Let’s explore the edges of intense nipple play. This article will guide you on how to safely and consensually explore new limits.
When you hear "extreme nipple play," think beyond a gentle caress or a playful flick. In the BDSM world, the stimulation of the nipples is center stage and cranked up to eleven.
Safety is crucial with extreme nipple play. Just like other BDSM, smart play makes it both safe and pleasurable.
Never ever overlook consent when with a partner. Share your desires and limits with your partner in an open discussion.
Once extreme play is underway, keep talking freely to each other. You're not a mind reader, and neither is your partner, so check in frequently.
Maybe try including temperature play as well. Imagine the sharp gasp as ice grazes over your sensitive skin, or the shock of warmth from dripped wax that quickly cools and hardens. These temperature teases add a new aspect to the experience. It can also challenge your senses and endurance.
Then there's the toys. Nipple clamps, suckers, and weights don't just sit there doing nothing.—they transform your play into a carnival of intense sensations.
Clamps can apply pressure that grows as they're tugged, while suckers draw blood up, making sensations feel much sharper. Weights add a constant pull, a reminder with every movement meaning your nipples are at the center of this sensual storm.
If you have highly sensitive nipples, you can still enjoy the thrill. Just begin with a delicate touch. Try some soft licking or caressing strokes that tease more than torment.
You can also try warming up the surrounding skin. This method builds anticipation and making the eventual direct contact even more intense. Another method is to try placing a bit of fabric over the nipple. This can dampen the intensity without damping the mood.
Why not use feathers, soft brushes, or even a piece of fur that can dance across the skin. Bear in mind, variety is what makes life wonderful.
Understanding the variations and how they can potentially increase your pleasure is key. Vibrating nipple toys have more than one use but can seriously enhance the sexual experience, either alone or together.
Absolutely, you can! Vibrating nipple toys are popular and come in many types, for both new and experienced users. These cool gadgets are easy to find. You can buy them online or in stores, and there's a huge range, from simple to bold. Prices change a lot because of quality, brand, and design. You can pick a toy that matches your budget, whether it's a little or a lot.
You've got clamps that offer a pinch along with the buzz, suction-based toys that draw the area into a vortex of pleasure, and stick-on models that adhere directly to your skin for hands-free excitement.
Clamps, are for those who enjoy some pressure with the vibrations. They can lightly squeeze or grip tightly, and the vibrations add more stimulation
View suction toys as mini vacuums for nipples, pulling and throbbing just right. The sensation is quite different from the clamps and are less about pressure and more about drawing you into the sensation.
And don't forget the stick-on types. These buddies are patches of pure joy that you can slap on and have fun. They’re ideal for hands-free use or wearing secretly under clothes.If you use your all-purpose vibe for nipple attention, give your toys a wash before and after using them. Cross-contamination should not be done. Better yet, keep separate toys for separate parts.
Enjoy trying vibrating nipple toys without worry. Use these tips for a satisfying time.
This article will show you how to clearly tell your partner if you feel good or not. We are talking about a group exploration to find the sweet spots that will give you goosebumps. Despite the power of nipple play as a pleasure point, every woman will react uniquely to stimulation.
Through proper communication, you ensure greater appreciation and understanding of one another’s body. This will augment your connection, thus taking your intimate times to greater levels.
As you finish this guide, you will have all the knowledge you need. As such, let us start.
Lot's of women will find their nipples to be quite erogenous. This makes nipples a great source of pleasure. Knowing this, let us shower nipples with greater attention.
Start with soft touches. Light strokes or brushes will make her feel good. If she reacts, like shivering or sighing, then slowly make it more intense.
By being patient and noticing her reactions, you'll make your intimate moments better.
Want to be a pleasure maestro? Start by paying attention to how your partner reacts. Ask her what’s pleasurable and what’s not. Every touch can be incredible!
So, notice how her nipples harden or relax under your touch. Vary your touches and kisses to make her happy.Hey, don't worry if she's not into nipple play. Some men don't like it either. It's alright to be different.
