What is a Strapon?

You are filled - stuffed full and loving it.

With each movement of your partner, the hardness inside you thrusts in, out, leaving you empty for a few tantalizing seconds before slamming back in and once again stuffing you to the brim.

You feel squeezed and stretched in the most delectable manner - you find yourself totally unable to keep silent as you moan over and over again from the endless, pulsing pleasure.

The next thrust sees your partner finding just the right depth and angle, hitting a spot deep within you that sets off bursts of fireworks behind your eyes.

You scream out incoherent words, trying desperately to tell your partner how close you are to finishing but in truth so overcome with ecstasy that you are unable to make any noise but a guttural moan of pure lust.

As your peak approaches, you feel your entire body beginning to tense and clench, your toes curling and your hands fisting in the bedsheets as you grip the thick column of sturdy, hard silicone pounding deep within you…

Wait

What was that?

Silicone?

Yes, you read that right.

Today, we're here to talk about a certain erotic little product which is designed to give sex fiends of all shapes, sizes and orientations the feeling of deep, thorough penetration.

And just what is this magical little tool, the giver of explosive orgasms, the caresser of G-spots and prostates?

Why, in fact, it just so happens to be something called a strap-on.

Perhaps you've heard of the strap-on before. Maybe your friend raved at you over dinner last week about the sexy new model that their partner purchased for their anniversary, and how it's absolutely unmatched in its ability to hit all their most sensitive spots.

You might even have experimented with a strap-on yourself, whether it was a one-off experience at a party or club or a regular occurrence in the bed you share with your partner or partners.

But perhaps this toy, which brings so much pleasure to couples all around the world every year, is completely new to you.

Maybe you haven't heard of the strap-on before, but these teasing little tidbits of erotic anticipation we've dangled in front of you have gotten you all hot and bothered - and intrigued to learn more!

Well then, you've come to the right place!

We are proud to introduce our brand new line of strap-ons, available in a mind-blowingly wide variety of shapes, sizes, colors, and materials. We've truly got something for everyone here!

Of course, if you're new to the wide wonderful world of strap-ons, you might be interested in learning just exactly what they are and how they work before deciding to make a purchase.

If that description sounds like it fits you, then read on! Our articles and guides are chock full of helpful information about every aspect of the strap-on - in fact, one might even be able to say that they're as full as your body's holes are going to be once you've purchased one of our unbeatable products!

​What Is a Strap-On?

In general, a strap-on can be defined as a sex toy consisting of two distinct but connected parts: a penis-shaped object, such as a dildo, attached to a harness or series of straps which allow it to be worn on the body.

The name "strap-on" comes from the fact that straps are the primary method of securing these toys to the wearer's form. However, because they are in essence dildos with additional features, they are sometimes also referred to more specifically as "strap-on dildos".

Most strap-ons are extremely adjustable and can be worn by people of all heights and body types with minimal difficulty.

They come in a number of styles - the most common of which are described later in this article - which allow customers to choose the variety that best suits their particular body.

While most are meant to be worn on the body, there are also a variant type of strap-ons which are meant to attach to household objects instead.

They are typically used for solo activities rather than partner-focused sex, as fastening a strap-on to a solid object allows you to easily penetrate yourself with the dildo without needing a partner - or, in some cases, without even needing to use your hands!

The majority of object focused strap-ons are typically meant to attach to chairs, couches, beds or even walls. However, for a little extra momentum or "bounce" during play, try connecting your strap-on to a massage chair, rocking chair or exercise ball!

When looking to purchase a strap-on, it is important to focus on both elements of the design.

It's not just about finding a dildo in the right size, color and shape. The harness should fit and be comfortable - neither too tight or too lose in order to eliminate the risk of itching or chafing.

You need to choose both a dildo and a harness which match you and your partner's tastes in order to enhance your bedroom experience to the absolute max!

​Anatomy Of A Strap-On: The Dildo

The "dildo" or "phallus" is the part of a strap-on which is generally designed to mimic the shape of the penis.

