Tips for Choosing Your First Butt Plug

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If you’re new to butt plugs, it is easy to feel a little overwhelmed when researching them, mainly because there is such a large selection of them now available.

Butt plugs can be long or short, small or large, firm or flexible, glass or silicone, and they can come in a variety of interesting colors and designs.

This doesn’t mean that it is going to take you a long time to choose the one that is best for you; it simply means that once you purchase your butt plug, you can be sure that you own the one that is just right for your needs.

Is it Safe for Anal Play?

One of the first things that you’ll learn when you’re interested in any type of anal sexual play is that it is a must to use toys specifically made for this purpose. In other words, you should never use a regular sex toy in the anus because all sorts of problems can develop.

Fortunately, toys such as butt plugs are made just for this purpose so once you purchase one of these toys, you can rest assured that your playtime will be both comfortable and safe every time.

Butt plugs are safe, thanks to the way they are made, because all of them come with a flared base or a stopper at the end, which prevents the toy from getting dislodged or lost in the anus.

Let’s face it; no one wants to go to the emergency room because there is something stuck in his or her bottom and you can save yourself this trouble simply by buying sex toys for anal play that are specifically made to go into the anus.

Soft or Firm?

Butt plugs are made out of various materials. The hardest material is a metal such as nickel-free stainless steel, which of course doesn’t bend or flex any.

One of the softest materials is a jelly-type material, although these are becoming more and more rare because they are often porous and difficult to clean.

If you’re trying to decide which of these is appropriate for you, it usually depends on your level of experience.

If you’re new to butt plugs, a softer one might be a little easier to get used to but keep in mind that no type of butt plug is so soft that it is difficult to insert.

Indeed, all butt plugs have to be firm to a certain degree; otherwise, they would never be able to be inserted successfully.

That being said, the softer ones such as the ones made out of silicone are sometimes easier for beginners because they have the right combination of firmness and flexibility to be both accommodating and comfortable.

This doesn’t mean, however, that you won’t need to use lube once you get used to using a butt plug. On the contrary, a lot of lube has to be used every time that you participate in any type of anal play because the anus doesn’t self-lubricate the way that the vagina does.

Use a lot of lube every time and if you start to feel dry or irritated at any time, add some more during your playtime as often as you need to in order to be comfortable and pain-free.

If you’re a beginner, the softer butt plugs can be easier to get used to but many people never purchase the harder metal ones because they simply don’t like them.

On the other hand, the metal ones are incredibly smooth so many beginners find that those are the ones they prefer when just getting started.

In other words, there are pros and cons of using all types of butt plugs and because they tend to be inexpensive, it is easy for you to switch to another type if the first one doesn’t work out for you.

Where and for How Long Do You Plan on Wearing Your Butt Plug?

Different experts will recommend different timeframes for wearing your butt plug but the main thing to remember is to start out slowly and wear your butt plug only a short period of time in the beginning, building up the time little by little.

As a general rule, once you get used to wearing your butt plug, you should only wear it two to three hours at a time so that it doesn’t get uncomfortable over time. This is what is usually recommended by the experts.

Of course, many people choose to wear their butt plugs overnight once they get used to them and there is nothing wrong with that.

Although wearing your butt plug overnight isn’t recommended for beginners, you can do so once you get used to the plug; while you’re asleep, your muscles are more relaxed and are therefore better able to accommodate the butt plug.

Sometimes people do wake up to find that their butt plugs have slipped out of their anuses but this happens sometimes once the lube gets absorbed.

So, to recap, start wearing your butt plug for very short periods of time until you build up to two to three hours at a time during the day.

Overnight wearing of the butt plug is acceptable once you get used to the plug and wearing the plug is a great way to add a little bit of sexual stimulation to your life and also to expand your anal muscles in order to prepare for anal sex.

Regardless of why you are wearing a butt plug, doing so slowly and never wearing it for too long are the keys to success.

Which Size Butt Plug Should You Get?

Butt plugs come in a lot of different sizes and this means not only lengths, but the thickness can also vary from one plug to another. Butt plugs are tapered so that you can get used to it a little at a time but you still may want to start out with a plug that is not very large.

Getting used to the smaller ones first and then moving up to bigger ones is a great way to stretch out the anal muscles slowly over time, which makes the process less painful for you.

Since you’re going to start slowly and insert the butt plug only as far as is comfortable, it really doesn’t matter what size you purchase; however, the smaller ones are simply less intimidating for everyone but especially for newbies, which means that starting with these is smarter for many reasons.

Many sex toy companies make sets of two or three butt plugs with of them a different size, making it easier to get used to various sizes of plugs one at a time.

The interesting thing about butt plugs is that they are made very small and very large as well as all different sizes in between so you can always find the right size for your needs.

Starting out thinner and smaller is recommended but once you get used to butt plugs, you can move up to ones that are even kinkier and more oddly shaped so that you can increase the amount of sexual stimulation that you enjoy.

Which Material Is Best for You?

Just as with other sex toys, butt plugs can be made out of many different types of materials but the most common materials are silicone, stainless steel, glass, and rubber or jelly. Here is some information on each of these types:

  • Silicone: Pros include that they keep their shape easily, they are easy to clean, they are inexpensive, and they are great for beginners. Cons include that they are not as smooth as other types of butt plugs and that only water-based lube can be used on them.
  • Stainless steel: Pros include that they are extremely smooth, durable, and very attractive and you can heat or freeze them in order to get some extra sensation and stimulation. Cons include the firmness and inflexibility, which isn’t something that everybody loves.
  • Glass: Pros include that they are a great option for beginners because of their smoothness, they are very easy to clean, and they come in a variety of colors and designs. Cons include the fact that they can break or shatter, although this is rare.
  • Rubber or jelly: Pros include the price because they are some of the cheapest toys on the market and the perfect amount of softness. Cons include that they are easy to break, tear, bend, or even melt.

You also need to take certain things into consideration when shopping for your first or your next butt plug. For instance, ask yourself the following questions:

  • How easy is it to clean?
  • How long will it maintain its shape?
  • How does it feel both when you hold it and once it’s inserted?
  • Is it safe to use?
  • How much does it cost?

Most people have a budget for their sex toys and butt plugs are no different.

Once you research all of these different aspects, it becomes easier to choose the right butt plug in the end but it is also good to keep in mind that the cheapest butt plugs are not always of the poorest quality and the most expensive aren’t necessarily the best ones.

Do your due diligence so that you can make the best choice in the end and you’ll never regret your decision.


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