Offer to test out something different, or simply ask her what she likes. There's a whole body of erogenous zones out there waiting to be found. Keep communicating and honest, and you'll both find new roads to pleasure.Consider using nipple clamps or suckers. These tiny gadgets clamp in a pleasing way, making her feel waves of pleasure. Start slow, let her become familiar with the sensation, and always stay attuned to her comfort level.
Now, consider vibrators. These buzz-worthy friends can make her nipples sing. A soft buzz or a strong pulse—find out what rhythm sets the right tone for her.
And for a feather-light touch, literally, feather ticklers can be a delightful way to tease and please. It's about mixing different sensations for an exciting effect.
But before you get the toys, let your partner know first. Check if she's okay with using nipple toys. If you get her enthusiastic 'yes,' then you're good to go. So mix in some new toys; it's all fun.In recent years, pin wheels have found a new fan base within the BDSM community. Their ability to induce various sensations without much effort has made them a go-to for anyone wanting to add more excitement to their sensory experiences.
"Hurt" is such a subjective term, isn't it? With a pin wheel, the sensation can dance across your skin like a feather or a bite from a vengeful ant. The wrist movement, pressure, and speed determine if you feel a light tickle or a sharp sting.
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Clean your toys before and after every single use.
Store each toy separately in a ziploc bag or cotton pouch.
While most people imagine a cam girl using an ejaculating dildo in a private show, this toy has other purposes as well. Ejaculating dildos are often used for conception as well. The difference is, of course, that instead of using fake, the couple will use the real cum. There are several reasons why this might be the best option for conception.
Doing anything for the first time can be a little intimidating, and vibrators are no exception! To someone who has never used one before, the very idea of putting such an unusual looking object near your most personal body parts can make you a little queasy. Feelings like this will pass over time as you get used to using them, but for beginners it can be useful to know what to expect and how to get started.
]]>Doing anything for the first time can be a little intimidating, and vibrators are no exception! To someone who has never used one before, the very idea of putting such an unusual looking object near your most personal body parts can make you a little queasy. Feelings like this will pass over time as you get used to using them, but for beginners it can be useful to know what to expect and how to get started.
When you get your hands on your vibrator, you might want to get straight down to the action. I can’t blame you. You’ve been promised a whole world of sexual pleasure and you want to experience it as soon as possible. There’s a couple of things you need to take care of before you start though.
After you’ve unboxed your vibrator, have a read through any instructions that come with it to make sure you are aware of any special instructions on operation or cleaning. You might want to keep the box, so you have a good place to store the vibrator. If not, keep any instructions in a safe place in case you need them again later.
Give the vibrator a thorough check over, looking for any signs of damage or flaws in the surface of the material. In particular, the seams are important to check. There may be small bits of silicone or plastic leftover from the manufacturing process. If you find any, these can be filed down with a nail file. If there are any parts which look damaged or unlike they should, do not use the vibrator.
As long as everything looks the way it should, you then need to give the vibrator a quick wash. You might wonder why you need to wash something you’ve never used. During the manufacturing process many chemicals can be used to make sure that the materials are strong, durable, or flexible. While these chemicals will be washed off most of the time at the end of the manufacturing process, there can be some leftover and you don’t want to be putting these into your bodies.
With everything clean and safe for use, you should check the power supplies. If your vibrator plugs into a wall socket, try it out and make sure the wire is long enough to reach your chosen location of play. If it is rechargeable, plug it in so it is topped up. If your vibrator takes batteries, make sure you’ve bought the right type and throw a fresh pair in. There’s nothing worse than running out of juice just as you start to get into it.
Depending on the vibrator you’ve chosen, and how you want to use it, this part can be very simple or take a little more effort. Some vibrators might be better used with a lubricant, and in some cases, you might want to use a condom as well. While a condom will change the feeling of the vibrator, it will make cleaning up afterwards easier, so it’s up to you. If you suffer from any kind of STIs or genital infections, then it is always recommended to use a condom with your sex toys to stop them becoming contaminated with these infections. If you use your vibrator unprotected and then your infection clears up, it’s entirely possible for you to contract the same infection again from your vibrator.