Just like with real life penises, strap-on dildos come in a staggeringly large range of shapes and sizes, from just a few inches to well over a foot in length.

When making a purchase, make sure to consider every aspect - not just the length but also the thickness, general shape, texture, and the presence or absence of additional features such as simulated veins, foreskin or testicles.

As with non-harnessed dildos, strap-on dildos can be divided into "realistic" and "nonrealistic" varieties.

Realistic dildos typically come in flesh tones (shades of peach, tan and brown), are between 3 and 10 inches in length, and give attention to real-life penis features such as defined heads, veins and even pubic hair. Most realistic dildos also include testicles, although this is not a requirement.

In general, a realistic dildo attempts to simulate the appearance - both look and feel - of an actual penis as accurately possible. Some are even specifically modeled after real life individuals, such as porn stars or other famous actors!

On the other hand, non-realistic dildos typically do not resemble actual human penises in any way other than their general shape and possibly their size.

They come in a wide range of colors, from solid blacks, reds and pinks to to glittering metallic golds and silvers and bright neon or rainbow patterns.

Sizes tend to be more exaggerated - while "normal" lengths of 4-8 inches can certainly be found, there are also non-realistic dildos which extend as long as a foot (12 inches) or possibly even further.

They can also be found in extreme thicknesses and unusual shapes such as sharp curves or even corkscrews or twists.

Some non-realistic dildos are designed to resemble the penises of various animals - both real life animals such as dogs, cats and horses, based on actual data obtained from observing these species, and models approximating the genitals of fictional animals like dragons, werewolves, mermen or extraterrestrials.

You can even find some non-realistic dildos inspired by the cocks of famous film and TV nonhumans, such as the Na'vi of Avatar or the vampires of Twilight.

Both types of dildo - the plausible and the not so plausible - can be made to feature add-ons designed to enhance the pleasure of either or both partners.

The most common method of doing this is by using a vibrating or rotating dildo, which moves (usually at one of a wide range of adjustable speeds) while inside you, bringing you to greater orgasmic heights more quickly than you've ever experienced before.

Other options include extra-pleasurable textures such as ridges, grooves and bumps, the ability to engage in temperature play (dildos which can be safely heated or cooled before beginning bedroom activities), or additional features allowing for simultaneous clitoris and G-spot stimulation.

Dildos with a curved design are becoming increasingly popular for their ability to stimulate both the female G-spot and the male prostate, allowing them to be enjoyed by individuals of all sexes and gender expressions.

You can even find some strap-ons which build add-ons into the harness that allow the person wearing it to receive pleasure as well, rather than merely giving it to their partner.

The most popular of these is probably the double-headed dildo; as its name suggests, it features two shafts, usually facing in opposite directions from one another, allowing both partners to be penetrated simultaneously.

Like standard dildos, strap-on dildos can be made from any number of materials.

Today, the most commonly used material is probably silicone, due to possessing a softness and yielding texture similar to real human flesh.

If you've never purchased a strap-on or dildo of any kind before and are not sure exactly what you would like best, we recommend starting out with silicone. However, you can also find dildos made from plastic, both synthetic and natural latex, and even more "exotic" materials such as metal, glass or wood.

If you just can't decide, you can buy many different ones and start a collection featuring all of your favorite materials!

​Anatomy Of A Strap-On: The Harness

The harness is the part of the strap-on which is designed to attach either to the wearer's body or to a stationary object such as a chair or wall.

Most strap-ons are adjustable, meaning that they can easily be worn by people of various heights and sizes. Still, it is often recommended that you know or take your measurements in key areas - for example the waist, hips, and the circumference of the upper thigh - in order to help you ensure that any purchased harness will fit you comfortably.

Harnesses should be tight enough not to move or slip around during even the roughest of bedroom play, but not so tight as to cause bruises, blistering, itching or chafing.

If you notice any red or irritated patches of skin beginning to appear after your strap-on sessions, we recommend taking a break to re-check and re-adjust the fit of your harness.

