sex compared to nearly all men.
Women tend to need a different kind of stimulation than just penetration especially stimulation that focuses on the clitoris, and many take at least 20 minutes to reach orgasm even with clitoral stimulation. Some take longer.
So, with this in mind, there are some genuine reasons a man might want to last longer. While your partner might tell you it’s fine and she doesn’t care, it doesn’t change the fact that sex is intimate and having it last longer can massively improve your relationship. Plus, caring about her needs will make her happy, and what sensitive and caring man wouldn’t want that?
How Long Do Men Usually Take to Orgasm?
So now you know your sexual expectations are completely bonkers, have a guess how long the average man lasts during sex...
3 to 7 minutes
Yep. That s it!
Not much is it. Unfortunately, this is just how were wired. In, sperm, done.
While we’re destroying your sexual Expectations, the average length of a penis is just over five inches. So, chances are, you aren’t below average like you’ve been telling yourself.
Even if you are below average in length and stamina, it doesn’t matter! Cock rings can give you long-lasting erections, and there are tips you can follow to extend the fun in bed. Believe it or not, bigger isn’t always better.
Can Cock Rings Help You Last Longer?
Cock rings are a great tool to help when you want to last longer. They work by restricting the blood flow out of the penis. This creates an imbalance where blood enters faster than it leaves, so helps to keep the penis hard for longer.
This can help for a number of reasons, such as helping people with erectile dysfunction or other penile problems to maintain an erection. They can also work wonders for people who suffer from premature ejaculation as part of the ring restricts the vas deferens which is the tube that ejaculate exits the body through.
Even without any kinds of medical needs, a cock ring will still help you maintain an erection longer than you normally do. They can make your penis appear larger and girthier than before, so you might feel an extra boost of confidence while wearing your ring which might subconsciously help you last longer. Some cock rings go around the testicles as well as the penis, so they can make you much more able to control their orgasms.
Ultimately, what a cock ring offers you is entirely down to you and your penis. Some people try them and never look back. Others try them once, don’t enjoy it, and never bother again. Many are somewhere in the middle. The only way to find out where you fall on the spectrum is to try them.
Are There Alternatives if You Can’t Use Cock Rings?
So, what happens when you’ve tried a cock ring and had no measurable benefit from it. Are you out of luck? Doomed to a quick and unsatisfying sex life forever?
Obviously, I’m being a little dramatic. Cock rings aren’t the only thing that can help you in the bedroom.
Two of the easiest are special condoms and special cream. Both aim to slightly numb the penis, making everything a little more sensitive so you don’t reach orgasm too quickly. The condoms might even have a tighter base ring to somewhat act like a cock ring and a cream all in one.
Unfortunately, these are the only quick fixes. That isn’t the end of the world though because most quick fixes only treat the symptoms and not the cause, and don’t last forever. The best way you can try to combat premature ejaculation or just last longer in bed is (surprise, surprise) to look after yourself.
Regular exercise, a better diet, and specifically targeting the problem area can all help. This can include pelvic floor exercises (which are good for incontinence too) or even using a fake vagina or flashlight to practise. Over time you’ll become more used to the sensations and be able to last longer and longer before reaching orgasm.
If you still feel like you’re finishing too fast, try switching things up! Bring a vibrator with you and spend some time solely focusing on your partner before finishing off with penetrative sex. You can continue to use the vibrator to supplement your manhood, and hopefully she’ll be enjoying it so much that it won’t matter how fast you finish.
Another idea is to space the sex out a little. You can do a sort period of sex followed by some oral, stroking, massage, vibrator play, literally anything she enjoys. By splitting it up you give your penis time to recover and hopefully last a lot longer overall.
While cock rings might not be the miracle cure you’re looking for, they can definitely help. You’ve got nothing to lose, and a world of sexual pleasure to gain. So, what are you waiting for? Pick on up today and see what good it can do you and your penis!