Lubricant is another consideration you need to make. Even if you aren’t planning to fully insert the vibrator, but just use it on the clitoris, penis, or other external body parts, lube can still help. In prolonged sessions, the continuous vibration on the skin can become uncomfortable without lubricant to stop the skin drying out. If you plan to use a vibrator in the anus, it is always recommended to use lube, as the anus and rectum are not self-lubricating. Going into the anus dry is almost certainly going to be a painful experience.
Now for the fun part. Getting down to business with your new vibrator. Regardless of which type of vibrator you’ve chosen to buy, there are a few simple tips for getting the most out of it.
Spending some time with your vibrator before you use it on the more sensitive parts of the body is always a good idea. One of the biggest mood killers will be getting close to orgasm and wanting a different speed or vibration pattern, and not being able to find the buttons or pick the right setting. Take a little time to get to know your device. Try it out on different parts of the body to see what the patterns or programs feel like. Learn where the buttons are, and practise using them without looking. Once you feel comfortable, start to more onto the more erogenous zones of the body.
The very first time, most women will orgasm very quickly so you shouldn’t need to do anything too fancy except hold it in position. Men will have a different experience as penile orgasms will rarely happen solely from vibrations, and a prostate orgasm is much harder to achieve. Whichever sex you are, if you’re struggling to reach orgasm a few things can help.
Making sure you’re in the mood before you start is always a good idea. How far you want to take this is entirely up to you. Some people like to go all out, lighting candles, lowering the lights, and setting the mood with appropriate music. If you aren’t quite willing to go to all that trouble, you can still get yourself aroused before you get down to business. Try using your vibrator on the nipples, insides of the thighs, or areas surrounding the genitals. With enough stimulation, your body will be practically begging for you to bring the vibrator to those sweet spots.
The very first time a vibrator hits a sensitive spot like the clitoris or prostate it can be a little overwhelming. Most of the time it’s recommended to start off with your fingers and gently massage your chosen area. This prepares it for the initial vibrator contact. You should usually start off with the lowest setting your device has too. Over time you’ll become more used to using it, and be able to jump in a little faster.
Although the very first session is likely to be over quite quickly, as you become used to your vibrator it can be a great tool to help explore your own body. Using it alone gives you the time to try out anything you might be able to think of, and the constant stimulation provided by the vibration makes it more effective than fingers or mouths at working out whether a particular spot is good or not. Once you’ve found these spots you can let your partner know exactly what you like, or you can even let them explore with your vibrator for some hands-free enjoyment.
A common fear among vibrator novices is becoming addicted to it. While there can be some truth to this, you shouldn’t worry too much. Enjoying a vibrator isn’t going to make you enjoy sex any less, as it is an entirely different sensation. You might enjoy your vibrator a lot, and there’s nothing wrong with that. There’s no scientific evidence that you can become addicted to these feelings, although just like with other types of masturbation, there is such a thing as too much. It’s important to use your vibrator as part of a healthy sex life, and not as a replacement for another partner.
You’re probably keen to try out a million ideas with your vibrators. There are a few rules though. If you want to avoid any nasty surprises, follow these few simple tips.
Never move from anal stimulation to oral or vaginal. If you have used your vibrator anally, you will need to clean it before using it on other areas of the body. The bacteria from the anus and rectum can be harmful to other areas of the body, and will cause infections if carried over by a vibrator.
Try to avoid sharing your vibrators. While it isn’t expressly prohibited, it is usually better to have separate vibrators for separate people. Most of the time these devices will be around (or inside) openings in the human body. We all have healthy bacteria inside us which help our bodies to function properly. What is good for one person though, isn’t always good for another. Carrying bacteria from one body to another can be dangerous, so if you must share sex toys ensure they are properly cleaned between users.
After use, remove the power supply. Whether it is powered by a plug or batteries, removing the power supply is always a good idea. Leaving a vibrator plugged in while not in use will still be conducting electricity, and over time can weaken your vibrator. Similarly, batteries still conduct charge while not turned on, so they will drain faster if left in permanently. Another consideration is that batteries can corrode the insides of devices if left in for a long time, so to avoid damage to your toys you should remove them between uses.