Like dildos, harnesses can be made from a variety of materials. You should choose the harness material which best suits your individual tastes - we firmly believe that the most important qualities of a harness are whether or not it is comfortable and supportive.

If you're not sure what would fit you best, some sellers of adult products allow you to try on harnesses and get an idea of their fit before making your final purchase.

Some of the most popular harness materials currently on the market include:

  • Leather:

    Widely considered to be the "original" ​or "first" harness material, leather maintains its popularity today due to its unparalleled firm, sturdy and supportive nature. A leather harness can easily last for months or even years without fraying, tearing or needing to be replaced. It is also capable of being quite comfortable, as leather can be polished and softened to remove any rough or tight sections.

    However, it is important to note that leather harnesses will, on average, require a greater amount of cleaning and maintenance, as the material does have a tendency to pick up permanent stains.

    Leather items should always be cleaned and dried by hand - machine washing them is NOT recommended as it can potentially cause severe damage.

  • Cotton (and other fabrics):

    Fabric straps lack the sturdiness and durability of leather, meaning that they will on average need to be replaced far more frequently. However, they are extremely soft and comfortable, and present almost no risk of hurting or irritating the wearer's skin in any way.

    Cotton is also hypoallergenic, meaning that it can safely be worn by anyone. Cotton straps make a great "first choice" if you want to experiment with strap-ons for the first time but are not sure if you want to make them a permanent addition to your toy collection.

  • Soft Plastic:

    Soft plastic harnesses are considered by many to represent the "happy medium" between the two materials listed above - they are more durable than cotton but do not typically come with the strict and intense cleaning requirements associated with leather.

    However, it is important to keep in mind that soft plastic is generally not considered as comfortable as other materials. While it is not associated with any risks of skin damage of irritation, the stiffer, firmer texture of plastic harnesses may not be for everyone.

  • Nylon (and other similar synthetic materials):

    After leather, nylon is probably currently the second most popular harness material on the market. It is beloved by many due to its inexpensive nature, as a nylon harness will typically be significantly cheaper than a leather one and may even be cheaper than one made from cotton, latex or plastic.

    Nylon harnesses also offer the benefit of being one hundred percent machine washable, making them quicker and easier to clean than many other alternatives. (However, keep in mind that you should always run your harness through the washing machine on its own, rather than mixing it with clothing or other laundry items, in order to prevent damage.)

    While nylon is not as durable as leather or as comfortable as cotton, many find the low price and ease of maintenance outweigh any potential disadvantages.

  • Latex:

    Latex's primary benefit as a harness material is its extreme elasticity This means that the latex can stretch and conform to the shape of your body, embracing your curves and angles without the risk of tearing or squeezing too tightly.

    Because of this flexible, elastic nature, latex has also been identified as one of the most comfortable materials for making a harness. However, there is one important consideration which must always be kept in mind when purchasing a harness - or, in truth, any other latex toy or clothing item.

    ALWAYS make sure that your purchase is made from 100% natural latex, as both synthetic latex and partial natural-synthetic blends are frequently made with harsh chemicals not deemed safe for human use. Natural latex is completely sustainable, environmentally friendly, hypoallergenic and presents no health risks, making it the superior choice no matter what sort of item you are looking for.

  • Polyvinyl chloride (PVC):

    Just as nylon is considered a less expensive synthetic alternative to leather, PVC can be characterized as the less expensive synthetic alternative to latex. It is somewhat elastic - albeit less so than 100% natural latex - and is considered fairly comfortable and easy to maintain. However, PVC is also one of the least durable harness materials available, meaning that you may find yourself needing to replace your PVC harness after only a few months or even weeks of use.

If you find yourself unsure of what to choose even after reading through this list, our advice would be as follows:

If comfort is the most important factor for you when it comes to a strap-on harness, you should choose natural latex or cotton.

However, if you instead value durability as the most important harness quality, a leather harness would be the right purchase for you.

