Cumming Like You Mean It - How To Squirt With A Dildo

Cumming Like You Mean It - How To Squirt With A Dildo

Ladies and other vagina-having individuals, this one's for you!

Squirting. You've probably heard of it - maybe discussed in hushed whispers by blushing friends, maybe posted about at length in the comments of your favorite porn video. "Look at her squirt! That one must have gone at least a foot!" "I get off to her squirts!" "She's a squirter all right!" But you may not have ever squirted yourself - or made your partner squirt, if they have the equipment for it while you do not. You may not, in fact, even be entirely quite sure what squirting actually is, besides the fact that it is a sexual act of some kind which is typically performed by individuals with vagina, is considered to be pleasurable, and has something to do with orgasm.

That's where we come in. Wait, what? you ask. Why on earth would a Web site that sells sex toys have an entire article solely dedicated to squirting? Well, first and foremost, because squirting DOES feel good, and we want to teach and encourage all you lovely vagina-having individuals to give it a try. Secondly, as it turns out, dildos are in fact one of the number one sex toys which can help you reach that long thought to be mythical point where a fountain of juices starts gushing out of your pussy. Even if you've never been able to squirt using your own fingers or your partner's equipment, a dildo may in fact be just what you need to finally push you over that blissful and long sought for edge.

So read along with us as we explore the connection between dildos and squirting. We'll explain what squirting is and clear up some unfortunately prevalent myths about it, while also of course providing a number of helpful tips and tricks for using your dildo to "get there". And, once you're done reading, head over to our catalog and pick up a perfectly sized and shaped dildo so that you too (or your partner, as the case may be) can join the hallowed ranks of the "squirters"!

So Just What Is Squirting, Anyway?

Squirting, also known by the nicknames "flowing" "spouting" and "gushing" or its more technical name of "female ejaculation," refers to the act of liquid being released from the vagina during sexual intercourse. The term "squirting" most likely came about from the fact that many women, in particular porn stars, release this fluid in a concentrated, high-pressure jet that resembles nothing more than a miniature fountain, a hose or perhaps a squirt gun.

Unlike the semen which men release from their penises, female ejaculate fluid is typically colorless, thick, and somewhat sticky (in fact, it has often been compared in both appearance and texture to mucus or saliva). It is made up mostly of water, as well as a few proteins similar to the ones found in semen, and how much is released can vary greatly from woman to woman and even squirt to squirt, as it is affected by factors such as hydration and stress levels.

So how does squirting actually occur? Which parts of the body are actually involved in making the magic happen? Well, in fact, squirting is the result of a sexy collaboration between two distinct body parts, both located within the vagina: the G-spot and the Skene's gland (also sometimes referred to as the "female prostate" due to its similar function to that particular gland found only in men). The Skene's gland is where the fluid is produced and held until it is released, while the G-spot is the part which should be stimulated in order to trigger an explosive release.

The G-spot is an area typically located on the inner vaginal wall (the one closest to your urethra and furthest from your anus) about 2-3 inches past the opening. Simply sticking your finger in there, you may not initially notice anything particularly special. It can often take a bit of internal exploration to successfully locate the G-spot. Our best advice is to feel for a spot where the texture of your vagina wall changes slightly, becoming "squishier" and more ribbed and textured to the touch. Some people have described the tissue of the G-spot as feeling similar to the roof of their mouths, so you may also wish to use this helpful comparison to aid your exploration. You will typically know when you have found the G-spot because it will feel very sensitive and pleasurable to the touch, especially when you use the tip of your finger or the head of a sex toy or penis to apply firm, steady pressure.

If you can't immediately locate your G-spot on your first try, don't get discouraged. Scientists have found that the G-spot varies greatly in size and shape from person to person, with some people having one the size of a large coin or walnut while others instead have one which is significantly smaller. Keep in mind, however, that the G-spot, because it is primarily made from erectile tissue similar to that which makes up the penis, swells up and grows larger and more prominent when you become aroused. In general, the more aroused you are, the easier it becomes to locate and stimulate. If you're having trouble and getting frustrated, try getting yourself turned on by stimulating your clitoris, nipples or other sensitive areas of your body before going on a G-spot hunt.

The Skene's gland is located just above and behind the G-spot, between the vagina and the bladder. It cannot be felt or stimulated directly, but pressure placed on the G-spot will exert a similar pressure on the Skene's gland. Like the G-spot, this gland will swell up and become larger, more prominent and more sensitive during arousal. In this case, it occurs because the Skene's gland is filling up with ejaculate fluid in preparation for climax. Once the G-spot has received sufficient stimulation, the fluid held within the Skene's gland will be released, causing the fabled "squirt" to occur.