A final consideration relates to cleaning, and is a simple one. If your device is not waterproof, you should never submerge it fully in water. Doing so is a sure-fire way to damage the internal workings of your vibrator and probably break it.
When you’re finished with your vibrator, it’s important to clean and dry it thoroughly. Depending on your vibrator you may be able to submerge it in boiling water to sterilize it, or will need to clean it down with soap and water. After cleaning, you should dry them to make sure mould cannot form on the vibrator, and store them properly to prevent cross contamination or degradation of the surfaces.
And that’s about it! Vibrators are one of the simplest and easiest to use sex toys available, and there really isn’t a great deal to worry about. Plus, it works great with other toys, too! If you want to explore other sensations of your body, try our vibrating dildo collection. You may start with a beginner dildo and slowly discover more exciting types, like a squirting dildo for an ultra-immersive experience. Choose between silicone dildos and small glass dildos to enhance your bedroom play.
Remember, you can always explore different sizes to suit your comfort level—start small with a thin dildo or a 4 inch dildo. You'll be pleasantly surprised by how much you discover new sensations within your body by combining different sex toys.
But that's a story for another time. Hopefully though, any fears or questions you might have had will be put to rest, and you’ll be rearing to go try out your new vibrator!
This is a question which we find ourselves being asked quite frequently - but also, unfortunately, it is one which is often quite difficult to answer. Why is that, exactly? you might ask.
This is a question which we find ourselves being asked quite frequently - but also, unfortunately, it is one which is often quite difficult to answer. Why is that, exactly? you might ask.
Well, the truth is, every single person's body is different, which means that our experiences when using a dildo, our description of what being penetrated by one feels like, might not match up with yours or anyone else's. Especially when using a textured dildo, even the world's most expensive dildos won't provide the same level of pleasure as no two individuals will have the same experience.
However, we are fully committed to sharing as much of our dildo knowledge as possible with our amazing customers, so we have written this article in the hopes to at least convey a general sense of some of the things you might expect to feel while using a dildo.
In order to write this article, we had several Lovegasm staff members - including individuals of all sexes, sexualities and gender identities - answer a series of questions to help them describe in as much detail as possible what a dildo feels like to them.
And there are plenty of dildos that cater to the different needs and preferences of individuals. Size and shape matter greatly, and some of our staffers prefer subtle stimulations and less girth with the 1 inch dildo, 2 inch dildo or 4 inch dildo. One of ours even likes the corn dildo, designed for some serious sensations. Some others still look for more unique experiences and find animal dildos to be stimulating.
Toys with additional features such as the squirting dildo are a favorite, too, for their ability to provide a more realistic sexual experience by simulating ejaculation. If you think you have heard it all, a dildo that squirts is just at the tip of the iceberg when it comes to the different types of dildos.
However, keep in mind that the information presented in this article is the opinions of various people, and may not necessarily be objective fact.
Your own dildo experience might be completely different. In addition, none of the Lovegasm staff members consulted for this article are doctors or medical professionals, so none of this should be taken as medically accurate advice.
In general, you may not notice any major differences between being penetrated vaginally with a penis and being penetrated vaginally with a dildo.
The two items are both roughly the same shape and, unless you are using an extra-large dildo, will often be quite similar in size - both length and girth - as well.
In addition, some materials, such as silicone, elastomer / "jelly", Cyber Skin, are often designed to resemble human flesh as closely as possible, taking into account factors such as elasticity, texture and temperature.
However, our female-identifying staff members did list a couple of key differences between a dick and a dildo:
The dildo will be harder and more rigid, even when made from a flesh-like material such as silicone, especially for a textured dildo. First-time dildo users might find this unaccustomed hardness to be a little painful.
It is for this reason that we recommend always using lots of lube when penetrating yourself with a dildo.
You will have to control the dildo. Of course, if you are using it together with your partner, they can get their hands involved and take over control for a little bit.
