Everyone knows men are capable of ejaculating during orgasm. It’s less commonly discussed that women have the same abilities. While a woman’s ejaculate isn’t intended for reproduction, it’s a side effect which can be quite explosive, and at times unexpected for a woman. Female ejaculation is commonly referred to as squirting.

What is Squirting?

Squirting is the expulsion of fluid from the female body at the height of orgasm. For a lot of women, this phenomenon can be unusual, and sometimes looked at negatively. In appearance, it can seem a lot like the woman is urinating, so many try to suppress these urges out of fear of ridicule or disgust. For some men though, squirting can actually be a huge turn on. Knowing that you are pleasing your woman so well that a completely uncontrollable reaction is happening can be the ultimate pat on the back.

Many women will have never given squirting a second thought. Some go their whole lives without experiencing it, and don’t want to. For some women though, this will be a natural part of sex, and happens every single time they orgasm. This can give the impression that only some women are capable of squirting, but this is far from the truth.

When a women squirts, the fluid is expelled through the paraurethral ducts near the entrance of the vagina. This fluid doesn’t come from the bladder, but instead from a gland named the Skene’s gland. It’s a very similar gland to the prostate in a male, and the fluid it produces is also very similar. All women have these physical parts in their body, it’s just a matter of stimulating them the right way for this process to activate.

Why Would You Want to Squirt?

A common question when it comes to squirting is why you’d even want to bother. After all, if you can have perfectly good sex without fluid getting everywhere then why would you want all of the extra mess? Well there’s the simple matter of seeing if you can. Or the extra arousal some men get from being able to make it happen. For most women though, a squirting orgasm will be one of the most intense you could possibly have, and this is plenty of reason to actually go the whole way.

Squirting orgasms are often thought of as the same thing as a G-spot orgasm. Both are very powerful, and while there is some truth to this, it’s possible to have a G-spot orgasm without squirting. Most of the time a woman is able to squirt, it is due to G-spot stimulation, so the two practises do get lumped together a lot of the time.

Unlike a G-spot orgasm though, a squirting orgasm isn’t just intense. A squirting orgasm is a complete build-up of sexual feelings, all released in one powerful, vigorous orgasm strong enough to actually expel fluid from your body. If you’ve never seen a video of a woman squirt, take a look for yourself. These releases can be extremely powerful. It usually takes quite a bit more effort, will make a lot more mess, and leave you feeling very drained afterwards, but almost anyone who has experienced one will tell you that it’s well worth the effort.

Squirting with a Vibrator

If you’ve decided you want to learn how to squirt then there’s a few things you should do before you get started. Your vibrator is the perfect tool to help you get there, as the continual stimulation it provides is perfect to push you over the edge. It might not even happen the first time, but these are a few things that can make you feel a little bit more comfortable. Squirting is all about fully relaxing after all.

To start with, you’ll probably want to go to the bathroom before you begin. During the process, you’re almost certainly going to feel like you need to wee. This is totally normal, but our bodies natural reaction is to tense up and stop this from happening. We need the opposite to happen, so being sure you have an empty bladder means you won’t be filled with worries about what is actually about to come out of your body.

You’ll also want to put some towels down. With female ejaculation, there’s no telling how much you’re going to get. It could be a few drops, or it could be a few cups. Unless you don’t mind spending some time shampooing your carpet and mattress once you’re done, having a towel down can really speed up cleaning at the end.

Finally, you’re going to want to get yourself in the mood. You can do this however you normally would. Candles, music, massage oils, or just teasing the various erogenous zones with your vibrator are all great places to start. The more aroused you are, the more your G-spot will swell, and as it seems so intricately linked to female squirting, waking up the G-spot makes the whole process a lot easier.

Now you’re free to get down to it whichever way you prefer. The aim is to simply bring yourself to orgasm. Once you reach it, rather than tensing up you need to relax your entire body, and let everything push out of you. For some women it can help to push downwards with the pelvic floor muscles, much like you would when using the bathroom, to encourage the squirting to begin.

If you manage to finish and no squirting has happened, there’s a couple of things you can try. One is to give the G-spot some love, just as you begin to approach orgasm. G-spot stimulation is the key for a lot of women to first experience squirting. Another consideration, is that as things reach orgasm, a lot of the female genitals become incredibly sensitive. Many women at this point will reduce the stimulation, as it begins to feel too much for them to handle. We want to do the opposite, and push through this sensitivity to bring you to a whole new height of orgasm.

Other toys like dildos can help as well. If it's your first time, you may try a beginner dildo or a skinny dildo (some can go as skinny as a 1 inch diameter dildo, so choose your comfort levels carefully), but other types—like tentacle dildos—are made in a unique shape and with a special focus on G-spot stimulation. A wide dildo offers a fuller sensation, but you may only get off depending on the hardness of the material, so a large glass dildo would be perfect for you if you want a firmer stimulation. If it's softness and pliability you prefer, choose a silicone dildo. And for a more unique kind of release, enhance your squirting sessions with the squirting dildo.

It's important to remember that everyone's different. Some can reach orgasm, and even squirt using just a finger, while others might need a little assistance. Whatever toys you are using, you might need to practice a bit to reach the squirting phase, but don’t be disheartened. We all have the same parts in our body, so it’s definitely possible for any woman. You won’t regret your hard work, as most squirting orgasms will leave you weak kneed, wobbly legged, and light headed. Once you’ve done it once, you’ll wonder why it took you so long to try it in the first place.