Matching Your BDSM Toys to Your Outfit

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BDSM sex play entails a great deal of preparation. Before you engage in this exciting experience, you should discuss it with your partner.

Please note that non-consensual BDSM practices defeat the purpose. So, you need to make sure if your significant one is up for a BDSM sex game and all that comes with it. You should sit and talk about the adult toys, types of role play, and outfits you are both open to trying.

Then, you can determine the safeword or gesture that will let you stop in case your adventures become too much to handle. And once you have agreed on the terms of BDSM sex play, the games can begin!

Why Create a BDSM Outfit?

People are not monogamous beings, and they naturally get bored with having sex with the same partner in the same monotonous way. So, if you feel like your relationship has fallen into a rut, you should spice it up with some BDSM.

The ultimate goal of BDSM is that partners show and embrace what they truly want in bed without feeling ashamed. Also, roleplay goes hand in hand with BDSM sex practices. Many individuals invent characters or scenarios to act with their Subs or Doms. It helps them distance themselves from their real self and slip into more comfortable skin.

Typical roleplay scenarios in the BDSM sex play include, but are not limited to:

  • Student/Teacher
  • Child/Parent
  • Bull/Sissy
  • Voyer couple

Slipping into someone else’s latex skin can be very exciting. It can also help you break out of your dull day-to-day life. So don’t be shy: explain one another the scenarios that would turn you on.

But, what would be the first step in assuming a new identity? The best way to turn into someone other than yourself is to create a BDSM outfit.

If you are a newbie and do not have all the fancy gear, you can recreate some BDSM looks from things you already have at home. Go through your closet and find some sexy stuff in the back. Some long thigh-high boots or sexy lingerie combined with some short and tight tank tops or G-strings will do the trick.

When you become a more seasoned player, you can buy some BDSM sex toys and costumes. Ball gags, spreader bars, or exclusive bondage gear can spice up your sex life in no time.

Coordinate Your Toys

The more you explore, the more skilled you become in putting erotic toys and BDSM accessories together. Do not be afraid to experiment, but the first thing you should know is that your adult toys should match and complement one another.

For example, you can easily combine a leather collar and a strap-on harness. Collars will put your Sub in a pet-like submissive position. Once they are quiet and tamed, you can add a strap-on harness into the mix. Push your partner on their stomach and try pegging them until they beg for mercy.

Butt plugs can be easily combined with strap-ons too. They are convenient and popular with individuals of all sexual orientations. You can use them to stimulate your prostate or the back of your vaginal wall.

People who enjoy anal sex use but plugs as a form of foreplay before they have penetrative sex using their strap-ons or an actual penis. These toys are often made of silicone and are great for beginners because they are more flexible and easy to use than glass or metal ones.

What About the Front Side?

Stainless steel cock cages are another great way of dominating your Sub and keeping them in check. Chastity cages are the next level in the BDSM scene! After all, if you want to keep your eyes on the prize, there is no better way than to put it in a cage. Place the cage onto your flaccid penis and put the ring around your balls. Let your partner lock it and hold the key. This exchange can be very erotic.

The main point of a chastity cage is to make your erection painful or impossible. By doing that, one partner can tease the other, and the caged Sub’s willpower and inability to act on his arousal will be put to the ultimate test.

Furthermore, if you match them with nipple clamps, chastity cages can become an even more powerful torture tool for Doms. Applying pressure on your partner’s nipples while he is wearing a cock cage will drive them insane. One thing is guaranteed — your partner will be subdued entirely to your will, and they will obey without asking any questions.

How to Dress Like a Dom?

Doms take pride in their costumes. Most of them spend a lot of money to create BDSM outfits that will make heads turn wherever they go. Subs should be both intimidated and aroused when they encounter their dominatrix.

Doms are keen on teasing their partners. Their BDSM clothes are the most powerful tool to entice and subdue their bottoms, and that is why they put so much effort into their appearance.