(Alternately, you can attach the dildo to a harness and enjoy a "hands-free" penetration session with the aid of your brand new strap-on) But, if you are using a dildo to masturbate, you will have to control its movements entirely.
Unlike a penis, a dildo is not connected to a brain, and cannot do things such as speed up, slow down, or search out your G-spot on its own.
Some dildos feature add-ons which will feel quite different from a penis. It may take your body some time to get used to these larger differences. For example, some textured dildos include ridges or ribbing, or shaped like an animal's penis. Others are curved in order to locate your most sensitive spots more easily.
Still others will have external bits - often called "rabbit ears" which can stroke your clitoris while you are thrusting into yourself. In general, every dildo is different - so don't feel ashamed if you need some time to get used to each new one.
If you're not sure that you love the texture of a brand new dildo, you can always wrap it in a condom to change things up.
One last important thing to keep in mind is this: you don't have to choose. Penetration with a dildo and penetration with a penis are two different experiences, even though they might share a lot of similarities.
It's okay to sometimes want your partner's throbbing hot cock deep inside you and other times to prefer the company of your dildo. After all, variety is the spice of life - and that applies to your erotic life, as well!
Ultimately, the great thing about dildos is that you have freedom to choose which size you like. Of course, they are not a replacement for a real penis, but why limit to the usual when you can explore more? If you want a fuller sensation, try a large dildo or an extra super thick dildo for a pleasurable stretch. For beginners, start your journey with a extra small dildo or the softest dildo you can find. Want a firmer stimulation? Choose the glass wand or the vaginal wand and you may even mix your sessions with temperature play.
One thing which we immediately noticed when trying to collect data about anal penetration was that a number of our male-identifying staffers had had a dildo up their ass before, but very few of them had also experienced the same thing with a penis.
So, there were less people available who had enough information to compare the two situations. And that's totally okay!
Many men of all sexual orientations enjoy being pegged with a dildo, but wouldn't be comfortable having a cock up their ass. (And, of course, there are also many men out there who are the opposite, and would prefer to keep things flesh and blood exclusive.)
There are also female pegging fans who start out with a toy up their ass after not having experienced anything entering that particular hole other than their own fingers.
If you are a person who's interested in pegging but don't have much experience with anal penetration, here is our valiant attempt to describe that unique, quite particular and downright amazing feeling.
You will probably experience stretching.
The anal sphincter muscle is extremely strong, leading to the asshole often being described as "tighter" when compared to the vagina. Even the narrower anal-focused dildos will probably give you somewhat of a stretching sensation throughout.
Use a lot of lube, otherwise you might feel an uncomfortable "stinging" or "tingling"
The anus does not naturally produce any lubrication of its own, so applying a lubricant will always be a necessity, no matter how many times you play around with your favorite dildo.
Your anus's natural instinct may be to "pull" or "tug" at the dildo.
This is normal, and it is also the reason why we tend to recommend choosing a dildo with a larger or flared base for anal penetration. Even if your sphincter is properly relaxed (which you can do by stretching it with you or your partner's fingers before getting started with penetration) it will be tempted to clench and grip, especially as you get closer to orgasm.
Don't worry! It's completely natural - and it's happened to all of us!
Longer dildos with a slightly curved shape will generally produce a more pleasurable sensation, especially for males.
The anus is often deeper than the vagina, and the male prostate is almost always buried further inside than the vaginal G-spot
In addition, the ass cheeks can sometimes get in the way, especially if you are masturbating with a dildo and don't have a partner present to helpfully spread them for you.
Aside from that, all of the differences discussed in the vaginal penetration section above still hold true when it comes to anal activity.
Dildos will be firmer, will stay hard throughout the entire experience, and must be controlled by you or your partner's hands (unless you are using a strap-on).
If you are new to anal masturbation with a dildo, we recommend choosing a position which makes it as easy as possible to keep a firm grip on the dildo throughout the experience.
Lying on your back on a soft, comfy surface with some pillows under your bottom is a classic option that always works!
One last thing that may come as a surprise to novices experiencing their first anal penetration is that there is a strong chance that achieving orgasm might feel a little bit different.