Keep in mind, however, that the Skene's gland possesses yet another similarity with the G-spot: it varies in size, shape, and even slightly in location from person to person. People with smaller or less prominent Skene's glands tend to produce smaller amounts of ejaculate fluid, often with a thicker consistency. The shape and size of the Skene's gland is believed to also have an effect on how the fluid is released - whether it shoots out in a high-pressure "jet," seeps or gushes out more slowly, or can do either depending on the situation - but the specific correlation here is still being studied, with no conclusive results yet determined. Unfortunately, scientists have found that a small, rare percentage of individuals do not possess a Skene's gland at all - while these people will still be able to climax sexually, they will not "squirt" as little or no fluid will be released during ejaculation.

Keep in mind, however, that the Skene's gland possesses yet another similarity with the G-spot: it varies in size, shape, and even slightly in location from person to person. People with smaller or less prominent Skene's glands tend to produce smaller amounts of ejaculate fluid, often with a thicker consistency. The shape and size of the Skene's gland is believed to also have an effect on how the fluid is released - whether it shoots out in a high-pressure "jet," seeps or gushes out more slowly, or can do either depending on the situation - but the specific correlation here is still being studied, with no conclusive results yet determined. Unfortunately, scientists have found that a small, rare percentage of individuals do not possess a Skene's gland at all - while these people will still be able to climax sexually, they will not "squirt" as little or no fluid will be released during ejaculation.

Mythbusters: Squirting Edition!

Despite squirting being a fairly simple, straightforward act which a large percentage of the vagina-equipped population is able to do, there are unfortunately a number of persistent myths about the action, very many of which are quite negative and can even discourage some women from trying to squirt at all. Whether these myths have come about as a result of stereotypes portrayed in porn, the biological differences between G-spots and Skene's glands among people with vaginas, or some other reason not considered in this article, is not yet known - but what is known is that they continue to exist even as society becomes more open about sexuality and honest discussion and sharing is encouraged.

MYTH #1: SQUIRTING IS JUST PEE

Unfortunately, this is probably the number one most prevalent myth regarding squirting which you are likely to encounter, especially in the age of the Internet and widespread false information. You might even find claims that supposedly back up this myth with the results of "scientific studies". Squirting is frequently likened to urine in order to make it seem "gross" and only worsens the stigmas already associated with female ejaculation and female sexuality in general.

This myth likely arose due to a combination of two factors. One, the Skene's gland is located fairly close to the bladder, to the point where an engorged and swollen Skene's gland during arousal could result in pressure being exerted on the bladder. (In fact, many women report feeling as though they need to pee when they are getting close to squirting. This is totally normal and not something to feel ashamed about in the slightest! However, if you are somoene who frequently experiences this, we do recommend always making sure to pee before sex or masturbation in order to lessen the likelihood of this feeling occurring and potentially distracting you from your pleasure). Two, both urine and female ejaculate are predominantly made up of water, meaning that there are similarities in (lack of) color, texture and potentially even scent between urine and "squirt".

However, rest assured that squirting is most definitely NOT urine. It may contain trace amounts of urine, especially if you do not remember to pee before engaging in intercourse, but it is primarily and fundamentally a completely different liquid. It is not gross or "icky". It is a totally natural - and sexy! - part of your body.

MYTH #2 SQUIRT = ORGASM

This one is a little more complicated and less straightforward to tackle. Because squirting involves the release of fluid and occurs when your body is experiencing sexual excitement and pleasure, it is often considered to be one and the same with the female orgasm. This myth probably arose due to the fact that, in males, there is an almost one hundred percent link between ejaculation and orgasm, with semen being released at the moment of climax for the majority of penis-having individuals.

It is true that some women may orgasm and squirt simultaneously. However, they are not necessarily linked, and are in fact two different events entirely. Squirting is, as we described above, the release of liquid from the Skene's glad, typically triggered by intense stimulation of the G-spot. "Orgasm," on the other hand, refers to a series of pleasurable contractions which run through the body and are typically accompanied by a rush of positive "happy hormones" in the brain. Women can orgasm in a variety of different ways - from G-spot stimulation, clitoral stimulation, anal stimulation, stimulation of the nipples or other sensitive body parts, or some combination of the above. Different individuals may be able to experience some or all of the different orgasm types, and not all of them may always be accompanied by squirting. Alternately, even during stimulation of the G-spot, which is the type of stimulation most likely to induce squirting, the release of fluid may occurr before, during, or even after orgasm. Once again, every person and every body are different - and all of them are equally wonderful, sexy and valid!