Lastly, if a low price has a high importance for you, look for a synthetic harness made of something like nylon or PVC - BUT always make sure to check the chemical makeup of the item before purchasing to ensure that no potentially harmful or risky components are included.

The material from which a strap-on harness is made is only one of two important factors which you should be considering as you shop. The other is most commonly referred to as the harness's style.

The style of a harness determines elements such as how many straps it possesses, how it fastens to your body and how the dildo is attached.

Luckily, harnesses are extremely customizable and flexible when it comes to design. It is very easy to find a style that will suit your personal tastes.

If none of the common styles work for you, you can look for or even commission variations which cater to your unique needs.

It is always important to consider your own personal comfort when choosing a harness style

To help you get started, we're going to introduce you to the three most common strap-on harness styles currently available for purchase:

  • Two-strap harness:

    Also referred to as a "thong harness," or "G-string harness," ​this apparatus is so named because of its resemblance to the aforementioned types of underwear. One strap is fastened around the wearer's waist, while the other runs between their legs from front to back.

    The dildo is fastened between the legs in the front in order to most closely mimic the location of the penis. These harnesses tend to be inexpensive when compared to other, more complicated styles. Additionally, they are considered very easy to use, as they contain the fewest number of buckles and straps.

    A two-strap harness is comfortable and easy to wear, and there is not much risk of fastening it incorrectly or the device accidentally becoming twisted or tangled during play. However, one potential drawback has been identified by some wearers - the feeling of the lower strap rubbing against the anus and genitals (specifically the labia, clitoris and/or testicles) can be uncomfortable, especially during rough, energetic sexual play.

    If you find yourself experiencing this discomfort from your two-strap harness, you may wish to consider purchasing and utilizing additional padding in those sensitive areas - perhaps even wearing a soft pair of underwear, made from cotton or a similarly gentle fabric, underneath your harness.

  • Three-strap harness:

    While it received the alternate name "jockstrap harness" due to its similarities to a type of underwear designed to cushion and protect the penis, in truth the appearance of the three-strap harness was inspired by the gear worn when going rock climbing or riding a zip line.

    As with the two-strap harness above, one strap is wrapped securely around the waist of the wearer. However, instead of a single strap running between the legs, this design features two lower straps which encircle the tops of the thighs.

    Again as with the design discussed above, the dildo is fastened to the area in front of the body and between the legs to mimic penis placement as closely as possible, although it may end up slightly higher due to the placement of the thigh straps. This harness is considered extremely comfortable by many because it leaves the sensitive areas of the genitals and anus untouched.

    However, it is slightly more complicated to put on and can occasionally become twisted or tangled during sexual activities, so it is extremely important to make sure that the thigh straps are properly fitted and tightened before each session.

  • Underwear harness:

    As the name suggests, this type of harness is designed to look like a regular pair of underwear - typically underwear which sit higher on the leg such as "panties" or "briefs," although varieties resembling longer-legged "boxers" are also available.

    Of course, "sexy" varieties which look like lacy lingerie are also sold, and often feature erotic add-ons such as corsets, garters or stockings to complete the ensemble. Typically, an underwear harness will feature a hole in the front which is usually reinforced by a plastic or metal ring to prevent fraying or tearing.

    The dildo is inserted through this hole, which keeps it steady and stable during sexual activities. The dildo is typically removable, allowing the two parts of the strap-on to be cleaned separately from one another. (Underwear harnesses are usually one hundred percent machine washable.)

    Some people even find that they enjoy wearing the harness as normal underwear - as they are usually made from high quality cotton or natural latex - and just slipping in the dildo when it is time to play!

If this all sounds complicated, don't worry. There is no one right answer - everyone has a type of harness and dildo which works best for them.

And some people prefer not to make a single choice, instead keeping a large collection of varied harnesses and dildos on hand - and that's also totally fine!

As with so many other elements of sexuality and sexual play, it's all about experimentation, being willing to try new things and finding out just what works for you!

