Beginner Bondage Ideas

Beginner Bondage Ideas

Did you recently read or watch Fifty Shades of Grey?


Did you stumble upon bondage porn and find it arousing? 


Have you been wanting to try bondage but don’t know quite where to start? 


Don’t worry! We’ve got your kinky curiosity covered.  

Learning The Ropes

First things first, you shouldn’t jump into bondage immediately.


Bondage can be risky and there are things you need to learn and consider first before you get tied down…or up! 

Safety Is Your Priority

With every new sexual adventure, your goal will be to give and experience maximum pleasure. However, you need to make sure that all concerned parties are safe.


Look for tears or cracks in your bonds. If you’re using handcuffs or chains with locks, keep the keys safe and within your reach. 


Be sure to check up on ALL equipment and tools you plan to use during bondage! 

Open Communication

You can ensure safety by openly communicating with your partner. Share your sexual fantasies with each other to make sure that both of you are comfortable.


This is also where safe words come into play.  

afe words are essential in bondage sexual play since there will be times when either could become caught up in the moment and forget the safety and comfort of their partner.


You will learn more about safe words later in this article.

Preparation Is The Key

Once you have ensured your safety and shared your thoughts, it’s time to plan for your bondage experience.


It’s important to prepare for this new experience by finding the right tools and equipment. Experiment and find out which tools you are most comfortable with! 

Evaluate Yourselves

After making the proper preparations, make sure to reconsider everything. Have you made sure to share your thoughts on bondage with each other?


Once you’re absolutely certain that you are both ready, you’re going to have quite the experience!  

Ensuring Safety And Communication

Now, let’s go even deeper and learn how these two concepts can “bond” to make sure you stay safe and communicate effectively throughout your bondage activities.

Comfort

As with every pleasurable experience, you want to be very comfortable while doing bondage.


Since you’re only starting out, don’t rush in and go hard immediately. Take it slow and share your concerns with one another. 


After a while of venturing into the world of bondage, you will notice that your comfort levels have shifted and evolved in a positive direction.  

Share Your Sexual Fantasies

In order for you to both have the best bondage experience, don’t hesitate to share your fantasies, no matter how deep or dark.


This will allow you to gauge how rough and hard to go in the beginning! 


Also, find out how you and your partner feel about bondage and learn the similarities and differences in your opinions. Start some great sexually driven conversations to heat things up!  

Open Your Mind

Once you’ve learnt about each other’s sexual fantasies, be willing to try different things that the bondage world can offer.


But first, make sure that both of you are comfortable with each idea. 


Keep in mind as well that things may not seem comfortable the first time. Give yourself time to test the waters and decide whether each new experience is right for you or not. 

Choose Your Role

One main component of bondage is the role each partner takes.


Are you submissive or dominant? Do you prefer to be in control or be controlled? 


You may assume that just because someone is timid outside, that person is certainly submissive. You may be wrong! 


As the saying goes, “Don’t judge a book by its cover.” If you are uncertain of your role preference, this is a good opportunity for you to experiment and find out which role you are comfortable in. 


You may be surprised that you’re actually a switch – a person who can take either role.

The Safe Word Is…

The most crucial parts of any bondage activities are safe words. These will help you make sure that neither you nor your partner get harmed.


Since there will be times that either of you will feel utmost pleasure, you may lose track of the other person’s feelings. Safe words act as a reminder and help you snap back into reality and take necessary action. 


Common words used during sex, such as “don’t”, “stop”, “harder”, and others, are not the best since there will be times that they will be part of the play. 


Experiment with most bizarre of words – but make sure that they are easy to pronounce. A good example would be “Eureka!”  

Getting Ready

Once you have discussed everything with your partner, it’s time to set things up for the night of your lives.


Here are some example tools to help you get started: 

Restraints

Restraints are essential in bondage. They are what make bondage what it is.


As the name implies, they restrain the submissive person, restricting their movements. 


Example restraints include ropes, cuffs, straps, harnesses and more. 

Fifty Shades Of Grey Hard Limits Bed Restraint Kit

As one of the mainstream influences of bondage, it is no surprise that they would sell Fifty Shades themed bondage kits.


It is one of the most beginner-friendly kits to get you started. With its adjustable restraint straps and strong metal snap hooks, it boasts comfort, versatility, durability, and usability. 

Pleasure Tape

Pleasure tape is wonderful for bondage activity. It only sticks to itself and leaves your skin and hair pain-free!

Fetish Fantasy Furry Cuffs

This is a must-have for every couple diving into the world of bondage. With the fur, these cuffs are sure to be safe and comfortable.


You can easily remove them by yourself with or without keys, and you can slip out of them with only a little force if your hands are small. 

Vibrators And Cock Rings

Vibrators and cock rings are basic tools to use when a couple is spicing up their sex life. They encircle the penis and tease it with vibrations.


With bondage, the experience intensifies as the submissive partner won’t be able to escape from the inevitable pleasure. 

Lube

Lube is extremely important in all forms of sex especially bondage activities. It will ensure that both partners are safe and reduces discomfort from friction.


You can never have too much of it, so spread that lube all over your pubes!  

Feather Whip Tickler

Overloading and depriving the senses are great ways to take the experience to the next level. The feather whip tickler will surely deliver both.

Fetish Fantasy Spandex 3-Hole Hood

Once you’re at the right level of comfort in bondage play, you can explore more extreme dominance and submission.


This hood will make your submissive unrecognizable and limit their senses while making sure that their eyes and mouth are accessible.  

Leather Breathable Ball Gag

Also a next level item, this will silence your submissive partner during bondage sex while still providing comfort.


This creates a feeling of humiliation which some enjoy! 


Make sure to choose ball gags that prevent chafing of the mouth. 

Collars

Collars are a sign of ownership.


Leather collars put the submissive in a humiliating position. They also prevent the wearer from moving their head.  

Sexy Clothing

Different types of sexy clothing can add all sorts of elements your bondage experience!


You can choose from a variety of kinky outfits and accessories like leather boots, fishnets, corsets, high heels, and more. 


These can boost a person’s sense of dominance. These can also provide ease of access to a submissive. 


Most importantly, these will certainly add spice to your bondage experience! 

Research

Now that you know the basics of bondage, you should also never forget the importance of research.


Be sure to get information from reliable sources such as psychologists, sex therapists, and physicians. 


Never rely on porn for information! You can use it for inspiration, but make sure to consider what you have learned so far. 

Tips from Bondage Experts

You’re all set now to form a stronger bond with your partner. Here are some reminders from experts.

Trust

Make sure that when you’re going to try out bondage sex, you do it with a person you trust.


Always remember that safe words are a must! 


Since trust is an important key in bondage, never do it with a stranger. 

Pacing

Ease your partner into the idea that this is something you want to try.


Don’t force it all on them so suddenly, as they may become overwhelmed. 

Misconceptions

Keep an open mind with bondage. It may have somewhat of a bad reputation, but it can be a romantic and pleasurable experience and improve your relationship

Experiment

Don’t limit yourself with roles, temperature, and materials. Try both roles and assess what works best for you.


Hot and cold temperatures can also bring a different sensation to your experience. 


In addition, different restraints can bring different effects during play.  

Simplicity

Start small, and don’t bring too many tools during your first bondage experience. This may overcomplicate the situation and intimidate your partner.


Now that you’ve learned the ropes, you must always consider you and your partner’s safety and comfort. 


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