Ever used a sex toy before? Then there’s a good chance you’ve used dildos! These little pleasure rods are one of the most common toys found in the average collection (even for men), so it might seem like a guide teaching you how to use a dildo is a little unnecessary.
But just because you know where to put a dildo, it doesn’t mean you know how to really use it.
Like every sex toy, there’s plenty of great ways for you to get more from a dildo, including different techniques, positions or even just trying a different dildo!
Not got time for the full page? Well here’s the key takeaways:
- Take things slow and get yourself in the mood.
- Use plenty of lube.
- Choose the right dildo for you.
- Aim for your pleasure spots.
- Make sure you clean your dildo after use.
So whether you’re a regular thruster or a terrified beginner, let’s dive into everything your dildo has to offer.
What’s the Fuss About Dildos?
Let’s assume you’ve just found the planet Earth, from some far-flung corner of the galaxy. You’ve been watching and observing for a while, and seen that loads and loads of these “hu-mans” spend their evenings inserting and removing these little rods into their own bodies. What the hell is going on?!?
Well my intrepid traveler, you’ve just discovered your first sex toy. These fantastic devices are designed for one thing, and one thing only: pleasure.
These sometimes simple, sometimes fantastical devices can take a huge range of different shapes and sizes, but the simplest has to be the humble dildo. Generally these are designed to loosely resemble a penis, but can feature more or less realistic textures like cyberskin depending on what kind of pleasure you’re after.
They aren’t just human penises either! Dildos can come resembling dog cocks, horse cocks, or even fantasy dildos that resemble creatures like dragons!
It’s not just the shape that changes either. Dildos can be made of different materials like metal, silicone, plastic or even glass. Some will be completely vanilla, and others will have additional features like vibration or temperature changes. There’s even ejaculating dildos!
With so much pleasure available from such a simple toy, our extraterrestrial observers would probably be surprised that we ever had normal sex at all!
So, How Do You Use a Dildo?
So many options, using a dildo must be pretty complicated, right? Luckily, no! Dildos are one of the simplest sex toys to try, and one of the easiest to start enjoying. Generally, if you know how to use a penis, you’re gonna know how to use a dildo.
Let’s start with the basic steps:
- Start by making sure your dildo is clean and in good condition. If you spot any damaged or particularly bad wear and tear, then you shouldn’t keep using your dildo. Similarly, if it isn’t kept clean then you could introduce bacteria to your genitals which can cause health issues.
- Take some time to get in the mood. Being aroused will make using your dildo much easier, and more enjoyable. Watch a movie with a hot actor in it, read a steamy romance novel, or just spend a little time stroking and turning yourself on.
- Use Lubrication! No matter how wet you get when you’re in the mood, using sex toys is simply better with lube. Don’t be afraid to put some on your dildo and yourself, and if you’re planning on using anal dildos then use even more!
- Try out different positions! You don’t have to just lie on your back in slide it in missionary style. Try out all kinds of different positions and see what feels great. You might find a new favorite that you can convince your partner to try too!
- Start off slow. Don’t put the whole dildo in at once and start thrusting like crazy. Start with just the tip and gradually go deeper. Once you’ve taken the entire thing, then start speeding up a bit more and find your ideal groove.
Just putting a dildo into your body and moving it back and forth is only the start though. You might be able to bring yourself to orgasm with simple movements, but really enjoying your dildo takes a little more effort. It’s worth it though!
One of the simplest ways to increase your enjoyment is just by focusing on the right spots. For many women, this will be the G-spot.
That’s right ladies, you don’t need a vibrator to hit the G-spot! There’s a few different ways a dildo can give you stimulation in exactly the right places.
The easiest way to hit the G-spot is to simply change your angle. A lot of the sensations you feel during vaginal penetration come from the pressure of the penis (or sex toy) pressing against the internal parts of the clitoris. A little deeper is the G-spot, and in a similar way the pleasure comes from the pressure and rubbing of the penis or toy against it.
With a penis, it can sometimes be hard to get this stimulation into the right spot, partly because of the angles and party because it’s attached to someone else’s body. With a dildo, you have none of these issues. You’re free to manipulate it into almost any position you can think of, and apply just the right amount of pressure to bring you to the brink of ecstasy.
If the G-spot doesn’t do it for you (or you just haven’t found it yet), then you can also try out some deep penetration. Sure, if you’ve got a man who’s particularly well endowed then this might not be new for you, but even the biggest guy can’t compete with some of the largest dildos. These are monsters both in length, and girth, and can provide experiences that just aren’t possible with the gifts God gave us. Whether it’s stretching, the full feeling, or even cervix stimulation, there’s plenty to explore with an extra long dildo.
The of course, there’s the forbidden fruit... The danger zone... The place many people dare not go…
We’re talking about your butt! Dildos are fantastic ways to start exploring anal stimulation, and can work as a great way of warming up to other kinds of anal play or practicing for anal penetration.
A lot of the time anal stimulation will be less exciting than vaginal stimulation, but it’s still a great thing to explore. Once you become more comfortable with anal penetration, you can even combine it with another dildo or a penis and try out double penetration, which for many women is the pinnacle of pleasure.
Dildos aren’t just for women though, and men who are brave enough to explore their nether regions with these pleasure poles are in for a treat! Men have a spot similar to the G-spot, often called the P-spot. This is the prostate gland, and unfortunately it’s found quite deep inside the male pelvic region, which makes stimulating it quite difficult.