Nowadays, many products on the market can turn you into a walking fetish. Shiny leather teddies with massive zippers and open crotches are particularly attractive. You can match this bold outfit with some hot red over-the-knee boots or high heels.

Doms like wearing bold colors and chunky jewelry that resembles chains, handcuffs, or other restraining devices. Female Doms enjoy taunting their Subs by wearing masks, or sheer lace thigh-high stockings. They do not shy away from showing some skin, either. Also, they torture Subs by keeping their nipples and genitals away from their lustful eyes.

If you want to feel like a female superhero, you should try wearing a corset. This sexy piece of clothing will accentuate your curves and make you feel powerful in the sheets.

For many male Doms, the go-to outfit is a classic suit or a uniform. However, each person has a vision of what makes them feel powerful, dominant, and sexy.

Some men do not like wearing costumes because they think that would make them look ridiculous or take away their Dom sternness and authority. So, most straight male Doms would opt for some black leather or latex tight pants or a button-down shirt paired with some combat boots.

On the other hand, some male Doms like to go to town with full fetish costumes made of leather, with harnesses, belts, and collars.

How to Dress Like a Sub

Dressing like a female Sub can be very challenging since there are a plethora of options. Submissive partners are expected to follow the rules and fulfill the wishes of their Doms. So, if the bottom’s master does not want them to wear underwear, or likes their hair or nails done in a particular way, they need to abide by their requests.

Subs need to dress following their keyholder’s demands, and costumes can be very revealing and sexy. Female Subs often wear soft, pastel colors. What’s more, they often accentuate their femininity with frilly, lacy BDSM panties, and bras. On the other hand, some Doms find it arousing that their Subs keep their private parts naked so that they can play with them whenever they want.

It is thrilling when both partners participate in creating the Sub’s uniform. This mutual effort may be a valuable addition to your BDSM sex play. It is like making a secret pact between partners, your dirty little secret.

If you are a fresh Sub looking for a perfect provocative uniform, you can try wearing a sexy mini-skirt. Match it with a tight corset revealing your breasts and finish your look with some high heels and a sexy garter.

Female Doms can degrade their Subs by forcing them to wear sexy female lingerie, female clothes, or BDSM high heels. Sometimes they can request their male Subs to wear a chastity cock cage to the supermarket or any public place.

Both male and female Subs can experience degradation from their Doms. Most of their humiliation techniques involve influencing or choosing their Subs outfits or lack of it.

BDSM Clothing In Public?

If you walk out of your house, or sex dungeon in full BDSM outfit, you will leave your neighbors and friends shocked and appalled. But, the good news is that you can incorporate many kinky details into your street looks.

Luckily, today’s fashion is very much inspired by BDSM costumes. Many individuals wear leather or latex pants and skirts combined with thigh-high boots or sexy heels. And, of course, female lingerie resembles straps and restraints typical of BDSM gear.

Jewelry is a great way to showcase your BDSM style and persona. Many people will wear bracelets or necklaces imitating BDSM harnesses or chokers without a leash attached.

Makeup is also an excellent way to flaunt your BDSM Dom style. Sharp dark eye shadows combined with glimmering red or pink lipstick colors can be very sexy and effective.

Even though you cannot wear your full BDSM costume to work or a club, you can put on some sexy pieces. Flirt with BDSM style to make your everyday looks fresh, hot, and charming. Make passers-by fantasize about what goes on behind the closed doors of your sex dungeon.

Wearing some BDSM underwear or sexy undergarments under your street clothes can also feel empowering. You do not have to have your full-on BDSM gear on display in public to feel dominant and powerful. Some accessories, tight shirts, or latex shorts can do the trick.

Rihanna, Kim Kardashian, Demi Lovato, and many others contribute to normalizing wearing BDSM inspired outfits as they wear them to their public appearances. Famous people rocking BDSM garments makes them more appealing and wearable for ordinary people. Also, it helps with removing the stigma of kinkiness surrounding the scene.


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