BDSM Toys for Experts: Spice It Up and Try Something New!

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If this is the first time you read an article about BDSM, we can reassure you that “Fifty Shades of Grey” movies do not do it justice. You should also know that BDSM loses its point if it is not consensual. If one partner finds it off-putting or too kinky, and the other enjoys it, you should choose another way to spice things up in the sack. BDSM, like everything else, should be gratifying and enjoyable for both partners.

So, before you engage in BDSM sex play, you should determine if you are both up for it. Second, you need to define the ground rules of the game. For example, the erotic toys and types of BDSM experience that is pleasurable and comfortable for both of you. Also, we advise you to pick out a safe word or gesture to use when you need the partner to stop. Whenever you feel uncomfortable, or something feels painful, or when you sense that things are getting out of hand, you should inform your partner.

Once you figure these things out, the fun can start. Here are some BDSM toys that you can try out.

Women’s Bondage and Nipple Clamps With Chains

If you are new to the BDSM game, women’s bondage is a great place to start. Before you buy some nifty bondage gear, maybe you can try it with things that you already have in your home. A scarf, a pair of stockings, or a bandana can be a good way to strap your partner to a chair or bed.

Of course, before you get to business, you need to talk to your significant other about what is okay or not. Maybe they do not want you to tie them, or they prefer to tie you up. Eventually, when you are ready to take your sex play to the next level, you should give nipple clamps with a chain a go too. We know — they may look a bit scary. Or maybe you simply prefer having your partner squeeze your nipples instead. But think about it — by using BDSM nipple clamps, your partner’s hands will be free to pleasure your other areas.

There are many nipple clamps on the market. They differ in size, so you need to buy the ones that fit the shape of your nipples. If you are concerned about the pain, you should know that you can always adjust the pressure level that the nipple clamps apply. These clamps function similarly to penis rings. That is, they block your blood flow and make your nipples sensitive to touch.

Some think that the experience is not painful at all but mind-blowingly exciting and intense. See for yourself!

Open-Mouthed Gag/Choker With Nipple Clamps

If you are looking for a kinky addition to your BDSM toy collection, an open-mouthed gag or choker with some nipple clamps could be a perfect choice for you.

If you like dirty talk, maybe this sex toy is not right up your alley, because its purpose is to stop you from making any sound. As far as the ball gags go, there are a plethora of types. We recommend that beginners should start with smaller-sized balls made of silicone or other gentle materials. When you get more comfortable, you can move onto the next level with bigger sized mouth gags. Later, you can try leather or metal ones.

Open-mouthed gags or chokers will leave your tongue free and ready to be used. The strap goes around your head and is adjustable. Place it carefully so that your tongue goes right through the ring. Also, you can adjust the size of the ring to your preference.

When used with nipple clamps, open-mouthed gags take sex play to a different level.

You can set the pin on the clamps to apply pressure on your naturally sensitive nipples. Do not worry, the tips of the clamps are made of soft materials and won’t hurt. Also, these gentle tips will help distribute the pressure evenly.

All in all, the only thing you should focus on are the orgasms and fantastic sexual pleasure this experience will grant you.

Go ahead and buy this gag and clamp combo to dominate and keep your sub in check.

Shock the Cock — Silicone Chastity Cage

Shock the Cock, a silicone chastity cage, will turn any disobedient man into a whining sub begging for mercy. Dominate your partner by sending electric waves to his trapped penis with this fantastic sex toy.

This toy will grant you an amazing sexual gratification. When you put your penis in this cock cage and stimulate it with electric shocks, it will unlock the pleasure center of your brain and give you orgasms you cannot even imagine.

Shock the Cock is effective and easy to use. First, you need to place your penis into the little BDSM cock cage. After that, please make sure that you put some lube on your testicles. Then put them through the ring.

From that point, you will find yourself in the hands of your key holder. They will have full control over the duration, speed, and intervals of every shock. Since the remote control is out of your reach, we advise that you be obedient to your dom.

This BDSM chastity device is very popular on the market. It comes with a remote control that a key holder uses to electrify your penis to their liking, making this adult toy every dom’s dream come true.

These electric cock cages come with silicone lube and batteries you can use. Also, everything is low maintenance. You can clean the toy with warm water and some mild soap.

So don’t sit around and wait! Go get one and electrify your sex life today!

Leather and Chains — Submissive Harness With a Collar

Collars are often used in BDSM. They are usually of leather, PVC, rubber, or stainless steel, and some use actual dog collars with an attached buckle. These harnesses can also feature padlocks, straps, and hooks.

Traditionally, BDSM sub collars are made of black leather, with metal D-rings that you can use to attach a leash, rope, or different types of restraints. Some people like to wear them as a jewelry necklace in their day-to-day lives.