This is something which was described by almost all of our staff members who had ever been penetrated anally, whether with a dildo, a butt plug, a set of anal beads, or even another person's equipment.
Don't worry, though - it may feel different, but it's definitely not a bad sort of different. Just something new and unique which might surprise you a little bit the first couple of times you go through it.
We've taken the data collected from various Lovegasm staff members and used it to compile our best possible approximation of what an anal orgasm might feel like:
Rather than just staying centered in your genitals, your entire body will feel it. You'll shiver a bit and your legs, arms, even fingers and toes might shake
Physical reactions, such as curling your toes or bucking your hips, might be more extreme and pronounced than you are usually used to.
The orgasm itself will last longer - a full minute or perhaps even longer is totally normal when it comes to anal climaxes. Even if you're usually someone with a short refractory period, you will likely find yourself feeling jelly-legged and awash in pleasurable tingles for several minutes afterwards - we don't recommend immediately getting up and trying to move around.
The post-orgasm high is absolutely intense. Let yourself enjoy it!
You might experience a second, smaller - but still pleasurable - orgasm when the toy is removed from your ass, especially if it is pulled out quickly or at a time when you are not expecting it.
For men, your ejaculate itself might come out slightly differently than you are used to.
This will vary more widely from person to person. You might produce more, you might produce less, and you might not release any fluid at all the first few times - though you will still get all the pleasurable feelings and other physical reactions which come along with orgasm.
Whatever happens, just remember - it is normal, and your orgasms will likely "normalize" a bit after you've experienced a few anal play sessions and your body has gotten used to the new kind of stimulation.
In conclusion, although using a dildo might feel a little different from other forms of penetration you may have experienced, especially the first few times, overall it still feels erotic, orgasmic and downright amazing. And it's not always about the dildo—it's up to you how to get most out of the experience. Sprinkle a dash of kinkiness here and there and experiment with bondage play. Restrict yourself with wrist cuffs and bdsm thigh cuffs, have an open mouth gag for a challenge, and you might just discover new ways to spice up your sex life.
If your own experience with anal penetration or anal orgasms isn't represented here, feel free to drop us a line - we're always happy to hear sexy stories from our satisfied customers!
If you're looking for ways to make your dildo play sessions feel even better than before, try checking out our guides on "how to make yourself squirt while using a dildo" And, of course, our catalog is always chock-full of sexy, exciting dildos to add to your ever-growing collection!
Everyone knows men are capable of ejaculating during orgasm. It’s less commonly discussed that women have the same abilities. While a woman’s ejaculate isn’t intended for reproduction, it’s a side effect which can be quite explosive, and at times unexpected for a woman. Female ejaculation is commonly referred to as squirting.
]]>Everyone knows men are capable of ejaculating during orgasm. It’s less commonly discussed that women have the same abilities. While a woman’s ejaculate isn’t intended for reproduction, it’s a side effect which can be quite explosive, and at times unexpected for a woman. Female ejaculation is commonly referred to as squirting.
Squirting is the expulsion of fluid from the female body at the height of orgasm. For a lot of women, this phenomenon can be unusual, and sometimes looked at negatively. In appearance, it can seem a lot like the woman is urinating, so many try to suppress these urges out of fear of ridicule or disgust. For some men though, squirting can actually be a huge turn on. Knowing that you are pleasing your woman so well that a completely uncontrollable reaction is happening can be the ultimate pat on the back.
Many women will have never given squirting a second thought. Some go their whole lives without experiencing it, and don’t want to. For some women though, this will be a natural part of sex, and happens every single time they orgasm. This can give the impression that only some women are capable of squirting, but this is far from the truth.
When a women squirts, the fluid is expelled through the paraurethral ducts near the entrance of the vagina. This fluid doesn’t come from the bladder, but instead from a gland named the Skene’s gland. It’s a very similar gland to the prostate in a male, and the fluid it produces is also very similar. All women have these physical parts in their body, it’s just a matter of stimulating them the right way for this process to activate.