Luckily a dildo is the ideal tool, as it can penetrate deep into the anus and rub the prostate gland. It takes a little practise to find the right spot, but men who do can be rewarded with orgasms that don’t even need penile stimulation. Or they can combine prostate and penis stimulation for some truly explosive orgasms.
We’ve hinted at it a little, but whatever your genitals are you can combine dildo play with almost any other kind of sexual activity to amp up the pleasure even more. Touching breasts, legs, or any sensitive spot in gentle and seductive ways can add to the experience. Or bringing your dildo in during sex is another great way to amplify the pleasure.
Aftercare for You and Your Sex Toy
I’m sure some of you will already know the joys of decompressing and discussing a sexual experience after it happens. Sometimes guys aren’t as into it, but spending a little time on aftercare can both improve the experience you’ve just had, and make next time even better!
Obviously, discussing what you enjoyed and what you didn’t enjoy is the simplest way of doing this. Even if you’re playing alone, you can spend some time reflecting on the experience and think about what you might do differently this time.
It might seem like a small thing, but sexual experiences can leave you feeling very vulnerable. Taking the time to process your feelings and give them space to be felt can do wonders for your overall mental health.
Once you’re done with the mental aftercare, it’s time for the physical! Obviously you’re going to want to clean up. If you’ve taken our advice and used lubrication during your play, then you’ll want to have a good wash to clear everything off your body.
Similarly, you’ll need to clean your dildo. Most dildos can be cleaned with warm, soapy water and a cloth, or you can use some sex toy cleanser. Once you’ve cleaned your dildo, you need to make sure that it’s completely dry and store it on a cool dry place. Allowing moisture to remain on it can lead to mold, which can give you a nasty surprise the next time you use it!
There Are So Many Types, so Where Do You Start?
So which dildo should you choose to maximise pleasure? It’s a simple question, but there isn’t really a simple answer where we point you to one specific product and say “get that one”. Which dildo you choose will depend on your own preferences and how you plan to use it.
For example, if you’re only looking for G-spot stimulation then a shorter, girthier dildo will work well. On the other hand, if you’re looking to go deep and seek out the A-spot (another pleasure spot hidden even deeper in the vagina) then a longer dildo makes sense.
Generally if you’re a complete beginner, the something simple, on the shorter side, and not too wide is what we’d recommend. Once you’ve got the hang of using a dildo there’s plenty of options to choose from. Lets look at a few of them and talk about why you might want to choose them.
Realistic
Lots of people get put off sex toys because they look “weird” and “unnatural”. That’s where realistic dildos come in. These are designed to look just like the real thing, veins and all!
Even the feel of these dildos is designed to mimic the real thing. While silicone already feels soft and sensitive, many realistic dildos are made out in different ways to make them feel even more like real skin.
If you’re looking for an experience that’s as close to sex as you can get with sex toys, then you can’t go wrong with a realistic dildo.
Curved Dildos
The most common version of a dildo that you might imagine is the simple, straight rod. With these you’ll need to find the right angle to hit the G or P spot. Luckily we’re long past the times of all sex toys being made the same, with more and more toys including features that help increase your enjoyment of them.
Curved dildos are one of these toys, featuring a slight curve to help you target the right spots. Some are gently curved and others are more drastically curved, so you can experiment with different versions to find the ideal one for your body.
If you’re looking for something that will make stimulating the G-spot or P-spot simpler and easier, then a curved dildo is exactly what you need.
Vibrating Dildos
Why settle for one toy when you can have the best of both? A vibrating dildo takes the best of both toys and combines them into one great package.
Just like other vibrating toys, you can experiment with plenty of different patterns and intensities to change up the experience.
If just a dildo isn’t doing enough for you, or you don’t usually orgasm from penetration, then try out a vibrating dildo. You might find that pleasure cums easier than ever!
Anal Dildo
You might wonder what makes an anal dildo any different to a regular dildo. They’re the same shape, and the same toy, right?
Well there’s one key difference to look out for. Anal toys should always have a flared base, as they can get sucked completely inside your body and get stuck.
That means if you’re looking for a dildo to enjoy some anal sensations, then you need to be looking for anal dildos with flared bases. Luckily there’s plenty of options, and you can still find ones with many features like curves or vibrations.
Suction Cup Dildo
One of the most annoying parts about using a dildo is having to hold it and manually move it back and forth, in and out of your body. No matter how realistic the dildo you choose it, it’s still not really much like sex!
If you’re looking for an even more authentic experience then a suction cup dildo can give you what you need. These all come with a simple suction cup attached to the base, which lets you attach it to nearly any flat surface. That means you can try out different positions like doggy or cowgirl.
Most importantly though, you can ride your dildo! Sometimes all it takes to make a toy more enjoyable is a different way of using it, and riding is very different to just moving your dildo back and forth, so these are a great choice.
Finding the Perfect Material
The designs of the dildo aren’t the only choices you have available. There’s also plenty of different materials to try out!
Silicone, TPE, metal and even glass all have dildos made from them, and each can provide a different feeling. Silicone and TPE are generally softer and more flexible, so can more easily bend to hit specific spots. Meanwhile metal and glass are much firmer, so are great for applying large amounts of pressure to your pleasure spots.
What About All the Sizes?
Even though we’ve covered a variety of different styles, we’ve barely touched on the different sizes of dildo. Almost all styles are available in a range of sizes, from small thin dildos that are only a few inches long, right up to 12+ inch monstrously huge dildos!
Similarly, there’s plenty of choice with the girth. You might want to choose something thin and easy to slide inside, or experience the stretch of a massive wide cock.
Whatever your preferences there’s a great female toy for you, so start browsing now and try out some of the tips in this article for yourself!