MYTH #3 EVERYONE SQUIRTS & EVERY SQUIRT IS THE SAME

We covered this briefly in the previous section, but it's important enough that we felt the need to reiterate it here. Unfortunately, not every person with a vagina may be able to squirt. Individuals with nonexistent or smaller / less prominent G-spots or Skene's glands may have difficulty squirting, as could those with psychological roadblocks such as a high stress level or difficulty relaxing during sex. But just because you may not be able to squirt does not make you any less of a sexual being, or any less capable of enjoying sexual encounters with a partner, your favorite dildo, or even both at once! Also, many women are perfectly capable of orgasming even without squirting - especially those who prefer clitoral or anal stimulation to vaginal or G-spot. Sex can still be fun, enjoyable, orgasmic and, well, "sexy" even without any ejaculate fluid involved!

Even among regular "squirters," a lot of variety exists. Some women produce a lot of liquid, others only a little. Some are consistently capable of squirting out high-pressure "jets" of fluid while others experience this only on rare special occasions. Still others might find that their ejaculation is better described as a "seep," "gush" or "dribble" than a full-on "squirt". In fact, this variety can even be experienced by a single person at different times - certain toys or techniques might produce only a single wet spot on their panties while others are capable of generating a geyser so intense that a change of sheets might be necessary afterwards.

When it comes to squirting, the most important thing is to get to know your own body. Remember that your body is unique and that the things you have seen in porn or read online - yes, even here on our Lovegasm site - might not necessarily apply to you. The best way to learn about yourself is through frequent and exuberant experimentation. Be patient with yourself. Don't give up. Take the time to learn what feels the most pleasurable and products the most satisfying orgasms and/or squirts, because you and your body absolutely deserve nothing less than the best!

As we mentioned earlier in this articles, dildos are a great way to experience a squirt even if you are someone who may have never had one happen to you during masturbation or sex before. They can be specifically shaped and textured in order to target the G-spot, which is the area of the vagina which must typically be stimulated in order to trigger a fluid ejaculation. They also allow you to set your own pace and take things at a speed which makes you comfortable. This can help you stay relaxed and fend off nerves, which is ultimately extremely helpful as a relaxed body is much more likely to become aroused enough to squirt than one which is tightened up with tension!

Tips For Squirting With A Dildo

As we mentioned earlier in this articles, dildos are a great way to experience a squirt even if you are someone who may have never had one happen to you during masturbation or sex before. They can be specifically shaped and textured in order to target the G-spot, which is the area of the vagina which must typically be stimulated in order to trigger a fluid ejaculation. They also allow you to set your own pace and take things at a speed which makes you comfortable. This can help you stay relaxed and fend off nerves, which is ultimately extremely helpful as a relaxed body is much more likely to become aroused enough to squirt than one which is tightened up with tension!

Before you break out the dildo, however, we recommend using your fingers to locate your G-spot if you have not already. While a dildo is ultimately going to be a great choice for stimulating this area and reaching orgasm, starting out with your fingers will help you get acquainted with your G-spot's size, shape and location, making future stimulation much simpler and less stressful. To start out, a good position is lying on your back (on a comfortable surface such as a bed or couch, of course!) with your legs either up in the air or bent at the knee. This will allow your fingers to reach deep enough inside yourself to comfortably find the G-spot, but is also a simple position which can be easily maintained for long periods of time without experiencing discomfort such as muscle cramps or tightness.

You can undertake this journey of G-spot exploration either by yourself or with a partner - whichever one makes YOU feel the most comfortable. If you will be using your partner's fingers, make sure to keep verbal communication open and frequent throughout the act. Tell them what feels good and what doesn't. Don't be afraid to ask them to move faster or slower or apply more or less pressure. Remember, even if they are lending you a (literal) helping hand, this experience is primarily about you and your pleasure, and that should remain the central focus.

Before anything else, make sure that you are properly aroused. Use your favorite techniques - watch some porn or read an erotic story, stimulate your nipples or clitoris, take a warm bath or shower, or have your partner give you a sensual full-body massage. Even prior to squirting, most vaginas will get "wet" by releasing a small amount of liquid, mostly contained within the vagina itself, that serves as a natural lubricant. Waiting until you are at least a little bit wet usually makes penetration much easier and more comfortable, even for something as small and narrow as a finger. Of course, you're also more than welcome to include a little bit of your favorite sexual lubricant as part of your play!

Start by using either your index or middle finger to reach inside you (or both, if you are comfortable with being filled and stretched by two fingers at once). These are typically the longest fingers on the average hand and therefore the ones which will be most effective at reaching the G-spot. We do recommend making sure that your fingernail is short and clipped before trying this out, as you don't want to accidentally scratch or prick yourself with a bit of sharp nail. Once your finger is comfortably inside your vagina, position it so that the pad of your finger is resting against the inner vaginal wall (the one closest to your urethra and the front of your body, away from your anus). Slowly run your finger down your vaginal wall until you feel a small area where the texture changes. It should feel ribbed and slightly springy, possibly quite similar to the inside of your mouth.