A common question when it comes to squirting is why you’d even want to bother. After all, if you can have perfectly good sex without fluid getting everywhere then why would you want all of the extra mess? Well there’s the simple matter of seeing if you can. Or the extra arousal some men get from being able to make it happen. For most women though, a squirting orgasm will be one of the most intense you could possibly have, and this is plenty of reason to actually go the whole way.
Squirting orgasms are often thought of as the same thing as a G-spot orgasm. Both are very powerful, and while there is some truth to this, it’s possible to have a G-spot orgasm without squirting. Most of the time a woman is able to squirt, it is due to G-spot stimulation, so the two practises do get lumped together a lot of the time.
Unlike a G-spot orgasm though, a squirting orgasm isn’t just intense. A squirting orgasm is a complete build-up of sexual feelings, all released in one powerful, vigorous orgasm strong enough to actually expel fluid from your body. If you’ve never seen a video of a woman squirt, take a look for yourself. These releases can be extremely powerful. It usually takes quite a bit more effort, will make a lot more mess, and leave you feeling very drained afterwards, but almost anyone who has experienced one will tell you that it’s well worth the effort.
If you’ve decided you want to learn how to squirt then there’s a few things you should do before you get started. Your vibrator is the perfect tool to help you get there, as the continual stimulation it provides is perfect to push you over the edge. It might not even happen the first time, but these are a few things that can make you feel a little bit more comfortable. Squirting is all about fully relaxing after all.
To start with, you’ll probably want to go to the bathroom before you begin. During the process, you’re almost certainly going to feel like you need to wee. This is totally normal, but our bodies natural reaction is to tense up and stop this from happening. We need the opposite to happen, so being sure you have an empty bladder means you won’t be filled with worries about what is actually about to come out of your body.
You’ll also want to put some towels down. With female ejaculation, there’s no telling how much you’re going to get. It could be a few drops, or it could be a few cups. Unless you don’t mind spending some time shampooing your carpet and mattress once you’re done, having a towel down can really speed up cleaning at the end.
Finally, you’re going to want to get yourself in the mood. You can do this however you normally would. Candles, music, massage oils, or just teasing the various erogenous zones with your vibrator are all great places to start. The more aroused you are, the more your G-spot will swell, and as it seems so intricately linked to female squirting, waking up the G-spot makes the whole process a lot easier.
Now you’re free to get down to it whichever way you prefer. The aim is to simply bring yourself to orgasm. Once you reach it, rather than tensing up you need to relax your entire body, and let everything push out of you. For some women it can help to push downwards with the pelvic floor muscles, much like you would when using the bathroom, to encourage the squirting to begin.
If you manage to finish and no squirting has happened, there’s a couple of things you can try. One is to give the G-spot some love, just as you begin to approach orgasm. G-spot stimulation is the key for a lot of women to first experience squirting. Another consideration, is that as things reach orgasm, a lot of the female genitals become incredibly sensitive. Many women at this point will reduce the stimulation, as it begins to feel too much for them to handle. We want to do the opposite, and push through this sensitivity to bring you to a whole new height of orgasm.
Other toys like dildos can help as well. If it's your first time, you may try a beginner dildo or a skinny dildo (some can go as skinny as a 1 inch diameter dildo, so choose your comfort levels carefully), but other types—like tentacle dildos—are made in a unique shape and with a special focus on G-spot stimulation. A wide dildo offers a fuller sensation, but you may only get off depending on the hardness of the material, so a large glass dildo would be perfect for you if you want a firmer stimulation. If it's softness and pliability you prefer, choose a silicone dildo. And for a more unique kind of release, enhance your squirting sessions with the squirting dildo.
It's important to remember that everyone's different. Some can reach orgasm, and even squirt using just a finger, while others might need a little assistance. Whatever toys you are using, you might need to practice a bit to reach the squirting phase, but don’t be disheartened. We all have the same parts in our body, so it’s definitely possible for any woman. You won’t regret your hard work, as most squirting orgasms will leave you weak kneed, wobbly legged, and light headed. Once you’ve done it once, you’ll wonder why it took you so long to try it in the first place.