​Why Strap-Ons?

Alright, we've covered the "what" of the strap-on in pretty thorough detail - now it's time to take a look at WHY so many people have fallen in love with this innovative toy.

In particular, many of our customers ask what it is about a strap-on that separates itself from a standard, harnessless dildo.

We've found that many people enjoy strap-ons because it allows them to more closely feel as though the dildo is "their" penis, as it is attached to their body rather than existing as a disconnected toy which they are forced to manipulate with their hands.

For this reason, strap-ons are commonly used by lesbian couples, transgender men, men suffering from impotence or erectile dysfunction, or women of all orientations who are interested in performing anal sex with their partner while taking on the "top" or dominant role.

In general, a strap-on makes an excellent toy for absolutely anyone who is a fan of penetration - whether you're giving or receiving, or whether the hole being stuffed full is your partner's mouth, vagina or anus.

Strap-ons add a sexy and arousing new dynamic to "standard" penetration, featuring curved or tapered dildos specifically designed to brush right up against the elusive G-spot or tickle the clitoris while you're pounding away.

It even allows for the possibility of double penetration, in which both partners experience the feeling of having their holes filled with several inches of hard plastic or silicone at the exact same time!

Of course, it's not JUST about penetration!

Many people have found that they enjoy the experience of performing acts of oral or manual stimulation on a strap-on dildo while their partner watches. It's a greater way to tease your partner and get them hot and bothered.

Their anticipation, desperation and arousal will build with every second as they watch you perform such lewd acts on a toy while wishing - and begging - that you would grant them your touch instead.

It's a great and tantalizing way to add fun little elements of dominance and submission to a sexual scene.

Not to mention, a strap on can even be an educational toy as well - some people have reported using strap-on dildos to practice their blow job technique or prepare themselves for being penetrated, especially anally, by a partner's flesh and blood penis.

Many individuals who have used a strap-on have described it as providing a sense of power which they do not get from any other toy, position or sexual act.

It can give a person who has never "topped" a chance to do just that - and without any risk of the dildo slipping out due to it remaining firmly strapped to their body at all times.

Transgender individuals have described the experience of using a strap on as particularly affirming, as it allows them to perform their desired sexual acts in the desired manner before or during the process of gender affirmation surgery - or even if they do not wish to receive surgery at all.

Strap-ons are also generally considered to be safer than using dildos or vibrators on their own.

There is no risk of the toy becoming stuck in the anus or vagina because it remains attached to the wearer's body at all times.

It is also extremely unlikely that the person "topping" will thrust too roughly and damage their or their partner's body with the dildo because the straps and harness serve to keep them in control.

As we mentioned in earlier sections of this guide, the only health risk associated with strap-ons is the possibility of the harness rubbing or chafing uncomfortably against your skin.

You can, however, easily prevent this by making sure that all of your harnesses are properly fitted and by employing extra padding in sensitive areas if necessary.

If you do find that a patch of your skin becomes irritated during play, you can treat it with topical creams (usually those designed to treat blisters, hives or rug burn) sold over the counter at your local drugstore / pharmacy.

There are also certain varieties of harness, such as the underwear harness, which generally come with zero risk of chafing if you wish to avoid this concern entirely.

If you want to learn more about the sexy and wonderful world of strap-ons, our site features a huge list of informative articles and guides discussing every aspect of this unique toy.

For example, you can learn about which types of strap-ons work best for "pegging" (anal sex) over here, and then head on over here or here to discover the best pegging positions and a step by step guide to slowly and safely introducing pegging into your bedroom activities. Alternately, check out our more detailed comparison if different harness styles found right here.

And, of course, if you have any questions about anything related to strap-ons - or any of the other amazing varieties of sex toys which we are proud to offer here on our site - feel free to contact us at any time.

Our helpful staff members are always ready to help you out!

Lastly, don't forget to head on over to our catalog - found here - to get started picking out the perfect strap-on dildo, harness or both for you and your partner.

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