If you find yourself having a bit of trouble properly locating the G-spot using this technique, you can try curling your finger in what is usually referred to as a "beckoning" or "come-hither" gesture - as though you were trying to nonverbally signal a person or animal to come towards you. This technique has in fact proven to be quite effective both in locating the female G-spot within the vagina and the male prostate within the anus. Another option if you're still having difficulty is to withdraw your fingers and take a break to play with yourself and get yourself a little more aroused. Remember, the more aroused - and relaxed! - you are, the more your G-spot will swell and become larger and more prominent, and thus easier to locate and stimulate.

Once you've located the G-spot, you can either continue stimulating it with your finger or fingers or take them out and replace them with the head of your favorite dildo. Regardless of which technique you use, our recommendation is that you apply steady, solid, consistent pressure. A "feather-light touch," such as you might use to stimulate your clitoris or sensitive nipples, will not necessarily work effectively here. Typically, to reach the point where you are aroused enough to squirt, a certain amount of consistent pressure is required - such that, in fact, stimulating the G-spot in order to squirt is often colloquially known as "pushing the button".

This need for regular pressure is exactly what makes dildos such an excellent choice for G-spot stimulation. Unlike fingers - or even penises - dildos will never get sore or cramped or shrivel up from being soaked in your pre-ejaculate juices. With the possible exception of some of the softer "jelly-like" elastomer dildo models, the majority of dildos (including but not limited to silicone, rubber, glass and stainless steel varieties) have a head firm and solid enough to give the G-spot just the right amount of stimulation, without going too far in the opposite direction and causing pain instead of pleasure. A dildo is also generally more maneuverable than a penis, as it can be held in your hand and wiggled, rocked, twisted or thrust in whichever pattern of motion is most consistently pleasurable for you.

While most any dildo of the proper length can be used to stimulate your G-spot, if squirting is your goal, it may benefit you to choose a model which is specifically aimed at providing that kind of pleasure. G-spot dildos can often be differentiated from other varieties by their shape, which will have a slight curve to it rather than being completely straight. They will also tend to have rounder, blunter, wider heads which are capable of fully accessing even the largest and most prominent of G-spots during the absolute height of your arousal. (Heads which are too thin, such as those which might instead be found on a slender dildo designed primarily for anal play, can often feel too "sharp" or "pointy" or like they are "poking" your G-spot rather than steadily applying the required pressure.) You may also enjoy using a dildo which has ribbing, a raised, bumpy pattern, or some other sort of distinctive texture, as these are generally considered to feel quite pleasurable against the sensitive erectile tissue which makes up your G-spot.

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Once you start feeling like you are getting close to squirting, keep up the pressure if it is possible to do so without being overwhelmed. This will make the final squirt that much more intense. We also recommend pushing outwards with your Kegel muscles (the interior muscles of your vagina), especially if you are hoping to squirt with a lot of force - a "jet" or "fountain" rather than merely a "gush". Keep up the pressure and stimulation until the aftershocks have faded - you may find that an orgasm accompanied by a squirt lasts longer and feels more intense than what you may have experienced previously, so make sure to ride it out and thoroughly enjoy every last bit of pleasure! And, of course, don't forget to clean off your dildo once you have finished - female ejaculate fluid can become very flaky and crusty if allowed to dry on the toy, so you will have a much easier time if you clean up while everything is still wet.

One last quick note - some customers have written in to point out something which we would be remiss not to include. Some people have in fact found that they cannot squirt properly while a dildo, penis or even fingers are still inside their vagina. While we're not sure exactly why this happens - is it something physical? Something metal? A combination of both? - it is a phenomenon which is experienced by a surprising number of people. So, if you are finding yourself having a bit of difficulty squirting despite doing everything right, try removing the dildo as you get close while still pushing outward with your Kegel muscles. It may just be that your vagina needs the space to properly shoot out that sexy jet of ejaculate fluid!


"Try removing the dildo as you get close while still pushing outward with your Kegel muscles. It may just be that your vagina needs the space to properly shoot out that sexy jet of ejaculate fluid!"

Now that you've learned all about squirting, head on over to our catalog and pick out a dildo to help you reach that moment of ultimate passion. We have a wide variety of dildos of all shapes, sizes and textures available for purchase. Even if you have never squirted before in your life, our Lovegasm store almost certainly stocks a product which will make that dream a reality! Of course, if you're still not quite sure what to buy, you can take a look at our "recommended dildos for newbies" article to get even more exciting ideas.