In the BDSM context, the person who wears a collar is the submissive one in the relationship. This individual has the status of a slave and should abide by their master’s wishes.

BDSM collars with chains or submissive harnesses are a perfect choice if you enjoy role play. Your sub will be entirely under your control, and they will beg for mercy as you hold them on a short leash attached to a submissive collar. In this scenario, erotic humiliation will come from the sub’s pet-like position.

In some circles, BDSM communities hold a so-called collaring ceremony. By doing that, a dom and a sub mimic the marriage ceremony. In the ritual, the collar has the role of a ring that “officiates” their BDSM partnership.

The point of this ritual is not to humiliate someone. The dom doesn’t have the intention to express hatred and spite towards the sub. It is quite the opposite. This BDSM unification ceremony has huge importance for both partners. It symbolizes the special bond and strength of their relationship.

Black Impaler — an 11-Inch Strap-On

Strap-ons are ideal for couples who do not shy away from switching up their roles during sex. Also, they offer the opportunity of penetrative sex, both vaginal and anal, to those with erectile dysfunction. With BDSM strap-ons, people do not have to worry if their erection is going to last long enough.

Ladies, you can even use it on a man. Try it out and see if you both enjoy pegging, and see how it feels to penetrate someone’s body instead.

This kinky toy consists of two important pieces: a dildo attached to a typically leather harness worn the same way we wear our underwear.

When you go shopping for strap-ons, it is vital to buy the one that fits perfectly. There are more harness styles than you can imagine. Some people like the thong-shaped ones, while others opt for granny style looking versions. Typically they look like underwear with a hole in the section where the dildo should go.

You should buy a strap-on with the harness that will stand firm on your tighs and between your but cheeks. It should not feel wobbly, and it should not come off easily. Ideally, you should be able to use it as if it was a part of your body during intercourse.

The Black Impaler is an enormous strap-on that will give your partner sensational sexual gratification. The length of the dildo is more than they will expect, so you will experience a massive self-confidence boost while you are using it.

Whether you are a shy newbie or a seasoned BDSM fan, this 11-inch unisex strap-on will take you on an orgasmic journey. It is vastly used and popular with all genders and sexual orientations.

Body Harness Sex Swing

Sex swings are perfect for people who are not that fit but want to try different sex positions and make them last longer than usual. Also, BDSM sex swings provide a wide range of movement for individuals who have certain physical disabilities. So, people who suffer from muscle dystrophy, arthritis can enjoy an active sex life with a vast maneuver range.

A sex swing can give you an unmatched kinky sexual experience. The BDSM play entails a partner being suspended on a swing in the air. Its straps are similar to the bed restraints ones. So if you already enjoy bondage toys and different restraint systems, sex swing will be a divine experience for you.

Some of the sex swings are for bedrooms, while others are meant for sex dungeons, or they can be repurposed yoga swings. They are usually made of silicone, leather, polyester, or foam, and there are many types of them.

If you are new to the BDSM play, it may be for the best that you start with traditional sex swings. They come with a platform or a hammock suspended from a four or three-point stand.

If it is too much of a hassle for you to put together an actual swing in your bedroom and it happens that you don’t have a sex dungeon in your home, body harness sex swings are the right match for you.

With body harness sex swings one of the partners wears the harness, and the holding partner can be attached to it with different straps, loops, and stirrups. The only drawback of this BDSM equipment is that the second partner needs more than usual physical and muscle strength and stamina for the sex play.

Erotic Suction Electric Nipple Clamp Set

Have you already tried vanilla nipple clamps, and you are over them? We have a right treat for you — erotic suction electric nipple clamp set. With this erotic toy, you will move up a gear in your BDSM game. If you are new to BDSM, we advise that you try out ordinary nipple clamps first.

They are typically made of plastic and metal and look like the traditional nipple clamps. The only difference is that they are attached to a remote control. The partner can decide on the levels of pressure they apply or the speed. However, please establish a safe word that will stop the sex play before it gets uncomfortable for you.

The electric-powered nipple clamp gadget will give your naturally sensitive nipples a ride of their life. By sending electric shocks directly to them, the electric clamps will increase their sensitivity and give you even more orgasms.

Some of the electric nipple clamps sets come with the hands-free option. So, with this feature, you do not have to change the frequency of electric stimulations to your nipples manually.

Final Thoughts

BDSM is about love, arousal, trust, and making a special bond with your partner. If you are planning on engaging in any kind of play, you should forget about inflicting pain on your partner because you hold something against them. BDSM is not a form of revenge — it is a sexual game that you can play with your significant one to deepen and strengthen your bond.


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